Ghosting, benching, breadcrumbing, mooning… Ese aya neologisms anotsanangudza matauriro ezvekufambidzana pamasaiti ekupfimbana nemaapps ekutamba nhasi, uye ese anotsanangura nzira dzakasiyana dzekuramba. Mune zvimwe zviitiko, aya maitiro epfungwa anogona kukuvadza kuzviremekedza kwako. Xenia Dyakova-Tinoku ari kuedza kufunga kuti angaziva sei uye kuti chii chaunofanira kuita kana iwe ukava munhu akabatwa ne "ghost man".
The phenomenon of ghosting itself (from the English ghost — a ghost) is not new. We all know the expressions «leave in English» and «send to ignore.» But earlier, in the “pre-virtual era”, it was more difficult to do this, the reputation of a fugitive among mutual friends and colleagues was at stake. You could meet with him and demand an explanation.
Munzvimbo yepamhepo, hapana kutonga kwakadaro kwevanhu, uye zviri nyore kuputsa kubatana pasina migumisiro inooneka.
Zvinoitika sei
Iwe unosangana paInternet nemunhu anonyatsofarira kukurukurirana. Anoita rumbidzo, une nyaya dzakawanda dzakajairika dzekukurukurirana, pamwe wakasangana "muhupenyu chaihwo" kanopfuura kamwe kana kuita zvepabonde. Asi rimwe zuva anorega kutaurirana, haapindure mafoni ako, mameseji uye tsamba. Panguva imwe cheteyo, ungawana kuti anoaverenga uye akanyarara.
Vanhu vanobva pa radar nekuti havadi kunzwa kusagadzikana kwepamoyo kwekurambana newe.
Iwe unotanga kutya: hauna kukodzera mhinduro here? Vhiki rapfuura chete, wakaenda kumabhaisikopo uye wakagovana ndangariro dzehudiki. Asi iye zvino unenge wava kuita kunge wakavharirwa. Sei? Yechii? Wakatadzei? Zvese zvakatanga zvakanaka…
“People disappear from your radar for one reason: they don’t want to feel emotional discomfort explaining why your relationship is no longer relevant,” explains psychotherapist Janice Wilhauer. — You live in a big city. The probability of a chance meeting is minimal, and the “ghost man” is only too happy about this. Moreover, the more often he interrupts communication in this way, the easier it is for him to play «silent».
Maitiro echipoko echipoko anoodza moyo. Zvinogadzira pfungwa yekusava nechokwadi uye kusanzwisisika. Zvinoita kwauri kuti uri kuzvidzwa, wakarambwa, asi hauna chokwadi zvachose pamusoro peizvi. Ndinofanira kunetseka here? Zvakadini kana chimwe chinhu chakaitika kushamwari yako kana kuti yakabatikana uye inogona kufona chero nguva?
Janice Wilhauer anopikisa kuti kurambwa kwevanhu kunoita kuti nzvimbo dzinorwadza dzakafanana dziri muuropi sekurwadziwa kwenyama. Nokudaro, munguva yakaoma, marwadzo akareruka anobva paparacetamol anogona kubatsira. Asi kuwedzera kune iyi hukama hwehupenyu pakati pekuramba uye kurwadziwa, anoona zvimwe zvinhu zvakawanda zvinowedzera kusagadzikana kwedu.
Kugara uchisangana nevamwe kwakakosha kuti urarame, iyi nzira yekushanduka-shanduka yakagadziridzwa kwezviuru zvemakore. Tsika dzemagariro dzinotibatsira kujairana nemamiriro akasiyana-siyana. Nekudaro, ghost inotitadzisa nhungamiro: hapana nzira yekutaura manzwiro edu kune atadzira. Pane imwe nguva, zvingaita sokuti tiri kurasikirwa nokudzora upenyu hwedu pachedu.
Maitiro ekuita nazvo
Kutanga, Jennis Wilhauer anorayira kuti zvitore sezviri pachena kuti kutambira kwave kuita nzira inogamuchirwa munharaunda yekutaurirana pasina kutaurirana. Iko kunyatsoziva kuti wakatarisana ne ghosting kunobatsira kubvisa mutoro wekushushikana kubva mumweya. “Zvakakosha kuti unzwisise kuti idi rekuti unofuratirwa haritauri chinhu pamusoro pako uye neunhu hwako. Ichi chingori chiratidzo chekuti shamwari yako haisati yagadzirira uye haikwanise kuve nehukama hune hutano uye hwakakura, "anosimbisa Jennis Wilhauer.
The «Ghost» is afraid to face his own and your emotions, is deprived of empathy, or deliberately disappeared for a while in order to attract attention in the best traditions of pick-up. So is this coward and manipulator worth your tears?