Vamwe vakadzi vanokumbira ruregerero kakawanda zvokuti vamwe vanonzwa vasina kugadzikana. Sei vachizviita: neruremekedzo kana kugara vaine mhosva? Zvikonzero zvemuitiro uyu zvakasiyana, asi chero zvakadaro, zvakakosha kuti uzvibvise, anodaro chiremba wepfungwa dzepfungwa Harriet Lerner.
“Hauzivi kuti ndine mumwe wandinoshanda naye! Ndinozvidemba kuti handina kuinyora parekodha, anodaro mwana wehanzvadzi yaAmy. “Anogara achikumbira ruregerero pamusoro pezvisina basa zvisina basa zvachose. Hazvibviri kutaura naye, nokuti kana iwe uchifanira kudzokorora kusingaperi: "Zvakanaka, iwe, zvose zvakarongeka!" Unokanganwa zvawaida kutaura.
Ndinomiririra zvakanaka kwazvo. Ndine shamwari yangu ine tsika uye yakapfava zvekuti ingadai yakatsemuka huma. Nguva pfupi yapfuura, takanga tichienda kukambani duku muresitorendi, uye mufeta paakatora odha, akakwanisa kukumbira ruregerero kana: “O, urombo, wanga uchida kugara pedyo nehwindo here? Ndine urombo ndakukanganisai. Ndapota pfuurira. Ndatora menyu yako here? Saka handina kugadzikana, ndine urombo. Pamusoroi, pane zvamanga muchida kuhodha here?"
Tinofamba munzira nhete uye zviuno zvedu zvinogara zvichibonderana, uye iye zvakare — «ndine urombo, ndine urombo,» kunyangwe ini ndichinyanya kusunda nekuti ini handina kugadzikana. Ndine chokwadi kana rimwe zuva ndikamuwisira pasi, anosimuka oti, "Ndine urombo, mudiwa!"
Ndinobvuma kuti izvi zvinonditsamwisa, sezvo ndakakurira muBrooklyn ine vanhu vakawanda, uye akakurira kuPrim South, uko vanodavira kuti mukadzi wechokwadi anofanira kugara achisiya hafu yezvokudya mundiro yake. Kukumbira ruregerero kumwe nokumwe kunonzwika kuva noruremekedzo zvokuti unofunga kuti akapedza chikoro chetsika dzakanatswa. Zvichida mumwe munhu anofadzwa neruremekedzo rwakanatswa, asi, mukuona kwangu, izvi zvakanyanyisa.
Zvakaoma kuziva zvaunoda kana chikumbiro chese chinouya nemafashama ekukumbira ruregerero.
Tsika yekukumbira ruregerero inobva kupi? Vakadzi vechizvarwa changu vanowanzonzwa vaine mhosva kana vakangoerekana vasina kufadza mumwe munhu. Isu takagadzirira kupindura kune zvese zviri munyika, kunyangwe kune yakaipa mamiriro ekunze. Sokutaura kwakaita mutambi Amy Poehler, “Zvinotora makore kuti mukadzi adzidze kunzwa ane mhaka.”
Ndave ndichibatanidzwa munyaya yekukumbira ruregerero kwemakore anopfuura gumi, uye ndichapikisa kuti pane zvikonzero chaizvo zvekunyanya kunaka. Inogona kunge iri ratidziro yekuzvitarisira pasi, pfungwa yekuwedzeredza yebasa, chishuwo chekusaziva chekudzivisa kutsoropodzwa kana kushorwa - kazhinji pasina chikonzero. Dzimwe nguva ichi chido chekufadza uye kufadza, kunyadziswa kwepakutanga kana kuedza kusimbisa tsika dzakanaka.
Nekune rumwe rutivi, kusingaperi "hurombo" kunogona kungoita reflex - iyo inonzi verbal tic, iyo yakatanga mumusikana anonyara uye zvishoma nezvishoma yakatanga kuva "hiccups" isingaite.
Kuti ugadzirise chimwe chinhu, haufanirwe kufunga kuti nei chaputsika. Kana uri kukumbira ruregerero nhanho dzose dzenzira, dzikama. Kana wakanganwa kudzorera bhokisi rekudya kweshamwari yako, zvakanaka, usamukumbire ruregerero sekumhanyira katsi yake. Kunyanya kunaka kunodzinga uye kunovhiringa kutaurirana kwakajairika. Nokukurumidza kana kuti gare gare, anotanga kutsamwisa vanhu vaanoziva, uye kazhinji zvakaoma kunzwisisa zvaunoda kana chikumbiro chega chega chichiperekedzwa nerukova rwekukumbira ruregerero.
Chokwadi, munhu anofanira kukwanisa kukumbira ruregerero zvichibva pamwoyo. Asi kana ruremekedzo rwasvika pakuva kunyanyisa, kunoratidzika kuva kunosiririsa kuvose vari vaviri vakadzi nevarume.
Munyori - Harriet Lerner, chiremba wepfungwa, chiremba wepfungwa, nyanzvi mune zvepfungwa dzevakadzi uye hukama hwemhuri, munyori wemabhuku "Dance of Anger", "Zvakaoma. Nzira Yekuchengetedza Hukama Kana Watsamwa, Wakagumbuka, kana Kuti Wapererwa» uye vamwe.