Kuyaruka: zera miganho, zvekuita

The mother of a 16-year-old teenager wrote a column for healthy-food-near-me.com. She is sure: this horror story about a difficult period of growing up was invented by adults to justify the misunderstanding between themselves and the child.

Usati watanga kundipotsera matombo, rega ndizvizivise. Ini ndinonzi Natalya, uye ini - kwete, kwete chidhakwa. Ndiri mai vemusikana achiri kuyaruka. Akanaka wangu Alexandra akachinja makore gumi nematanhatu.

Zera rinoshamisa, handizvo here? Kudanana, kubudirira, hudiki - zvese zvatakasiya munguva yakapfuura zvinowanzo kufukidzwa nerunyararo. Asi vabereki vachiri vachiri vadiki vanofunga nekutya kuti vacheche vavo rimwe zuva vanozove vayaruka.

“Idzi ndidzo hondo dzemahormone, zvido, mhirizhonga - tarisai kuti vechidiki vanhasi vanozvibata sei. Achawana tattoo sei? Kana mugero munzeve? Kana kuti pamwe anotanga kuputa, kunwa, kutanga bonde, kubvisa nhumbu… ”Pane zvikonzero zvakawanda zvekuzvibiridzira. Asi zvakakosha here?

Dzese idzi mhirizhonga uye kuratidzira izvo vabereki vemazuva ano vanotya kwazvo (uye zvedu uye newe wanga uchitya futi), ingori chishuwo chekuratidza kukura kwavo. Rangarira iwe pachako - mushure mezvose, isu, zvakare, takambozvionera pachedu zvese zvakashata uye mufaro wepanyama. Asi kuyedza uku kwese hakuna kuguma nedutu remakaro ekumahombekombe, handiti?

Uye kunaani isu takaratidza kukwira kwedu uye kuva vanhu vakuru? Vezera rangu - hongu. Asi ini ndinotenda kuti ivo vairatidza pakutanga kwezvose nekuti vabereki, avo kusvika nguva pfupi yadarika vaive zvidhori kwatiri uye, kazhinji, zvese, zvese, zvese, isu isu vechidiki, havana kuzviona vakaenzana. Asi pasina. Ehe, vechidiki havana ruzivo. Ehezve, kutonga kwavo kwakanyanyisa kudanana uye kwakakamurwa. Asi kungwara pazera iri kwakatogadzirwa, uye haugone kupokana nazvo. Uye kana iwe ukakwanisa kudzidzisa mumwana kugona kuita sarudzo ega, ichave iri nguva yekurega kumubata semwana asina musoro.

Zvakaoma? Kwete, hazvina kuoma.

Nenzira, uye kuzvisimbisa mudenderedzwa revezera ikozvino kunogamuchirwa kwete nekuyedza nechitarisiko uye udhakwa hwevechidiki (kunyange naivowo), asi nehuropi. Botanists ndidzo hasha dzese mazuva ano.

Kubva pakufunga kuti uwane ruzivo. Neimwe chikonzero, ini ndaisatya zera rekuchinja. Kunyangwe iye pachezvake aive achiripo chipo - madiscos, vakomana, ndakaedza kuputa mugiredhi re9, ndikasiya chete makore gumi apfuura. Pasi pesimba remwanasikana wangu, nenzira, iyo yakawanda yekutenda kwaari.

"Ugh, kunhuwirira kwakadii," ngano yangu yemakore matanhatu yakambomonyorora mhino yake. Uye ndizvozvo chete. Akatemwa sei.

Asi Sasha - zvese zvakanaka naye. Unonzwisisa here? Iye anodzidza, anoenda mune zvemitambo, anofarira kunyora software yeApple. Panguva imwecheteyo, haagumburwe netsitsi dzevakomana. Musikana akanaka (ndichaona pasina mwero wenhema). Shamwari zhinji, kusanganisira mumba medu.

Zvechidiki kuyedza nechitarisiko? Zvakanaka, kwete pasina izvozvo. Sasha ane maburi mashanu munzeve dzake, uye bvudzi rake nguva nenguva rakapendwa mavara ekupenga. Asi ndinoreurura handioni chakaipa pane izvozvo. Akaita kuboora nemari yake yekutanga yaakatambira. Ndakamubatsira kudhaya bvudzi rake - kunyangwe kana zviri nani neshampo tint pane mune wekugera bvudzi kwehafu yehupenyu hwake. Uye ini pachangu ndine mhete ina munzeve dzangu… Ndisingataure nezve matattoo akaita kuti amai vangu vabate pamoyo wavo.

Zvichakadaro, ini ndiri amai vanozivikanwa kwazvo parukova. Shamwari dzaSasha dzinondida paFacebook, uye ndinotaura navo mumashoko.

Mufananidzo kubva pakuratidzira, uye hapana chimwezve. Wakamboona here kuti hakuna baba maari? Haapo zvechokwadi muhupenyu hwedu. Takarambana makore gumi nemaviri apfuura, ane imwe mhuri, haamboyeuke mwanasikana wake mukuru, kutaura chokwadi. Zvichida nekuda kweizvi, zvakare, Alexandra neni takava shamwari dzepamwoyo.

Hechino, kiyi. Hatisi amai nemwanasikana chete. Tiri shamwari. Ehe, ini ndinogona zvese kurira uye kunyomba. Uye kumbira ruregerero zvakare. Kwenguva yakareba kwazvo ndajaira kuona mwanasikana wangu sechisikwa chakazvimiririra, uye kwete imwe yemhando yangu yekuwedzera. Naizvozvo, kazhinji tinongobvumirana. Uye kazhinji - tinotaura. Tiri kutaura nezvevakomana vedu (hongu, ndinazvo, uye Sasha anoziva nezvazvo). Vaaidzidza navo uye vaaidzidza navo. Tinotonyeya nezvevadzidzisi. Isu tinoenda pamwechete kunonwa kofi kana kuchovha mabhasikoro - haugone kufungidzira kambani iri nani. Zvakanaka, uye nekuregeredza maonero eshamwari, kunyanya kana zvasvika kune nyaya yemusimboti kwaari - ungazviita here? Ini kwete.

Uye iye zvakare anoziva zvechokwadi: ini ndinogara ndiri padivi pake. Uye kunyangwe Sasha akauraya nekudya mumwe munhu, ndinotenda nemoyo wese kuti anga asina imwe sarudzo. Uye ndine chokwadi chakasimba kuti achandipindura nerutsigiro rwusingaenzaniswi.

Pano, pamwe, zvakakodzera kuita kuchengetedza. Ndine makore makumi matatu nemashanu. Ini ndakabereka mwanasikana wangu mangwanani, pa 35. Zvichida ndosaka zviri nyore kwandiri kuti ndiwane mutauro wakafanana naye. Mushure mezvose, ini ndichiri kurangarira iwo manzwiro akarova pfungwa dzangu kuita soufflé yemusango yezviuru zvezvigadzirwa. Izvi zvinoreva here kuti dambudziko rezera rekuchinja harisi dambudziko remwana, asi rako, iro rakakura kubva pagaka rezvizvarwa? Izvo hazvina kusiyiwa. Haisi iyo dambudziko pachayo, asi kuti unoiona sei.

Vanamai vanowanzoona mwana seprojekti. Uye ivo vanoumba chirongwa ichi kubva pairi nenzira ipi neipi, nehusimbe hwesatani. Uye hunhu hwemwana iye amene hunodonha kunze kweichi chiitiko. Pamwe haina kana zera zvachose. Uye mune zvakawanda sei zvawakagadzirira kuudza mwana wako: "Iwe uri mukuru. Ndinokuda uye ndinotenda mauri. ”Uye zvitende nemwoyo wese.

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