Mukati
"Ndaifarira manipulator"
NdiJulian ane cheka rukuvhute. Akabva agara achizvikudza kuti ndiye akaunza Gwendolyn munyika. Musi uyu akachema semunhu ainzwa tsitsi uye asingakuvadzi. Zvakadaro pashure akaita kuti titye. Mwanasikana wangu ane makore gumi nerimwe nhasi, asi zvakatora a judicial marathon kuti tiwane rusununguko rwedu. Pakutanga kwenhoroondo yedu, Handingati zvese zvaive pink pakati pangu naJulian. Ndakamuwana achishamisa zvapachokwadi apo akazvitora asina kuzvininipisa kupi nokupi nokuda kwomuimbi-muporofita kana kuti kuzvienzanisa amene naBob Dylan, apo iye airidza kashoma uye pasina budiriro huru. Chibage Ndakadanana zvemuimbi uyu anoyemurika zvinoparadza, uye ndakatobhadhara chido chake chemimhanzi kuburikidza nekubhadhara imba yedu nekushanda vaviri, ndikabva ndabata pamuviri. Ndakabva ndachiwana zvakanyanya uye zvakanyanya kushanduka, asi ndakaramba kumutenda zvachose. Ndicharangarira hupenyu hwangu hwese zuva riya apo, ndine pamuviri pemwedzi misere, ndakakandira kepisi yeshinda papfudzi rake sezvaaiteerera rwiyo rwaakanga achangobva kurekodha nemahedhifoni ... Hasha dzake, kutuka kwake, chisimba chake panguva iyoyo, pamusoro pangu, uyo akatizira muimba yedu, ropa rangu richiri chando. Ndakamukandira beanie riya zvekumurwadza zvisingaite! Akakumbira ruregerero! Nekutya, ndakaramba ndiine zvivindi zvekumuudza kuti aipenga uye kuti aifanira kutsvaga kurapwa. Ndingadai ndaita zviri nani kutiza.
Aisagona kumira kuti ndaive nemwanasikana wangu
Mwanasikana wedu paakazvarwa, zvinhu zvakachinja zvakanyanya kuipa. Julian aida kuve chinhu chemwanasikana wake chete chekunakidzwa, uye iye haina kutsigira chisungo chemusikirwo zvakanyanya izvo zvakabatanidza iye neni, izvo zvakaguma nokuputika kwegodo. Kuyamwisa, somuenzaniso, kwakanga kusingatsungiririki kwaari. Zvakaitika bvisa Gwendolyn kwandiri uye muchengete mu studio yake yekurekodha, zvisinei nekuchema kwake kwenzara. Uye sezvo akanga asingagoni kumudyisa iye pachake. akada kumunyima. Aigarawo achindidzinga mubath kuti ndigare nekamwana kadiki. Kupopotedzana kwakawedzera uye kunyanya kurwisana.
Saka ndawana akasarudza kundiparadzanisa kubva kwaari. Mamwe manheru, akandisaidzira, musoro wangu uchirovera kumadziro zvine simba. Ndakamhan'ara chisimba mumba. Julian akaiswa muchitokisi asi nguva yakanga isati yakwana paradza imba yedu uye kuisa ipapo zvimwe zviratidzo zvinotyisa kwandiri uyo aiziva kuti kuchengetwa kwake kwaisazogara kweupenyu hwose. “Uchazvidemba,” yakazivisa kudaro chinyorwa chakanyorwa noruoko. Kuparadzana kwaityisa: kana kugara pasina iye kwaindizorodza, ipai mwanasikana wedu kwaari paakaichengeta akatambudzwa.
Gwendolyn paakanga ava nemakore matatu, ndakamuverengera mumaziso ake aitya kuti yaaidana kuti “Pakaipa baba” akaita, sezvaakandiudza, akamubata. Ndakamhan'ara uye gweta raJulian rakakurumidza kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu, richindipomera PAS (Parental Alienation Syndrome). Ndakatongwa mhosva yekunetsana nemwana wangu nababa vake, kuzvishandisa. Ifashoni yokuti vanababa vokuUnited States, uye vakawanda zvikuru muFrance, vazvidzivirire vamene neiyi nzira apo amai vanoshora chisimba chababa. Iyi bogus syndrome, isingazivikanwe neWHO, ndeye chombo chevakatsauka. Mwanasikana wangu aipopota pese paaidanana nababa vake, aihwanda pasi pemubhedha wake, akaramba kuti ndimupfekedze.
Achishandura mamiriro ezvinhu, achibvumira kunonoka kwedu, Julian akandipomera mhosva yekutyora uropi hwake, uye kuva chipingamupinyi kuhukama hwavo. Akabva asangana naAlicha. Ndaitarisira kuti huvepo hwemukadzi uyu hwaizomubvisa pakufarira mwana wake uyu. Pandaiedza kudzivirira Gwendolyn, ndipo pandaiwedzerawo kuva pangozi yokurasikirwa nekodzero yokuchengeta mwana. Zvinofanira kutaurwa kuti Julian aive nechipo cherudo rwe narcissistic vatsveyama. Iye aigona kutaura amene, achizvitsanangura amene nokudzikama kweOlympian, asingabvumiri chinhu chipi nechipi kuratidza hasha dzakamuratidzira nokukurumidza apo takanga tatarisana.
Ndakanzwa hupenyu hwemwanasikana wangu huri munjodzi
Zvichakadaro, Gwendolyn akange ave kupera simba, ndakavengwa navamwene vatsva ava vaimuona semufananidzo wangu, saka mukwikwidzi kubva kare. Sezvo akamonyaniswa saJulian, Alicha aida tora simba pamusoro pemwanasikana wangu, ndakamugera bvudzi rake ndisina kumbobvunzawo maonero angu, ndokumugezesa achangosvika pamba pavo kuti amubvise mafuta andaifungidzira. Rimwe zuva, ndakakurudzira murevereri kuti Gwendolyn kuva nenharembozha kumusimbisa. Baba vake vakapopota kuti pazera remakore manomwe zvaigona kukuvadza nhengo dzake dzokubereka nadzo! Muyananisi haana chaakawana chekunyunyuta nacho. Mwanasikana wangu aiuya kumba dzimwe nguva akarova, achiri mumisodzi, kupererwa. Zvino rimwe zuva Gwendolyn akandiudza kuti ndiye vakagadzirira kusvetuka nepahwindo kuti arege kudzokera kuna baba vake. Ndakaenda kuFrance naGwendolyn panguva yezororo rechirimo, kwandakaenda naye kunoona chiremba wepfungwa uyo, anyeverwa nezvakataurwa naGwendolyn, akaita nharo. taura kumuchuchisi kubva kuQuimper. Wokupedzisira akatikumbira kuti tigare mundima yeFrance panguva yaiongororwa. Julian akandipomera mhosva yekuba pasi rose pasi peConvention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. Ndakazopedza kubudirira nekuda kwerubatsiro rwegweta rakanaka. Gwendolyn anoponeswa uye Julian haachatityi. Tinogara tese vanofara uye vane rugare, muBrittany kwatinowanzoteerera kuvhuvhuta kunosimbisa kwemafungu. Asi ari kurwa kusina tsitsi that had to be delivered kuti tizonzwa kuchema kwemwana wangu. ”
Hurukuro naJessica Bussaume
Tsvaga uchapupu hwaCaroline Bréhat mu "Baba Vakaipa", ed. Arenas.