Sei uchikwezva vasina kunaka uye maitiro ekugadzirisa

Unoshamisika here kuti wakakomberedzwa nevanhu ve "chepfu"? Vanokurwadzisa, unovaregerera zvakare uye unotarisira kuti hazvizoitike zvakare, asi vanokurwadzisa zvakare uye iwe hauzive kuti ungabuda sei mumamiriro ezvinhu aya. Iwe waive patsitsi dzehukama uhu nekuda kwehunhu hwako hwakanakisa.

Hausi wega - ndave mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana kakawanda. Imwe shamwari yangu yakandifonera chero nguva yayaida kubatsirwa, uye ndaigara ndichibvuma kuibatsira. Asi kuti aigara achindipindira nezvinetso zvake zvaipedza simba rangu.

Ndakazodzidza kudzika miganhu ndokuramba ndisina mhosva. Ndakaona kuti shamwari yangu yakanga ichindishandisa nemhaka yokuda kwangu kubatsira, uye kuziva izvi kwakandibatsira kupedza ushamwari hwainetesa uye hwainditambudza.

Handikurudzire kudzvinyirira chishuvo chekubatsira vadikani kana vasingakwanisi kuripa zvakafanana. Ini ndichaedza kukudzidzisa nzira yekudzivisa "chepfu" vanhu.

Iwe unovakwezva nekuda kwezvikonzero zvinotevera.

1. UNOPEDZA NGUVA YAKO NEVAMWE

Rupo uye kusava noudyire hunhu hunoshamisa, asi "chepfu" vanhu vanokwezvwa kune mutsa uye kukudzwa. Kana vatora kutarisisa kwako, ivo vanozotanga kuda zvimwe, iwe uchafanirwa kupindura kune yega chikumbiro, meseji, SMS, tsamba, kufona. Iyo yakawanda nguva yaunoshandisa pavari, iwe unowedzera kukurirwa, kuneta uye kugumbuka iwe uchanzwa. Ziva zvaunoda uye manzwiro ako, zvishoma nezvishoma gadzira miganhu, uye uti "kwete" kune zvikumbiro zvinoita kuti unzwe kusagadzikana.

Kuvaka miganhu kwakaoma: zvinoratidzika kwatiri chimwe chinhu chine udyire. Rangarira mirairo yemamiriro ekukurumidzira paunenge uchibhururuka: iwe unofanirwa kupfeka mask, uye ipapo chete wobatsira vamwe, kunyangwe vana vako chaivo. Mhedziso iri nyore: haugone kuponesa vamwe nekuda rubatsiro. Kuwanda kwesimba rauinaro, ndiko kwaunokwanisa kuita, kusanganisira kubatsira vanhu vazhinji, kwete vanongoshuvira zvakaipa uye simba vampires.

2. WAKAVIMBIKA UYE AKATENDEKA PAZVIROTO

Kana iwe uine kurota, saka zvakanyanya mukana iwe unokwezva vasina kunaka. Avo vakasiya zviroto zvavo uye vakarasikirwa nechinangwa chavo muupenyu. Kana iwe ukagovana navo mazano, vanokuona sewakanaka uye pamwe unotozvikudza. Kutya ndiye shamwari yavo, ivo vanoedza kudzivirira kuzadzikiswa kwezviroto zvako. Kunyanya iwe uchiedza kuzadzisa chinangwa, zvakanyanya kurwisa kurwisa kwavo.

Usagovana mazano nevanhu vakaratidza "chepfu" yavo. Iva wakangwarira, edza kusawira mumusungo wemibvunzo yavo. Zvikomberedze iwe nevaya vane chinangwa, vari kushingaira kushanda kusvika pakuzadzikiswa kwehope. Vanhu vakadai vachatsigira mabasa uye vanopa chivimbo.

3. UNOONA ZVAKANAKA MUVANHU

Kazhinji tinofungidzira kuti vamwe vane mutsa. Asi dzimwe nguva tinosangana nedivi rerima rehunhu hwevanhu, izvo zvinoita kuti kusatya kwedu kuzununguke. Unoona zvakaoma here kubvuma kuti vamwe vanogona kuva nemakaro kana kuti kunyengera? Wakambodanana nanarcissist uchitarisira kuti munhu uyu achachinja here? Ndaiona vanhu ve "chepfu" sechikamu chehupenyu hwangu uye ndaifunga kuti ndaifanira kujairana navo uye kuvagamuchira nekukanganisa kwavo kwese. Zvino ndinoziva kuti hazvisi.

Vimba intuition yako: ichakuudza iwe pauri munjodzi. Usadzvinyirira manzwiro ako. Izvi zvinogona kuoma pakutanga: fungidziro yako yevamwe inogona kuita kuti utye uye kushatirwa. Vimba iwe pachako. Rega intuition yako ikudzivirire kubva mukurwadziwa kwepfungwa kunouya nehukama hune chepfu.

4. WAKANAKA

Iwe urikuti zvese zvakanaka iwe usingafungi kudaro? Iwe unoramba wakadzikama uye uine mwoyo murefu mumamiriro ezvinhu anonetsa, edza kukanganisa mhepo nemajee? Kudzikama kwako kunokwezva vanoda kukutyora nekuwana simba pamusoro pako.

Ndakaona kuti kuda kwandaiita vana kwaiita kuti ndive munhu ari nyore. Somuenzaniso, ndakamboti kushamwari yangu, “Ndinogona kuchengeta vana vako nguva ipi neipi yamunoda,” uye izvozvo, mupfungwa dzake, zvakachinja kuva “zuva riri rose,” pasinei zvapo nokuti ndakabatikana sei. Shamwari yakashandisa kupindura kwangu kune zvakanakira.

Edza kusapa mhinduro dzekukurumidza kune zvikumbiro, tora zororo, vimbisa kufunga. Nenzira iyoyo unodzivisa kufurirwa. Gare gare, mose mungabvuma mopindura kuti: “Ndine urombo, asi handikwanisi.”

Usarega vanhu vane chepfu vachiraira mazwi ako, chengeta zvinangwa zvako mupfungwa. Ramba uine mutsa uye nerupo, asi zvishoma nezvishoma dzidza kuziva vanoshuvira zvakaipa uye kutaura zvakanaka kwavari.

Kunobva: Iyo Huffington Post.