Mukati
Sei "awa yekurapa" inopera zvishoma kudarika nguva - 45-50 maminetsi chete? Sei murapi achida izvi uye mutengi anobatsirwa sei nazvo? Nyanzvi dzinotsanangura.
Kune vanhu vanosarudza kutsvaga rubatsiro rwekurapa kekutanga, nhau dzekuti chikamu chimwe chinotora nguva yakareba sei dzinowanzoodza mwoyo. Uye chaizvoizvo - chii chingaitwa munguva isingasviki awa? Zvinoita sei kuti “awa yokurapa” ipfupike kudaro?
“Kune dzidziso dzinoverengeka, uye dzimwe dzinototinongedzera kuna Freud,” anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi yendangariro uye nyanzvi yemhuri Becky Styumfig. "Hapana kuwirirana pane izvi, asi chokwadi chinoramba chiripo chekuti 45-50 maminetsi ndiyo nguva yakajairika iyo murapi anopedza aine mutengi." Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zveizvi, zvose zvinoshanda uye zvepfungwa.
Logistics
Izvi zviri nyore zvakanyanya maererano nekugadzirisa zvinhu, uye kune wese munhu: zvese kune mutengi, anogona kuita nguva yekusangana nenyanzvi pamberi pebasa uye nekukurumidza mushure (uye vamwe kunyangwe panguva yekudya kwemasikati), uye kumurapi anoda 10- 15 -maminiti ekuzorora pakati pezvirongwa zvekutora manotsi pachirongwa changopera, fonera zvakare avo vakafona panguva yechirongwa, pindura mameseji, uye pakupedzisira, ingonwa mvura uye uzorore.
"Chikamu chacho chinogona kuomera nyanzvi pachake mupfungwa, uye kuzorora ndiwo mukana wega wekufemesa nekupora," anotsanangura kudaro chiremba wepfungwa Tammer Malati. "Uyu ndiwo mukana wega wekutangazve, "kubva" kubva kune wekare mutengi uye tarisa mupfungwa kuti usangane neinotevera," Styumfig anobvuma.
Vamwe varapi vanotopfupisa zvirongwa kusvika kumaminitsi makumi mana nemashanu kana kuronga kuzorora kwehafu yeawa pakati pevarwere.
Zviri mumisangano
Kupfupika kwechirongwa, ndiko kunowedzera kukosha uye "kwakakosha" nhaurirano. Achiona kuti ane isingasviki awa yaainayo, mutengi, sekutonga, haapindi mukutsanangurwa kwakareba. Mukuwedzera, nenzira iyi haafaniri kudzokera kune zvakaitika kare zvinorwadza kwenguva refu. "Zvikasadaro, vatengi vangasangana nekushungurudzika uye kusauya kumusangano unotevera."
“Awa imwe kana kupfuura uri woga nemirangariro yako, zvikurusa isina kunaka, yakawandisa kuvazhinji. Pashure pacho, zvakaoma kuti vadzokere kumabasa ezuva nezuva, uye kunyanya kushanda, "anotsanangura kudaro psychotherapist Brittany Bufar.
Iyi nguva inobatsira pakuumbwa kwemiganhu pakati pemurapi nemutengi. Stumfig anocherekedza kuti 45- kana 50-maminetsi sesheni inobvumira murapi kuti arambe aine chinangwa, asina-kutonga, asingatarise zvakanyanya mumatambudziko emutengi uye asingaatore pamoyo.
Kushandisa nguva zvakanaka
Mukati memisangano mipfupi, mapato ese ari maviri anoedza kushandisa nguva iripo kwavari kusvika pakakwirira. “Iyi ndiyo nzira iyo mutengi nemurapi vanosvika pamwoyo wedambudziko nekukurumidza. Chero kutaura kudiki kungave kushandisa nguva zvisina kuchenjera, izvo zvinonyanya kudhura,” anotsanangura kudaro Stümfig.
Kana mutengi akanzwisisa kuti dambudziko rake riri pasi rose uye harisi nyore kugadziriswa mumusangano, izvi zvinomukurudzira, pamwe chete nemurapi, kutsvaga mazano ekugadzirisa emunharaunda, maitiro anogona "kubviswa" uye anoshandiswa kusvikira purogiramu inotevera. .
“Kana tine nguva yakawanda, zvinotitorera nguva yakareba kuti tisvike pamwoyo wechinetso,” anodaro Laurie Gottlieb, chiremba wepfungwa uye munyori webhuku rinonzi Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. Uye zvakare, pakupera kwechikamu chakareba, vese mutengi uye murapi vanogona kunzwa kuneta kana kunyange kupera simba. Kazhinji, maitiro ezvikamu zvehafu yeawa akakodzera vana: kutarisa kunyange kwemaminitsi 45-50 kwakaoma kune vazhinji vavo.
Kufambiswa kwemashoko
Murapi wemhuri Saniya Mayo anofananidza nguva dzekurapa nezvidzidzo zvechikoro chesekondari. Mukati mechidzidzo, mudzidzi anogamuchira chitsama chakati chezivo pamusoro pechidzidzo chakati. Aya mashoko achiri kuda “kugayiwa” uye kubatwa nomusoro mapfundo makuru kuti agone kuita basa rinoitirwa kumba.
"Unogona kutambanudza chikamu kwemaawa mana - mubvunzo chete ndewekuti mutengi achatora uye uyeuke kubva pane izvi," Mayo anotsanangura. “Zvakaoma “kugaya” mashoko akawandisa, zvinoreva kuti zvakaoma kuwana betsero ipi neipi inoshanda nawo. Saka kana vatengi vachiti chikamu chimwe chete pasvondo hachina kuvakwanira, murapi anowanzo kurudzira kuwedzera kuwanda kwezvikamu, kwete kureba kwechikamu chimwe nechimwe.
"Zvinoita sekuti mhedzisiro yezvikamu zviviri zvipfupi zvichave zvakakura kupfuura imwe refu. Zvakafanana nezvokudya zviduku zviviri panguva dzakasiyana pane kudya kumwe chete kunonaka,” anodaro Gottlieb. - Kunyanya kuwanda kwemasikati hakuzogayiwe kazhinji: muviri unoda nguva, kutyora pakati pe "kudya".
Kushandisa ruzivo rwakawanwa
Mukurapa, zvakakosha kwete chete izvo zvatakadzidza pachikamu, nemanzwisisiro atakasiya, asiwo zvatakaita pakati pemisangano nemurapi, mashandisiro atakaita ruzivo uye hunyanzvi.
"Zvakakosha, kwete kureba kwezvikamu," Styumfig ane chokwadi. - Mutengi haafanire kushanda chete pamisangano nemurapi, asiwo pakati pavo: ratidza, tarisa maitiro ake, edza kushandisa hunyanzvi hwepfungwa hwaakadzidziswa nanyanzvi. Zvinotora nguva kuti ruzivo rwakagamuchirwa rufananidzwe uye shanduko dzakanaka dzitange. ”
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Kunyangwe chikamu che45-50 maminetsi ichionekwa seyakajairwa, wega wega psychotherapist akasununguka kuona nguva yemisangano. Uyezve, kushanda nevaroorani nemhuri kunowanzotora ingangoita awa nehafu. “Munhu wose anofanira kuva nenguva yokutaura uye kufungisisa zvaanonzwa,” anotsanangura kudaro murapi wemhuri Nicole Ward. Musangano wega wega unogonawo kutora nguva yakareba, kunyanya kana mutengi ari mudambudziko rakaoma.
Vamwe varapi vanobvumirawo nguva yakawanda yekuti musangano wekutanga uunganidze ruzivo rwakawanda sezvinobvira, kuziva dambudziko racho nenzira kwayo, uye kubatsira murwere kugadzira chikumbiro.
Chero zvazvingava, kana iwe uchinzwa kuti, pasinei nenharo dziri pamusoro apa, unoda nguva yakawanda, usazeza kutaura kune nyanzvi nezvazvo. Pamwe chete iwe uchawana sarudzo inokodzera ese ari maviri.