Mukati
Pasinei nekuti rudo runoita zvinoshamisa, pane zvimwe zvarusingagoni kuita. Hatigoni kuchinja hunhu hunotsanangura hunhu hwemudiwa wedu. Zvingangodaro, kuedza kunopera nechokwadi chokuti hukama hunoparadzwa. Asi kunyange tikafunga kuti tichabvisa mativi ohunhu hwake atinovenga, tichafanira kuva vakagadzirira idi rokuti tichatarisana nomumwe munhu. Kwete watakada. Nyanzvi dzakaunganidza hunhu hunhu uye zvimiro zvemudiwa, mukuremekedza izvo zvakakosha kuwana chibvumirano.
1. Kushamwaridzana nemhuri
Mune joke rinozivikanwa: isu hatiroore mumwe, asi mhuri yake yese - kune chokwadi chakawanda. Manzwiro pamusoro pehama yepedyo anogona kunge akadzama uye haashanduke, zvisinei kuti tingada sei kuti ataure navo zvishoma uye ape nguva yakawanda kumubatanidzwa wedu.
"Kana iwe usingakwanise kupinda mumhuri yake yakabatana, saka chero kuedza kuhwina mudiwa kuti ave parutivi rwako uye kumuita kuti apedze nguva shoma nevadikani kunogona kuguma," anodaro murairidzi wehukama pakati pevanhu Chris Armstrong. - Uye zvakapesana: zvakakosha kupa mumwe wako rusununguko rwekusapinda misangano yemhuri kakawanda sezvaunoita. Manzwiro emhuri akakosha, asi zvakadaro kwete pakukanganisa kwehukama nemudiwa.
2. Introversion / extroversion
Vanopikisa vanokwezva, asi kusvika padanho. Rimwe zuva iwe uchada mumwe wako anoda kunyarara uye kuva wega kuti atsigire chishuwo chako chekupedza akati wandei manheru akatevedzana kubva kumba. “Haugoni kuchinja chimiro chendangariro chomunhu,” anonyevera kudaro nyanzvi yendangariro Samantha Rodman. "Kana, kunyangwe paine polarity yepfungwa, ukafunga kuva pamwe chete, unofanirwa kupana rusununguko rwekuva wega."
3.Hobby
Zvatinofarira, izvo zvisina chekuita nekuziva kwehunyanzvi, zvinobatsira kuchengetedza chiyero chemukati. "Tinorasikirwa nepfungwa yekugutsikana uye kutonga pamusoro pehupenyu hwedu pachedu kana tikarasikirwa nezvatisingaite nekuda kuita mari, asi nekuda kwekunakidzwa kwedu," anodaro Chris Armstrong. "Kana pakutanga kweukama zvichiita kwauri kuti mudiwa wako anoshandisa nguva yakawandisa kuita skiing, kutamba ballroom kana mhuka dzinovaraidza, haufanirwe kufunga kuti izvi zvichachinja kana matanga kugara mese."
4. Kutonga kwehasha
Kana munhu waunoda kuvaka naye hukama akaputika pamusoro pezvinhu zvisingakoshi zvinogona kugadziriswa nyore nyore murugare, haufaniri kutarisira kuti rudo runogona kuchinja izvi. "Iri idambudziko rinoda kutorwa zvakanyanya kubva pakutanga," akadaro Carl Pilmar, purofesa wezvemagariro evanhu paCornell University uye munyori anotengesa zvakanyanya weXNUMX Advice for Lovers. "Hasha uye kusazvidzora hunhu huchatowedzera nekufamba kwemakore."
5. Maonero echitendero
“Kazhinji dambudziko rekusapindirana kwemaonero echitendero rinoonekwa mushure mekuzvarwa kwevana. “Kunyange kana mukwanyina wacho asati ataura pamusoro pezvaanotenda, nokuuya kwevana, anoda kuti varererwe mutsika dzomudzimu pedyo naye,” anodaro Samantha Rodman. “Kana mumwe wacho aine mamwe maonero echitendero, akazova asingatendi kuvapo kwaMwari kana kuti asingatendi kuti Mwari ariko, sezvingabvira haasati achizotsigira pfungwa yokuti dzidziso dzaasingazivi dzinorovererwa mumwana.”
6. Kuda kuva woga
Iwe unoyedza kushandisa yega yega miniti yemahara pamwe chete, nepo mudiwa achida nzvimbo yavo. "Kudiwa kwemudiwa kuti ave ega kunogona kuverengwa sechinhu chaunorambwa, uye kupindura zvinorwadza," anotsanangura kudaro Chris Armstrong. - Zvichakadaro, nguva inopedzwa yakaparadzana inobvumidza iwe kuchengetedza hutsva hwemanzwiro, humunhu hweumwe neumwe, izvo zvinozopedzisira zvasimbisa mubatanidzwa.
Apo vanhu vanogara vari pamwe chete, mumwe wavo angava nokunzwa kwokuti ukama ndicho chinhu bedzi chavari kuita. Izvi zvinokonzeresa kupikisa kwemukati mumumwe wake, uyo anoda imwe nguva yake kuti afunge nezve chiitiko chitsva, kuti aone zvinoshanduka zvishuwo uye zvinodiwa.
7. Kudiwa kwekuronga
Iwe unofanirwa kunyatsoronga nhanho imwe neimwe, nepo mudiwa achifarira sarudzo dzega mune zvese. Pakutanga, musiyano uyu unogona kubatsira kuhukama: rimwe divi rinobatsira rimwe kuti rirarame mune yazvino uye kunzwa kunaka kwechinguvana, rimwe rinopa chivimbo mune ramangwana uye nyaradzo kubva kune chokwadi chekuti zvakawanda zvakave zvakagadzirirwa zvakanaka. .
"Zvinoita sekunge aya haasi iwo emhando yekupokana mumaonero anogona kukanganisa hukama. Nekudaro, zvese zvinoenderana nekuoma kwekukanganisa uku, anoyambira chiremba wepfungwa Jill Weber. - Kana iwe ukashandisa simba rako rose uchiedza kugutsikana kuti ungapedza sei vhiki yevhiki uye kana zvakakosha kunyatsoronga bhajeti yemhuri, izvi zvichange zvisingadzivisiki zvinotungamirira kumakakatanwa. Kusiyana kwakadaro kunobatanidzwa nemaitiro e psyche, uye hauzombofi wakashandura mumunhu nzira yake yekuwana kuchengeteka mupfungwa uye kunyaradza.
8. Maonero kuvana
Kana pakutanga kwemisangano anotaura chokwadi kuti haadi vana, unofanira kutenda izvi. "Kutarisira kuti maonero ake achachinja sezvo hukama hwenyu hunokura hunogona kusabhadhara," anodaro Armstrong. - Zvinowanzoitika kana munhu akanyevera kuti akagadzirira kuita vana chete kana aine chivimbo kune mumwe wake, agara naye kwenguva yakati. Zvisinei, kana iwe ukanzwa kuti anopesana nokuva mubereki, uye izvi zvinopesana nezvido zvako, zvakakosha kufunga nezveramangwana rehukama hwakadaro.
9. Kunzwa kuseka
"Basa rangu nevaroorani vakagara pamwe chete kwenguva yakareba rinoratidza kuti matambudziko mazhinji emunguva yemberi anogona kufanotaurwa nekubvunza mubvunzo mumwe chete: vanhu vanoona zvinhu zvakafanana zvinosetsa? Carl Pilmer ane chokwadi. Kuseka kwakafanana kunobuda kuva chiratidzo chakanaka chekugarisana kwevakaroorana. Kana iwe ukaseka pamwe chete, saka kazhinji iwe une maonero akafanana pamusoro penyika, uye iwe uchabata zvakanyanya zvinhu zvakakomba nenzira yakafanana.