Mukati
“Zvatinosangana nazvo patinenge tiri murudo zvingangove zvakajairika. "Rudo runoratidza munhu zvaanofanira kuva," akanyora kudaro Chekhov. "Rudo runotanga nekuti munhu anozvinyengedza, uye anoguma nekuti anonyengera mumwe," Wilde haana kubvumirana naye. Saka chii - kudzokera kune zvakajairwa kana kutapwa kunotapira kwekunyepedzera? Sainzi haipinduri mubvunzo uyu. Asi zvinozivikanwa kuti muitiro wokudanana nomumwe munhu unokamurwa kuva matanho api.
Rudo rwerudo rwave rwuchizivikanwa kubva kare, vazivi vaitaura nezvazvo uye vadetembi vakanyora nhetembo. Rudo harutereri mitemo yepfungwa uye pfungwa, runokwanisa kutisimudza kusvika kune yakakwirira ye euphoria uye zvino kutiunza pasi mugomba rakadzika-dzika rekuora mwoyo nekuda kwezvikonzero zvisingakoshi.
Isu tinowanzo kuwira murudo patinenge tisinganyatsoronga kuita, uye kazhinji shamwari nehama dzedu havanzwisise kuti sei takadanana nemunhu uyu.
“Uye zvakadaro, sayenzi iri kunzwisisa zvishoma nezvishoma zvakavanzika zvokuva murudo, sokutsanangura kwayakaita zvinhu zvakawanda zvomusikirwo zvaimboita sezvisingafanozivikanwi uye zvisinganzwisisiki,” inodaro nyanzvi yezvetsinga dzouropi Lucy Brown.
Tsvagiridzo inoratidza kuti maitiro ekuwira murudo kazhinji ane matanho manomwe.
1. Kwakabva kunzwa
Kuwira murudo kunozvarwa panguva iyo munhu anoerekana awana chirevo chakakosha kwauri. Uye hazvina basa kana waimuziva kwemakore akawanda zvisati zvaitika kana kuti makasangana maawa mashomanana apfuura, pfungwa dzako dzose dzava kunanga kwaari. Whether you like it or not, unenge wave kutopinda murudo.
2. Mafungiro akawandisa
Pfungwa dzako dzekutanga dzerudo dzinopinda mukati. Unodzokorora nhaurirano kakawanda mumusoro mako, rangarira mapfekero aaive aita manheru iwayo, kana kuyemura kunyemwerera kwake.
Paunoverenga bhuku, unoshamisika kana angarida. Uye angakupa zano sei kuti ugadzirise dambudziko rako nemukuru wako? Musangano wega wega nemunhu uyu, zvega kana zvakarongwa, unova chiitiko chakakosha kwauri, chaunobva warangarira nekuongorora.
Pakutanga, pfungwa idzi dzinongoitika pano neapo, asi nekufamba kwenguva dzinobva dzanyanya kufunga. Vanhu vazhinji vanofunga nezvemudiwa wavo 85% kusvika 100% yenguva. Kazhinji pfungwa idzi hadzipindire nehupenyu hwezuva nezuva, kungogadzira iyo inonakidza kumashure kwayo. Asi dzimwe nguva vanogona kutora pfungwa dzako zvakanyanya zvekuti vanotanga kuvhiringa basa kana kudzidza.
3. Kuumbwa kwemufananidzo wakajeka
Zvinotendwa kuti vanoda vanofungidzira chinhu cherudo rwavo, vasingaoni kukanganisa kwayo. Asi tsvakurudzo inoratidza kuti ichi hachisi chokwadi zvachose. Pachikamu chechitatu chekuwira murudo, iwe unoumba pfungwa yakajeka kwete chete pamusoro pezvakanaka zveanogona kufambidzana naye, asiwo pamusoro pezvikanganiso zvake. Anorega kuva kwauri rudzi rwechisikwa chemashiripiti, iwe unonzwisisa kuti uyu munhuwo zvake mupenyu. Nekudaro, iwe unowanzo kurerutsa zvikanganiso zvake kana kuzviona sezvakanaka eccentricities.
4. Kukwezva, tariro uye kusava nechokwadi
Paunenge uine pfungwa yakajeka yechinhu cherudo, unotanga kukweverwa kwaari zvakanyanya, unonzwa tariro uye kusava nechokwadi, uchitarisira kutanga hukama naye.
Zvose zvinoitika pakati penyu zvinomutsa manzwiro akasimba: kubvumirana kuduku kune chikamu chake - uye zvinoratidzika kwauri kuti manzwiro ako anowirirana, kutsoropodza kwakapfava kunokupinza mukuora mwoyo, uye kunyange kuparadzana kwenguva pfupi kunokonzera kufunganya. Wakatsunga kukunda chero zvipingamupinyi munzira yerudo.
5. Hypomania
Pane imwe nguva, unogona kusangana nemamiriro ezvinhu anonzi hypomania. Iwe uchanzwa kuwedzera kwesimba, kuda kwako kwekudya uye kurara kuchaderera kwechinguva. Asi zvinokonzeresa zvinogonawo kuitika - kuputika, kudedera, kundandama, dikita, kurova kwemoyo, kusagadzikana mukufamba.
6. Godo uye kukurudzira kwakasimba kuita
Wava nechishuwo chinokura chekuda kufarirwa nemunhu uyu. Godo risina musoro rinomuka, iwe unotanga "kuchengeta" chinhu cherudo rwako, uchiedza kusundira vakwikwidzi vako vanogona kubva pairi. Iwe unotya kurambwa, uye panguva imwe chete iwe unokundwa nechishuvo chakasimba chokuva nemudiwa wako.
7. Kunzwa usingabatsiri
Zvichida pane imwe nguva manzwiro ako akasimba achatsiviwa nekunzwa kwekushaya simba zvachose. Pakutanga iwe unogona kuwira mukuora mwoyo, asi zvishoma nezvishoma zvishuvo zvakakomba zvichatanga kupera, uye iwe pachako uchashamisika kuti iwe wakazvibata zvisina musoro.
Iwe unogona kunge uchiri kunyatsoda kuvaka hukama nemunhu uyu, asi iwe unotonzwisisa kuti izvi hazvisi izvo zvakatemerwa kuti zviitike. Iwe unowana zvakare kugona kufunga zvine musoro uye kuita zvine hungwaru.
“Zvinoshamisa kuti kunyange zvazvo tichidanana kakawanda nevaya vatinoona vachikwezva, bonde rinoita basa diki pano,” anotsanangura kudaro Lucy Brown. - Ehe, isu tinoda kuita rudo nemunhu uyu, asi isu tinoshuvira hukama hwepedyo zvakanyanya. Kupfuura zvese, tinoda kufona, kunyorerana uye kupedza nguva nemunhu uyu.
Nezve munyori: Lucy Brown inyanzvi yezveuropiyo.