Mukati
Amai vakakosha muhupenyu hweumwe neumwe wedu. Zvisinei, haakwanisi kutsigira chete, kuva mutsigiri uye kugadzirira kukura, asi zvakare kushanduka kuva chikara chinozoisa kurambidzwa kusingaoneki kwehupenyu hwepabonde hwemwanakomana wake. Takadzidza kubva kuna chiremba wepfungwa, nyanzvi yezvepabonde, izvo meseji dzaamai dzinogona kushungurudza uye nekuchinja maitiro kwavari.
"Ndakakuitira zvose", "Ndaigara ndichikupa zvakanakisisa", "hapana chekufunga nezvevasikana, dzidza kutanga" - pakutanga pakuona, aya mazwi anoita seasingakuvadzi. Asi kazhinji vanofumura marudzi matatu evanaamai: vanodzivirira zvakanyanya, "kuuraya" uye "chibayiro chisingaperi".
Vabereki vakadaro vanogona kukuvadza zvakakomba vanakomana vavo kupfurikidza nokuziva kana kuti nokusaziva miitiro inoparadza yomufambiro. Psychotherapist, nyanzvi yezvepabonde Elena Malakhova akaudza izvo zvinokurudzira vanaamai uye kuti isu tinogona sei "kubvisa" mameseji avo.
1. "Kuuraya" amai
Kuziva sei?
Pakutanga kuona, mukadzi akadaro haataridzi sechikara zvachose. Asi, asingazvizivi iye pachake, ave achivaka rusvingo rune simba kubva pauduku, achiparadzanisa mwanakomana wake kubva pakukwezva kwechisikigo kune vakasiyana. Kuita zvepabonde kwevanakomana vevanaamai vakadai mune imwe nyaya mune isina kugadzirwa, rudimentary mamiriro, zvinouya kukusaita zvepabonde, kunonoka kwakasiyana-siyana mukukura kwepfungwa, uye mune imwe, inogona kufamba munzira yekukanganisa uye kutsauka.
Amai verudzi urwu vanoshandisa mune dzidzo vanoziva, zvishoma kana kusaziva maitiro anoparadza psyche uye zvepabonde zvemwana, zvichiva muchetura zvakanyanya kwaari. Izvi zvinonyanya kutaura, utsinye, mhirizhonga, mhirizhonga, kutyisidzira, kumanikidza ... Zvinoshamisa kuti, apo hama neshamwari "dzakabata" amai vangu nokuda kwezviito zvisina kunaka, zvinoratidzika: vane chokwadi chokuti vari kurera "murume chaiye. » Uye nemhando iyi yedzidzo, unyoro hauna maturo.
Zvokuita?
Nehurombo, hutsinye uye kunyangwe chisimba muhuduku zvinogona kutungamirira mukukanganisika kwakanyanya kwe psyche uye zvepabonde pazera rinotevera. Uye kutyora uku hakusi nguva dzose kunogoneka kuzviruramisa. Zvakanaka kana, achikura, mwanakomana waamai “vanouraya” achigona kuona chinetso chake ndokutendeukira kuna mazvikokota nokuda kwebetsero munguva.
2. Mai vechibairo
Kuziva sei?
Amai vakadaro vanorarama mamiriro emunhu akabatwa nepfungwa ye "kuraramira vamwe." Anogona kufuratira zvaanoda achitarisira muripo unodhura zvakanyanya kubva kumwana - mukana wekutonga hupenyu hwake. Mashoko anowanzo mumuromo waamai vakadaro "Ndakakuitira zvose, ndakatsungirira, ndakatambura, dai iwe waive zvakanaka" inhema huru, dzakagadzirirwa kururamisa kusaziva kusada kubata zvakanyanya nehupenyu hwako. Mukuwedzera, chibayiro chacho chinogona kukosheswa chete neanouya nacho. Hupenzi kutarisira izvi kubva kune mumwe, kunyanya kubva kumwana.
Pakati pehutano hwepabonde mune ramangwana murume akakurira mumhuri yakadaro, kune chirwere chekuzvidya mwoyo kutarisira kwekukundikana kwepabonde uye masochism. Chinhu chimwe chete icho mubereki akabatwa anogona kudzidzisa mwana wake ndeyekuva nyajambwa. Naizvozvo, vakadzi vanovashandisa vanozowira muhukama nevarume vakadaro.
Zvokuita?
Murume anofanirwa kudzidza kuteedzera maitiro aamai vake muhunhu hwake uye kugadzira mamiriro ehupenyu akasiyana. Kutanga, pamwero wekufungidzira, wobva wadhirowa zvikamu zvaro zvakanyanya uye zvakajeka, uye pakupedzisira, mukuita (somuenzaniso, pazuva, usaedza kufadza akasarudzwa mune zvese, asi mubate semudiwa akaenzana).
3. Amai vanodzivirira zvakanyanya
Kuziva sei?
Chinangwa chayo ndechekuchengeta mwana kwenguva yakareba sezvinobvira munzvimbo yevacheche nekubatsirwa kwekudzivirira zvakanyanya uye kutarisirwa zvakanyanya nekutya kukura kwake. Nemashoko ake nezviito, amai vakadaro vacharatidza nenzira dzose kuti achiri muduku: "dzidza kutanga, uye iwe uchafunga nezvevasikana" nezvimwe zvakadaro.
Nhamo chaiyo kuna amai vakadai kutaridzika kweshamwari nemwanakomana wavo. Zviitiko zvechisikigo zvekuparadzana, izvo zvisiri nyore kune chero amai, zvinongove zvisingatsungiririki kune amai vane hanya zvakanyanya. Haatsvaki kuti azvione, azvigadzirise, ararame, anoedza chete kuchengeta mwana pedyo naye. Mukusangana pabonde kwevanakomana vaisakwanisa kubuda muukama hwehukama pamwe chete naamai vavo, matambudziko ese ezvepabonde (kusagadzikana kwe erection, ejaculation) uye tsika yekutsauka pabonde (semuenzaniso, iyo Madonna neHarlot complex) inogona kucherechedzwa.
Zvokuita?
Kukura, mwanakomana anofanira kubuda muhukama hwehukama pamwe chete naamai vake, kuparadzana naye uye kurarama hupenyu hwake. Iyi inguva refu yekumanikidzwa kurwa. Mwanakomana waamai vakadaro anodzidza kuratidzira maitiro ake, kuvaka miganhu yake, zvishoma nezvishoma achiva akaparadzana, munhu mukuru, anokwanisa kutora mutoro wehupenyu hwake. Vamwe vanogona kufamba nzira iyi vega, asi vamwe chete nenyanzvi.