Kumiririra kodzero dzako uye kuda kuremekedzwa iwe pachako maitiro anotaura nezveunhu hwakasimba. Asi vamwe vanoenda kure zvakanyanya, vachida kubatwa chaiko. Izvi zvinobereka zvibereko, asi kwete kwenguva refu - mukufamba kwenguva, vanhu vakadaro vanogona kuramba vasina kufara.
Sezvinei, vhidhiyo yechiitiko panhandare yendege yakaonekwa paWebhu: mufambi anongoda kuti vashandi vendege vamutendere kuti akwire nebhodhoro remvura. Idzo dzinoreva mitemo inorambidza kutakura zvinwiwa newe. Mutakurwi haadzokeri shure: “Asi kune mvura tsvene. Uri kuti ndirase mvura tsvene here? Kupokana kunomira.
Mutakuri wacho aiziva kuti chikumbiro chake chaipesana nemitemo. Zvisinei, akanga ane chokwadi chokuti kwakanga kuri kwaari kuti vashandi vanofanira kuita chimwe chinhu.
Nguva nenguva, tese tinosangana nevanhu vanoda kurapwa kwakakosha. Vanotenda kuti nguva yavo inokosha kupfuura nguva yevamwe, matambudziko avo anofanira kutanga agadziriswa, chokwadi chinogara chiri parutivi rwavo. Kunyange zvazvo maitiro aya achiwanzovabatsira kuwana nzira yavo, inogona kutungamirira mukuvhiringidzika.
Shuwa kuva nesimba rose
“Munoziva zvose izvi, makandiona kuti ndakarerwa munyoro, handina kutsungirira chando kana nzara, handina kuziva chinodiwa, handina kuwana zvokudya nokuda kwangu uye kazhinji ndaisaita tsvina. Saka wakazviwana sei zvivindi zvekundifananidza nevamwe? Ndine hutano hwakadai seava "vamwe" here? Ndingaita sei zvose izvi uye kutsungirira? - iyo tirade iyo Goncharovsky Oblomov inotaura muenzaniso wakanaka wekuti vanhu vanogutsikana nekusagadzikana kwavo vanopokana sei.
Kana tarisiro dzisiri dzechokwadi dzikasazadzikiswa, tinogumburwa zvikuru—nevatinoda, nzanga, uye kunyange chisiko chapose pose pachacho.
“Vanhu vakadaro vanowanzokura vachiwirirana naamai vavo, vakapoteredzwa nokutarisira, vakajaira chokwadi chokuti zvishuvo zvavo nezvavanoda zvinozadzika nguva dzose,” anotsanangura kudaro chiremba wepfungwa Jean-Pierre Friedman.
“Munguva youcheche, tinonzwa vamwe vanhu serutivi rwedu timene,” anodaro mumwe muongorori wepfungwa dzevana Tatyana Bednik. — Zvishoma nezvishoma tinojairana nenyika yekunze uye tinonzwisisa kuti hatina simba pamusoro pazvo. Kana isu takadzivirirwa zvakanyanya, tinotarisira zvakafanana kubva kune vamwe. "
Kurwisana nechokwadi
“Iye, unoziva, anofamba zvishoma nezvishoma. Uye chinonyanya kukosha, anodya mazuva ese. " Mhosva mumweya weavo kuti mumwe wevatambi muDovlatov's "Underwood Solo" akaitirwa mudzimai wake anofananidzira vanhu vane pfungwa yekuzvisarudzira kwavo. Hukama hahuunzi mufaro kwavari: zvinoita sei, mudiwa haafembere zvishuwo zvavo pakatarisa! Asingadi kurega zvishuvo zvake nokuda kwavo!
Kana kariro dzisiri dzechokwadi dzikasaitwa, vanoshatirwa zvikuru—vadiwa, nzanga yose zvayo, uye kunyange chisiko chapose pose pachacho. Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzinocherechedza kuti vanhu vechitendero vane pfungwa yakadzika midzi yokuva vakazvisarudzira vangatotsamwira Mwari wavanodavira nemwoyo wose kana iye, semaonero avo, asingavapi zvakavafanira.1.
Dziviriro dzinokutadzisa kukura
Kuodzwa mwoyo kunogona kutyisidzira ego, zvichikonzera hutsinye hunotyisa, uye kazhinji kunetseka kusingazive: "Ko kana ndisiri munhu akakosha."
Iyo psyche inorongwa nenzira iyo iyo yakanyanya simba yekudzivirira yepfungwa inokandwa kuchengetedza munhu. Panguva imwecheteyo, munhu anoramba achienderera mberi kubva kune chokwadi: somuenzaniso, anoona chikonzero chezvinetso zvake kwete maari, asi mune vamwe (iyi ndiyo nzira yekufungidzira inoshanda). Saka, mushandi akadzingwa anogona kutaura kuti mukuru webasa "akapona" nekuda kwegodo retarenda rake.
Zviri nyore kuona mune vamwe zviratidzo zvekunyanya kuzvitutumadza. Zvakaoma kuzviwana mauri. Vazhinji vanotenda muhupenyu kururamisira - asi kwete zvakazara, asi zvakanangana ivo pachavo. Tichawana basa rakanaka, matarenda edu achakosheswa, isu tichapihwa mutero, isu ndisu tichadhirowa tikiti rerombo mulottery. Asi hapana anogona kuvimbisa kuzadzika kwezvishuwo izvi.
Kana isu tichitenda kuti nyika haina chikwereti kwatiri, isu hatisundire kure, asi kubvuma ruzivo rwedu uye nokudaro kukudziridza kusimba mukati medu.
1 J. Grubbs nevamwe. "Unhu Kukodzera: A Cognitive-Personality Source of Vulnerability to Psychological Distress", Psychological Bulletin, Aug 8, 2016.