Mukati
Vatungamiriri vakuru vanokurudzira vashandi uye vanowana mamwe matarenda mavari, nepo vatungamiriri vane chepfu vachinyima vanhu kukurudzira, simba remuviri uye njere. Psychotherapist Amy Morin anotaura nezve njodzi dzevakuru vakadai kune vese vashandi vega uye nekambani yese.
Vazhinji vevatengi vangu vanonyunyuta, “Mukuru wangu mudzvinyiriri. Ndinofanira kutsvaga basa idzva” kana kuti “Ndaida basa rangu zvakanyanya, asi nehutungamiriri hutsva, hofisi yakangove isingatsungiririki. Handizivi kuti ndingatora nguva yakareba sei." Uye zviripo. Kushandira sahwira ane chepfu kunokanganisa zvakanyanya kunaka kwehupenyu.
Mabhosi ane chepfu anobva kupi?
Vatungamiriri vakaipa havasi nguva dzose vane chepfu. Vamwe havana hunhu hwehutungamiriri: hunyanzvi hwekuronga uye hunyanzvi hwekutaurirana. Vatungamiriri vane chepfu vanokuvadza vamwe kwete nekuda kwekusaziva, asi nekuda kwe "rudo rwehunyanzvi." Mumaoko avo, kutya uye kutyisidzira ndizvo zvishandiso zvikuru zvekutonga. Ivo havashore kunyadziswa uye kutyisidzira kuti vazadzise zvinangwa zvavo.
Vatungamiri vakadaro vanowanzova nehunhu hwe psychopath uye narcissist. Havazivi chinonzi tsitsi uye kushandisa simba ravo zvisina kunaka.
Kukuvadza kwavanogona kukonzera
Vatsvagiri kubva kuYunivhesiti yeManchester Bhizinesi Chikoro vakawana kuti mabhosi ane muchetura anokanganisa sei vari pasi. Vakabvunzurudza vashandi 1200 mumaindasitiri akasiyana-siyana kubva kunyika dzinoverengeka. Vashandi vanoshanda vari pasi pevatungamiriri ava vakashuma kusangana nemazinga akaderera ekugutsikana nebasa.
Vatsvakurudzi vakawanawo kuti kurwadziwa kwevashandi kunowanikwa kubasa kwakawedzera muhupenyu hwavo pachavo. Vashandi vaifanira kutsungirira narcissistic uye psychopathic mabhosi vaiwanzosangana nekliniki yekuora mwoyo.
Vatungamiri vane chepfu vanokuvadza tsika dzekambani
Maitiro avo anopararira: anopararira pakati pevashandi semoto musango. Vashandi vanowanzoshora mumwe nomumwe uye kutora mbiri kune vamwe uye vanonyanya kuita zvehasha.
Chidzidzo che2016 University of Michigan chakawana mhedzisiro yakafanana. Zvinhu zvikuru zvemaitiro evakuru vakadaro: hutsinye, kunyomba uye kunyadziswa kwevari pasi kunotungamirira kuneta mupfungwa uye kusada kushanda.
Hukama hwehuchetura hwakashata kwete chete kuhunhu, asiwo kune pundutso yekambani.
Panguva imwecheteyo, nharaunda yakashata yebasa inobatsira kudzikira kwekuzvidzora pakati pevashandiwo zvavo uye kuwedzera kwemukana wehunhu hwavo hwehutsinye kune vavanoshanda navo. Hukama husina hunyanzvi hwekushanda hwakaipa kwete chete kuhunhu, asiwo kune pundutso yekambani. Vatsvakurudzi vakaverenga kuti kurasikirwa kwemari kwekambani kwakabatana nemamiriro ezvinhu anonyadzisa kunosvika madhora gumi nemana pamushandi.
Nzira yekuyera sei kubudirira kwemutungamiri?
Nehurombo, masangano mazhinji anoyera mashandiro emutungamiri zvichienderana nemhedzisiro yemunhu. Dzimwe nguva mabhosi ane chepfu anokwanisa kuzadzisa zvibodzwa zvenguva pfupi, asi hazvitungamiri kune shanduko dzakanaka. Kutyisidzirwa uye kutyisidzira kunogona kumanikidza vashandi kuti vashande maawa gumi nemaviri pasina zuva rekuzorora, asi nzira iyi ine mhedzisiro yenguva pfupi. Maitiro emukuru anokanganisa kurudziro nekubudirira.
Vashandi vari mungozi yakawedzerwa yokuneta nemhaka yokusatarisira zvakanaka, uye dzvinyiriro yenguva dzose munzvimbo yebasa inotungamirira kukuderedza zvibereko nokushayikwa kwokugutsikana.
Paunenge uchiongorora mashandiro emutungamiri, zvakakosha kuti usatarise mhedzisiro yemunhu mumwe nemumwe, asi pamufananidzo wose uye kurangarira kuti mabasa emutungamiri anogona kutungamirira kumigumisiro yakaipa kusangano.