Vabereki vane rudo vanoda kuti vana vavo vave vanhu vanobudirira uye vanozvivimba. Asi sei kukudziridza unhu uhwu mavari? Mutori wenhau akagumburwa nechidzidzo chinofadza uye akasarudza kuzviyedza pamhuri yake amene. Hezvino zvaawana.
Handina kunyanya kukoshesa kurukurirano dzokuti sekuru nasekuru vaisangana kupi uye kuti vakararama sei vachiri vaduku. Kusvika rimwe zuva ndakasangana nekudzidza kubva kuma1990.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa Marshall Duke naRobin Fivush vekuEmory University kuUnited States vakaita ongororo vakaona kuti kana vana vakawanda vachiziva nezvekwavakabva, pfungwa dzavo dzinogadzikana, kunowedzera kuzviremekedza uye kuvimba kwavanoita noupenyu hwavo.
"Nyaya dzehama dzinopa mwana mukana wekunzwa nhoroondo yemhuri, kuumba pfungwa yekubatana nezvimwe zvizvarwa," ndakaverenga muchidzidzo ichi. — Kunyange kana aine makore mapfumbamwe chete, anonzwa akabatana nevaya vakararama makore zana apfuura, vanova rutivi rwounhu hwake. Kuburikidza nekubatana uku, simba repfungwa uye kusimba zvinogadzirwa. "
Zvakanaka, mhedzisiro yakanaka. Ndakasarudza kuedza mibvunzo yemasayendisiti pavana vangu pachangu.
Vakagonana nyore nyore nemubvunzo wokuti “Unoziva kwakakurira vabereki vako here?” Asi vakagumburwa nasekuru. Zvadaro takaenda kumubvunzo "Unoziva here kwakasangana nevabereki vako?". Pano, zvakare, pakanga pasina kurova, uye vhezheni yacho yakave yerudo zvakanyanya: "Wakaona baba vari muchaunga mubhawa, uye rwaive rudo pekutanga kuona."
Asi pamusangano wemadzisekuru zvakamira zvakare. Ndakamuudza kuti vabereki vemurume wangu vakasangana pakutamba muBolton, uye baba vangu naamai vakasangana pamusangano wekubvisa zvombo zvenyukireya.
Gare gare, ndakabvunza Marshall Duke, "Kwakanaka here kana dzimwe dzemhinduro dzakashongedzwa zvishoma?" Hazvina basa, anodaro. Chinhu chikuru ndechekuti vabereki vanogovana nhoroondo yemhuri, uye vana vanogona kutaura chimwe chinhu nezvazvo.
Uyezve: "Unoziva here zvaiitika mumhuri pawakaberekwa iwe (vakoma vako kana hanzvadzi)?" Mukuru wacho akanga ari muduku zvikuru apo mapatya akaoneka, asi akarangarira kuti akabva avatumidza kuti «pink baby» uye «blue baby».
Ndichingotura befu, mibvunzo yakava mikukutu. “Unoziva here kwaishanda vabereki vako vachiri vaduku zvikuru?”
Mwanakomana wedangwe akabva ayeuka kuti baba vakaendesa mapepanhau pabhasikoro, uye mwanasikana wekupedzisira kuti ndaiva weta, asi ndakanga ndisiri zvakanaka pazviri (ndaigara ndichidurura tii uye kuvhiringidza mafuta egoriki nemayonnaise). "Uye pawaishanda mubhawa, wakarwa nemubiki, nekuti pakange pasina kana dhishi kubva pamenyu, uye vashanyi vese vakakunzwa."
Ndakamuudza here? Vanofanira kunyatsoziva here? Hongu, Duke anodaro.
Kunyange nyaya dzisina maturo dzeuduku hwangu dzinovabatsira: naizvozvo vanodzidza kuti hama dzavo dzakakunda sei matambudziko.
“Chokwadi chisingafadzi chinowanzovanzwa kuvana, asi kutaura pamusoro pezviitiko zvakashata kunogona kuva kunokosha zvikuru pakuvaka kuterama kwemirangariro kupfuura zvinovaka,” anodaro Marshall Duke.
Kune marudzi matatu enyaya dzenhoroondo yemhuri:
- Pakusimuka: "Takawana zvese kubva pasina."
- Pakudonha: "Takarasikirwa nezvose."
- Uye sarudzo yakanyanyobudirira ndeye "swing" kubva kune imwe nyika kuenda kune imwe: "Takave nepamusoro uye pasi."
Ndakakura nemhando yekupedzisira yengano, uye ndinoda kufunga kuti vana vacharangarirawo nyaya idzi. Mwanakomana wangu anoziva kuti sekuru vatateguru vake vakava mushandi wepamugodhi pazera ramakore 14, uye mwanasikana wangu anoziva kuti ambuya vasekuru vake akaenda kubasa paakanga achiri kuyaruka.
Ndinonzwisisa kuti iye zvino tiri kurarama muchokwadi chakasiyana zvachose, asi izvi ndizvo zvinotaurwa nomurapi wemhuri Stephen Walters: “Tsika imwe chete haina simba, asi kana ikarukwa kuva chimwe chinhu chikuru, chakabatanidzwa nedzimwe shinda, chinotonyanya kuoma kudambura. ” Aya ndiwo maonero atinoita simba.
Duke anotenda kuti kukurukura mitambo yemhuri kunogona kuve hwaro hwakanaka hwekudyidzana kwevabereki kana zera renyaya dzekurara rapfuura. "Kunyangwe gamba renyaya iyi risisina hupenyu, tinoramba tichidzidza kubva kwaari."
Nezve munyori: Rebecca Hardy mutori wenhau anogara muLondon.