Muchitarisiko, waunoshanda naye kana shamwari inobudirira uye inofara nehupenyu. Asi zvakadini kana vari kuchengeta chakavanzika chinonyadzisa chawakawana nezvacho? Zvakadini kana iye akatambudzwa zuva nezuva mumuviri nomundangariro mumhuri yavo vamene? Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa uye nyanzvi yemakakatanwa Christine Hammond anotaura nezve maitiro nemazvo neakabatwa nemudzvinyiriri wepamba uye nekubatsira.
Elena chiremba akabudirira, anoremekedzwa ane mukurumbira wakanaka. Varwere vanomunzwira tsitsi, vanongomunamata. Asi, pasinei nekubudirira kwose, ane chakavanzika chinonyadzisa - pasi pezvipfeko zvake anovanza mavanga kubva pakurohwa. Muchato uchangopera, murume wake akatanga kumurova. Akarwadziwa zvikuru nenyadzi, uye haana kunzwisisa kuti obva sei kwaari, saka akagara naye. Murume wake akanga ari chiremba airemekedzwawo muguta, uye hapana nomumwe wevokunze aiziva nezvokudheerera kwake mudzimai wake. Aitya kuti kana akataura nezvazvo, hapana aizomutenda.
Alexander aiwanzogara kubasa kuitira kuti asazouya kumba kwenguva refu. Aitoziva kuti kana akanonoka kurara mukadzi wake aidhakwa orara, uye aizokwanisa kunzvenga imwe nyaya yekudhakwa kwaigona kuzoguma nekurova. Kuti neimwe nzira atsanangure mavanga pamuviri wake, akatanga kuita martial arts - zvino aigona kutaura kuti akarohwa mukurovedza. Akafunga nezvokurambana, asi mudzimai wake akamunyengedza, achityisidzira kuzviuraya.
Havasi Elena kana Alexander vanonyanya kubatwa nechisimba mudzimba. Uye ndicho chikonzero dambudziko rakawana zviyero zvakadaro mumazuva edu. Vanyajambwa vazhinji vanotambudzwa nokunzwa kwokunyara kwakadaro zvokuti vanozengurira kugumisa ukama. Kazhinji vanotenda kuti maitiro emumwe wavo achachinja kuva nani nekufamba kwenguva - ingomirira. Saka vanomirira - kwemwedzi, kwemakore. Chinhu chakaomera kwavari kunzwa kusurukirwa - hapana anovanzwisisa uye anovatsigira. Mukupesana, ivo vanowanzoshorwa uye kubatwa nekuzvidzwa, izvo zvinosimbisa kunzwa kwekuparadzaniswa.
Kana mumwe munhu munharaunda mako ari kusangana nemhirizhonga mudzimba, heino mabatsiriro aungaite:
1. Ramba wakabatana
Vazhinji vedu hatidi kufona mushure me10 pm. Sezvineiwo, mhirizhonga mudzimba haitevedzeri purogiramu yakatinakira. Kana akabatwa achiziva kuti anogona kukubata nguva dzose - maawa makumi maviri nemana pazuva, mazuva manomwe pavhiki - unova rudzi rwe "nzira yehupenyu" kwaari.
2. Ngwarira
Vakawanda vanobatwa nechirwere ichi vanogara mumhute. Vanogara "vakakanganwa" nezvenyaya dzechisimba uye kushungurudzwa uye vanoyeuka chete zvinhu zvakanaka zvehukama. Iyi ndiyo nzira yekudzivirira yepanyama ye psyche. Shamwari yakatendeka nguva dzose ichakubatsira iwe kuyeuka zvakaitika chaizvo, asi panguva imwechete haazokuyeuchidzi nezveuyu akabatwa kakawanda, kuitira kuti usamutambudza zvakanyanya.
3. Usatonga
Kunyange vanhu vakangwara zvikuru, vane tarenda, vakanaka, uye vanoda zvinhu zvakawanda vanogona kuwira mumusungo weukama husina basa. Ichi hachisi chiratidzo chekushaya simba. Vadzvinyiriri vemudzimba vanowanzoita zvehunyengeri, vachichinjanisa mhirizhonga nerutsigiro uye rumbidzo, izvo zvinovhiringa zvachose munhu wacho.
4. Usabvunza kuti sei
Kana munhu akabatwa "akanyudzwa" muhukama husina kushanda, ino haisi nguva yekufungisisa nekutsvaga zvikonzero zvezvakaitika. Anofanira kutarisa zvachose pakutsvaga nzira yekubuda nayo mumamiriro acho ezvinhu.
5. Bvumiranai zvakanyanya sezvinobvira
Chinhu chekupedzisira chinodiwa nemunhu anenge aitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba kupopotedzana kusingakoshi uye nyaya kunze kwemhuri zvakare. Zvechokwadi, haufaniri kubvumirana nechisimba chekudzorera uye kushungurudzwa, asi mune zvimwe zvose zviri nani kubvumirana nemunhu anotsvaka rubatsiro rwako kakawanda sezvinobvira. Izvi zvichamupa pfungwa yeinenge kugadzikana.
6. Kubatsira muchivande kubva kushamwari
Semuenzaniso, ipa kuti uvhure akaundi yebhangi yakabatana kuitira kuti munhu anenge abatwa arege kutsamira kune mumwe wake mune zvemari (vanhu vazhinji vanotya kusiya nekuda kweichi chikonzero). Kana kubatsira kutsvaga nyanzvi yepfungwa.
7. Ramba uine chivimbo
Vadzvinyiriri vomumba chaizvoizvo "vanoparadza" avo vakabatwa, uye zuva rinotevera vanovashambidza nerumbidzo, asi nokukurumidza kushungurudzwa (mumuviri kana manzwiro) kunodzokororwa zvakare. Unyanzvi uhwu hunovhiringidza munhu anenge abatwa, asingachanzwisisi zviri kuitika. Mushonga wakanakisa kugara uchikurudzira munhu anenge abatwa, achiedza kudzorera chivimbo chake.
8. Iva nemwoyo murefu
Kazhinji vanyajambwa vanosiya mutambudzi wavo, asi nokukurumidza vanodzokazve, voendazve, uye ikoku kunodzokororwa kakawanda. Munguva dzakadai, zvakakosha kuve nemoyo murefu uchiratidza rudo rusina magumo uye tsigiro.
9. Ita chirongwa chakavanzika
Zvakakosha kubatsira munhu anenge aitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba kuti awane nzira yekubuda nayo. Muchiitiko che "emergency evacuation", gadzirira bhegi kune shamwari yako kana mudiwa ane zvipfeko uye zvakakosha. Mubatsire kusarudza pachine nguva nzvimbo yakachengeteka yekugara kekutanga.
10. Iva nechido chekuteerera
Vanyajambwa vanowanzonzwa vasurukirwa, vachitya kutongwa navamwe. Ivo vanonzwa seshiri dziri mukeji - pachena, pasina nzira yekuhwanda kana kutiza. Hongu, zvinogona kuva zvakaoma kuvateerera pasina kutonga, asi ndizvo zvavanonyanya kuda.
11. Ziva mutemo
Ziva nguva yekusvitsa chichemo kune vemutemo. Udza izvi kune akaitirwa mhirizhonga mudzimba.
12. Ipa pokugara
Zvakakosha kuwana nzvimbo iyo mutambudzi asingakwanisi kuwana munhu wake. Anogona kupotera kuhama dziri kure kana kuti shamwari, munzvimbo inochengeterwa vanenge vapukunyuka mhirizhonga, muhotera kana kuti mufurati yokurenda.
13. Batsira kutiza
Kana munhu akabatwa akafunga kutiza kubva kune mudzvinyiriri wepamba, haazodi mari chete, asiwo rutsigiro rwetsika. Kakawanda vanenge vawirwa nenjodzi vanodzokera kune vanenge vachivatambudza nemhaka bedzi yokuti vanenge vasina mumwe munhu wokutendeukira kwaari nokuda kwebetsero.
Zvinosuruvarisa, vanyajambwa vemhirizhonga mudzimba vanowanzotsungirira kushungurudzwa kwemakore akati wandei vasati vazoenda. Nekubatsirwa kweshamwari dzechokwadi uye chiremba wepfungwa, Elena naAlexander vakakwanisa kuputsa hukama husina kunaka uye kudzorera hutano hwavo hwepfungwa. Nokufamba kwenguva, upenyu hwavo hwakavandudzika zvachose, uye vose vakazviwana vava shamwari itsva, dzine rudo.
Nezve Munyori: Kristin Hammond inyanzvi yepfungwa, nyanzvi yekugadzirisa kusawirirana, uye munyori weThe Exhausted Woman's Handbook, Xulon Press, 2014.