Vabereki vanofanira kukumbira mazano ekurera vana paIndaneti uye kutsvaga rubatsiro paIndaneti? Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa dzekiriniki Gale Post inonyevera pamusoro pokubudisa mashoko omunhu oga pamusoro pomwana nokungwarira. Mune ramangwana, izvi zvinogona kushanduka kuva matambudziko akakomba kuvana.
Isu takajaira kugamuchira ruzivo kubva paInternet, tichitsvaga zano kubva kune akaungana pfungwa mumasocial network. Asi miganhu yenzvimbo yemunhu, kusanganisira nzvimbo yeruzivo, yakasiyana kune wese munhu.
Clinical psychologist Gail Post akashamisika kana vabereki vaigona kukurukura matambudziko evana vavo online. Chii chaunofanira kuita kana uchida mazano? Uye unoziva sei kuti ndeupi ruzivo rusina kukodzera kutumira? Iwe unogona kuwana mhinduro nerutsigiro paWebhu, zviri nyore uye nekukurumidza, anobvuma, asi kune zvakare misungo.
“Pamwe mwana wako ari kudheerera kana kuti akaora mwoyo kana kuti ari kudheererwa kuchikoro. Kuzvidya mwoyo kunokupengesa. Unoda mazano, uye nokukurumidza sezvinobvira. Asi paunotumira mashoko omunhu oga, ane udzame, uye anokanganisa, zvinogona kukanganisa magariro nemanzwiro emwana wako zvosiya chiratidzo pane remangwana,” inonyevera kudaro Gail Post.
Mhinduro kubva kune vasingazivi hazvizotsiva mazano enyanzvi uye hurukuro nevadiwa.
Isu tinodzidzisa vana njodzi yekutumira zvisinganzwisisike kana zvisina kufanira selfies uye mapikicha epati online. Isu tinoyambira nezve cyberbullying, tinokuyeuchidzai kuti zvese zvinoburitswa navo zvinogona kumuka papera makore uye zvichikanganisa tarisiro yebasa kana mune mamwe mamiriro.
Asi kana isu pachedu tichinetseka uye tisingakwanisi kutsungirira kutya, tinorasikirwa nekunzwisisa kwedu. Vamwe vanotogoverana fungidziro dzokuti mwana ari kushandisa mirimo, kurondedzera mufambiro wake wevatano, zvinetso zvechirango, zvinetso zvekufunda, uye kunyange kubudisa nzvero dzepfungwa.
Kushuvira mhinduro, zviri nyore kukanganwa kuti kugovera ruzivo rwemhando iyi hakungoisa mwana panjodzi, zvakare kutyora zvakavanzika.
Anonzi "akavharwa" online social media mapoka anowanzo kuve ne1000 kana kupfuura nhengo, uye hapana vimbiso yekuti mumwe "asingazivikanwe" munhu haazozive mwana wako kana kutora mukana weruzivo rwakagamuchirwa. Uye zvakare, zvakataurwa nevasingazive hazvizotsiva kubvunzana nenyanzvi uye kutaura nevadikani vanonyatsoziva mamiriro ako.
Ibasa revabereki kuona kana chinyorwa chako chichava nengozi kumwana muduku
Dzimwe nguva vabereki vanokumbira mwana wavo mvumo yekubudisa nezvake. Izvi, hongu, zvinoshamisa, anodaro Gale Post. Asi vana havagone kupa mvumo nehana, havana ruzivo rwunodiwa uye kukura kuti vanzwisise kuti kuburitswa kunogona kukanganisa mafambiro avo makore mazhinji gare gare. Ndicho chikonzero nei vana vasingakwanisi kuvhota, kuroora, kana kuti kunyange kubvuma kushandiswa kwemishonga.
“Mwana angabvumira kuti mashoko ane chokuita naye abudiswe kuti akufadzei, kuti adzivise kunetsana, kana kuti nemhaka bedzi yokuti haanzwisisi kukomba kwenhau yacho. Nekudaro, basa revabereki harisi rekuvimba nemutongo wemwana mudiki, asi kuona kana chinyorwa chako chichava nengozi kwaari, "nyanzvi inoyeuka.
Senyanzvi yepfungwa uye amai, anokurudzira vabereki kuti vafunge kaviri vasati vataura nezvemwana wavo online. Makore akati gare gare, akura, achawana basa repamusoro, oenda kubasa rehurumende, omhanyira chigaro chehurumende. Ipapo mashoko anomukanganisa achabuda. Izvi zvinokanganisa mikana yekuti mwana wako mukuru awane nguva yekusangana.
Usati wagovera, zvibvunze kuti:
1. Kutsanya kwangu kuchavhiringa kana kugumbura mwana here?
2. Chii chinoitika kana shamwari, vadzidzisi kana vavanoziva vakawana ruzivo urwu?
3. Kunyange kana iye (a) akapa mvumo iye zvino, achagumburwa neni makore anotevera here?
4. Ndedzipi njodzi dzinobvira dzokutumira mashoko akadaro iye zvino uye mune ramangwana? Kana kuchengeta zvakavanzika kukatyorwa, dzidzo yomwana wangu akura, basa, basa, kana kuti mukurumbira wake zvichakanganiswa here?
Kana mamwe mashoko ane ngozi kuisa paInternet, zviri nani kuti vabereki vatsvake mhinduro uye rubatsiro kubva kune shamwari nehama, kutsvaga rubatsiro kubva kune vepfungwa, magweta, vadzidzisi, vanachiremba.
“Rava mabhuku enyanzvi, tsvaka mazano, tsvaka mashoko panzvimbo dzinovimbwa nayo,” Gail Post inotaura kuvabereki. "Uye ndapota chenjerera zvinyorwa zvine ruzivo nezvemwana wako."
Nezve Nyanzvi: Gale Post ikiriniki yepfungwa.