Mukati
Kushanda nenyanzvi yepfungwa hakusi kwemunhu wese. Inguva yekubhuka nguva yekusangana kana kuti tomirira here? Tichabata neizvi ne psychotherapist Ekaterina Mikhailova.
Muchokwadi, kuzvifarira iwe pachako, chishuwo chekuwana chiitiko ichi, zvakakwana kuti utange kurapwa. Asi muhupenyu kuchine mamiriro ezvinhu umo rubatsiro rwe psychotherapist runogona kudiwa kune anenge munhu wose, pasinei nezera, unhu uye hutano.
Matambudziko nekutanga
Unoona zvakaoma kuita zvinoita sezviri nyore kune vamwe. Somuenzaniso, ungasanzwa wakasununguka kuva “wega pamba” uye zvinokuomera kupinda mukurukurirano navasingazivi kana kutenga pasina zano. Zvikonzero hazvina basa, asi kwauri zvakakomba.
Kuona murapi hakukuvadzi kana quirk, sekutya rima, kureba, kana kutaura pachena, yakakura kusvika padanho zvekuti unofanirwa kushandura chimwe chinhu muhupenyu hwako nekuda kwayo: semuenzaniso, unoramba imba yakanaka. nekuda kwekuti ari pauriri hwepamusoro.
Chiitiko chinoshungurudza
Hazvina mhosva kuti yava nenguva yakareba sei muhupenyu hwako. Kana, mushure metsaona diki, kupuruzira kwako kunowedzera uye maoko ako anonyorova kana wadzokera kumashure kwevhiri zvakare, kana wakaona kana kuita chimwe chinhu uye izvi zvinokutadzisa kurarama zvakajairika, ichi ndicho chikonzero chekusangana neanorapa pfungwa.
Chiitiko chekusuwa
Zvinoitika kuti chiyero chekushungurudzika kunobatanidza nekurasikirwa kwemudiwa, kusaruramisira kune ruzivo, ndiko kuti hakugone kugadziriswa chete. Kana iwe uchigara mukurwadziwa kwakanyanya uye mushure mechinguva, iwe zvechokwadi unoda rubatsiro.
Kuzvishingisa
Munhu wese anoenda nenguva dzaasingazvifarire, apo kuzviremekedza kunodonha. Izvi zvinokonzerwa nekutadza chaiko kana matambudziko ane chekuita nezera. Asi kana iwe usingazvifariri iwe nguva dzose, ichi ndicho chikonzero chakananga chekutsvaga rubatsiro.
Kuchinja kwezera
Vanhu vazhinji vanoomerwa nekuenderana neshanduko yechisikigo kuenda kuchikamu chezera rinotevera. Iwe uri mudiki uye haudi kuve "mukuru" munhu. Asi, maiwe, zvichadaro. Mune mhaka yako, nerutsigiro rwe psychotherapist.
Dependence
Kana munhu asingakwanisi kurarama neimwe yetsika dzake uye inotanga "kumutungamirira" muupenyu, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinotaura nezvekupindwa muropa. Kutsamira kwakasiyana. Somuenzaniso, mumwe munhu anonzwa kufara chete kana ari murudo. Asi panguva imwecheteyo, anosarudza "zvinhu" zvakadaro, izvo, chaizvoizvo, hapana chinogona kuwanikwa kunze kwekushungurudzika.
Kukosha hakusi hukama nemunhu chaiye, asi mamiriro e "chirwere chepamusoro". Chikamu chimwe chete chinosanganisira: michina inopinza, kudyisa, tsika yekuva pamubhedha nemunhu wausingazive wobva wazvidemba, kupindwa muropa nekushanda ... haisi mamiriro ezvinhu, asi mupfungwa.
kufunganya
Kana iwe uchigara uchikahadzika, haugone kutora danho rinodiwa munzira ipi neipi, unonetsekana chero chikonzero, uye kusagadzikana hakuunganidze, asi kunoremadza iwe, ichi ndicho chikonzero chekare chekuona nyanzvi.
Mamiriro akaipa
Zvinoitika kune mumwe nomumwe wedu, asi kana ikaramba ichienderera mberi, zvinhu zvose zvakapoteredza zvinogumbura, hupenyu hunoita sehwakaoma uye husina maturo, pfungwa dzinomuka pamusoro pechirwere chakakomba chinogona kuitika mukati mako kana vadiwa vako, unoda rubatsiro. Ndinocherechedza: muWestern psychotherapeutic practice, inenge chikamu chimwe muzvitatu chezvikumbiro zvine chokuita nekuora mwoyo.
Nyaya dzemhuri
Mhuri mufaro wedu, kudada kwedu uye … ndiko kwakabva matambudziko edu. Kune zvakawanda zvekuti zvakakosha kutaura nezvazvo zvakasiyana uye zvakadzama. Pane chirongwa chakakosha chekurapa kwemhuri, icho chinosanganisira kushanda nemhuri yese.
Nzira yekuzvidzivirira sei kubva kune charlatans?
Psychotherapists inowanzonzi ine hypnotic uye zvisinganzwisisike masimba. Uyu ndiwo mugumisiro wemakore akawanda ekufamba-famba paTV screens uye mapeji emapepanhau e "psychotherapists" saKashpirovsky uye pop hypnotists. Iwe unogona kusiyanisa charlatan nenzira yakafanana mune chero imwe basa.
Iva nehanya kune zviratidzo zvinomupa kure: kuwanda kwekunze kwemhedzisiro, exotic maitiro, kuyedza kudzvinyirira danho rako.
Nyanzvi ye psychotherapist inogara iine hanya nenguva, kubata kwayo mahara (kugarorongazve misangano, kunonoka chikamu) inotaura nezve unprofessionalism. Nyatsoteerera kuwanda kwezwi risinganzwisisike: the psychotherapist anogara achiedza kutaura mutauro wemutengi, iyi ndeimwe yemitemo yebasa. Haashandisi mazwi okuti "ziso rakaipa" kana "kukuvadza", haaiti zvipikirwa zve "kudzorera mudiwa." Haakwanisi kupa vimbiso kana: mushure mezvose, zvizhinji zvebasa zvichafanirwa kuitwa newe, uye haugone kuziva mberi kuti ndezvipi zvauchawana. Unovimbiswa chete rubatsiro rwakakwana rwenyanzvi.
Matambudziko ehutano
Hongu, uye ivo chikonzero chekutendeukira kune psychotherapist kana iwe ukaona kuti chironda chako chinonzwa kune hukama nevakuru. Kana kuti unogara uchibatwa nedzihwa, asi mishonga haibatsire… Vazhinji vatengi vevanorapa pfungwa vanhu vasina matambudziko avo epfungwa (maitiro, hukama, nezvimwewo), asi avo vakaunzwa kunyanzvi yepfungwa nechirwere chemuviri.
Asi chero zvakadaro, psychotherapist ndiye ega wevanachiremba uyo ambulensi isingamutore. Zviri kwauri kuti woenda kwaari here kana kuti kwete. Izvo, mukuona kwangu, zvinotiita "inoyevedza uye inoyevedza" yechitoro chose chinobatsira.