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Makumbo asina kugerwa, kupeta nema stretch marks… Muviri wakanaka unobatanidzwa nevakawanda nemufananidzo unosembura chete. Asi nei zvose izvi zvichiita sezvisina kunaka kwatiri zvachose? Chii chatinotya kana isu tichishora iyo iyo pfungwa yekufamba? Sei tichifunga kuti kuenderana nemafungiro evamwe vanhu zviri nani pane kutevera mazano edu erunako?
Sei tichida muviri positivity?
Ini ndinofunga zvakakosha kutanga nekujekesa izvo muviri positivity sefambo rinonyatsoita. Uye nokuda kweizvi, ngatidzokerei nhanho uye tifunge nezve dambudziko rakazova nzvimbo yekutanga yekuonekwa kwayo.
Dambudziko guru kune vazhinji vedu nderekuti mafungiro edu akaipa kumuviri wedu uye "kukanganisa" kwaro kunobvisa zvinhu zvedu zvinokosha: simba, nguva, mari.
Isu tinogadzirisa nyaya dzatisina kudzora zvakanyanya pane zvinotendwa zvinotendwa. Uyezve, kururamiswa kwe "kukanganisa" kwemuviri ndeyekudyara kusingabatsiri, kana tikadhirowa analogies nebhizinesi. Isu tinopihwa kuisa zvese zvatinazvo mubhizimusi rine njodzi. Tinogona kupesvedzera migumisiro yaro chete zvisina kunanga. Uye hapana anopa chero vimbiso, kunyanya mukufamba kwenguva, kuti tichawana uye nekuchengeta izvo zvatinorota nezvazvo.
Uye iyo pfungwa huru yemuviri positivity ndeyekuti haufanirwe kuisa mari mu "venture fund" yekutaridzika: isu tine mamwe akawanda mapurojekiti ekudyara mazviri. Body positivity inobatsira vanhu kurarama munharaunda kana miviri yavo isingasangane. "zviyero". Kupona muruvengo rwunovawira kubva kunze. Uye kubata neanovadzvanya kubva mukati.
Isu tine hutongi hushoma pamusoro pemuviri pane izvo vezvenhau vari kuedza kutiudza.
Body positivity inotipa zvigadziro zvekutarisana nemutsoropodzi wemukati, iyo inowanzochengetwa muvakadzi kubva paudiki. Somuverengi wechiteshi changu cheteregiramu nenzira yokuchenjera: “Hafu yokutanga yeupenyu hwako vanokuudza chiri kunetsa pauri, uye hafu yechipiri vanoedza kutengesa mari inozobetsera kuigadzirisa.” Kana zviri zve "kushivirira" uye "propaganda yemafuta", ayo anowanzo kupomerwa kusimba kwemuviri, aya mitsara pachawo, inoratidzika kwandiri, akafanana nemamwe echinyakare mafomula ekurera sekuti "unogona kukanganisa mwana nerudo uye nehanya."
Kutanga, munhu haagoni “kupambwa” nokumupa pfuma. Chechipiri, kuita zvakanaka kwemuviri kusimudzirwa kwemararamiro ane hutano hwepfungwa. Uye chechitatu, zvakare, isu tine hutongi hushoma pamusoro pemuviri pane izvo vezvenhau vari kuyedza kutiudza nemisoro yavo senge "Maitiro ekudzikisa zvitsitsinho mumazuva mashanu." Muviri hausi chipfeko chinogona kukurumidza kuchinjwa kana chisiri fashoni mwaka uno. Inosanganisirwa mune yedu "Ini". Muviri chikamu chekuzvigadzira kwedu, kwete chinhu chatinogona kushandisa sezvatinoda.
Zvinhu zvechikadzi zvakanyanya
Zvakakosha kuziva kuti kufamba kwemuviri-zvakanaka kunobva mumafungiro uye nyaya dzechikadzi uye nhasi inoramba iri chikamu chakakosha chehurongwa hwayo. Mune chero foramu, mune chero magazini, musoro wezvekudya uye muviri uchange uri wevakadzi chete: 98% yevanhu vane hanya nezvenyaya dzine hukama vakadzi.
Chii chinowanzobatanidzwa muchirongwa chevarume? Kufamba nepasirese, bhizinesi, basa, mabhuku, bhizinesi, kusika, kusikwa. Uye chii chiri pachirongwa chevakadzi? "Tanga uzvichenese, chero zvazvinoreva, uyezve, Cinderella, unogona kuenda kubhora."
Nekutarisisa nekuvhara pfungwa dzevakadzi pamusoro penyaya yekuzvishandura ivo, vanonyimwa mukana wekupesvedzera nyika neimwe nzira. Apo patinotaura kuti feminism haichadiwi, ndeyechinyakare uye ikozvino isu tose tine kodzero dzakaenzana - zvakakosha kutarisa nhamba. Varume vangani uye vakadzi vangani vari kuita basa rerunako uye kuzvidya mwoyo-kunovaka muviri? Tichabva taona kusaenzana kukuru.
Muhurongwa hwemadzibaba, mukadzi chinhu. Chinhu chine humwe hunhu uye mabasa anobatsira. Kana iwe uri chinhu, chinhu chinofanira kugara chine "mharidzo", saka unova munhu anogona kushandiswa. Iyi ndiyo nzira iyo "tsika yemhirizhonga" inozvarwa, uye inotsamira pane ichi chinyorwa.
Somuenzaniso, munguva pfupi yapfuura ndakawana chinyorwa* chine nhamba dzinotyisa pamusoro penhamba yavana vaduku vanotengeswa muuranda hwevatano. Uye 99% yavo vasikana. Kunyangwe 1% yevakomana vari mutraffic iyi zviri pachena kuti haina kuitirwa vakadzi. Kana tichiti murume kana mukadzi haana basa mumhosva dzakadai, ko avo vanobhadhara “kodzero” yekubhinya vana ava ndivanaani? Zvinokwanisika here kuti angave ari munhu wechikadzi? Zvinoita here kufungidzira mukadzi anotenga “basa” rakadaro odzokera kumba kumhuri yake sokunge kuti hapana chakaitika?
Kutya, mhosva, kusava nechokwadi - iyi ijeri umo vakadzi vanosungwa nekufunganya pamusoro pemuviri uye kukosha kwavo.
Sosaiti yakatora nguva refu uye ichiramba ichirwisana nevatano yevakadzi uye kuratidzwa kwayo kushoma, zvisinei, “kodzero yebonde” yechirume yakaenzaniswa neinoda kusvika pamwero wechinodiwa chinokosha. Mhosva huru mukurwisa kuhura kwemunhukadzi muviri**. Kune rumwe rutivi, anodiwa kuti ave sexy-kureva, kuratidza zvepabonde kukwezva varume.
Kune rumwe rutivi, maitiro anotsanangurwa kuti ashandiswe kuzadzisa chinangwa ichi (zvirambidzo, kudya, kuvhiyiwa kwepurasitiki, nzira dzinorwadza dzerunako, shangu dzisina kugadzikana uye zvipfeko) hazviiti zvachose pakunzwa kwekuita zvepabonde nemukadzi pachake. Izvi zvinonyatsoratidzwa nemashoko evakadzi mumaforamu akasiyana-siyana: "Murume wangu akati ndinoda kuderedza uremu, haachandidi." Kana kuti: "Ndinotya kuti hakuna munhu achandida" nezvimwe zvakadaro. Mushanduro dzinosuruvarisa: "Ndezvipi zvinonyaradza kurwadziwa kana zvese zvichirwadza mushure mekusununguka, uye murume anoda bonde."
Kutya, mhosva, kusava nechokwadi - iyi ijeri umo vakadzi vanosungwa nekuzvidya mwoyo pamusoro pemuviri uye kukosha kwavo kuburikidza nemuviri chete. Kune zviuru nemamiriyoni avo - avo vari musungo uyu. Maererano nenhamba dzeAmerica, 53% yevasikana vane makore gumi nematatu havagutsikani nemiviri yavo, uye nezera remakore gumi nemanomwe vanotova 17%. Uye, hongu, izvi zvinoisa njodzi huru pakukura kwekudya kusagadzikana ***.
Why body positivity inokonzera hasha
Zvichida kune kutya kwakawanda muchisimba chinowira pane positivity yemuviri. Zvinotyisa kurasikirwa nezvawakaisa mazviri kwenguva yakareba. Kuratidzira kwedutu kunokonzerwa nemaitiro akareruka, zvinoratidzika, pfungwa: ngatiremekedzanei pasinei nechitarisiko. Ngatirege kuregedza mazwi anogumbura uye usashandise ukuru, zviyero zvemuviri sekutuka. Mushure mezvose, shoko rokuti "mafuta" rava kutuka kuvakadzi. Muti wakakora ingori tsananguro, uye katsi yakakora kazhinji inoyevedza, kunyangwe murume akafuta anogona achiri kunzwika se "akasimba" dzimwe nguva.
Asi kana muviri ukarega kuva chiratidzo choukuru, kana tisingachagonizve kudada kuti takaderera, zvino tinganzwa sei zviri nani kupfurikidza nokuzvienzanisa timene navamwe?
Maonero achinja. Uye pamwe haufanirwe kutsvaga avo vakashata kana vari nani. Zvichida inguva yekutarisa mukati uye kuona kuti chii chimwe chinonakidza kwatiri, kunze kwechimiro, chitarisiko?
Mupfungwa iyi, positivity yemuviri inotipa rusununguko rutsva - rusununguko rwekuzvisimudzira, kuzvivandudza. Anotipa mukana wekupedzisira kurega kurasikirwa, kugadzira, kupfekedza mumwe munhu uye kune mumwe munhu, uye pakupedzisira kuita chimwe chinhu chinonakidza chaizvo - kufamba, basa, kugadzira. Ini zvangu uye ini.
* https://now.org/now-foundation/love-your-body/love-your-body-whats-it-all-about/get-the-facts/
** Muviri, chikafu, zvepabonde uye kufunganya. Chii chinonetsa mukadzi wanhasi. Clinical psychologist tsvakurudzo. Lapina Julia. Alpina isiri-fiction, 2020
*** https://mediautopia.ru/story/obeshhanie-luchshej-zhizni-kak-deti-popadayut-v-seks-rabstvo/