"Handisi kutaura newe!" - kana iwe ukanzwa mazwi aya kubva kune mumwe wako kakawanda, kana ipapo pane kunyarara kwemazuva mazhinji uye somugumisiro unofanirwa kuita zvikonzero, kukumbira, kukumbira ruregerero, uye chii - iwe pachako hauzivi, zvichida inguva. kuti ufunge kana mudiwa ari kukunyengedza .
Ivan akanzwisisa kuti ane mhosva yechimwe chinhu, asi haana kuziva kuti chii. Kwemazuva mashoma apfuura, mudzimai wake airamba achingoramba kutaura naye. Zvaiva pachena kuti akanga agumburwa nechimwe chinhu. Dambudziko nderekuti ainyatsomutsoropodza zuva nezuva pamusana pezvimwe zvikanganiso uye kudarika, saka haana kuziva kuti chii chakaita kuti arambe.
She recently had a corporate party at work, maybe ainwa doro and said something stupid ipapo? Kana kuti akasvotwa nemurwi wendiro dzisina kusukwa dzaungana mukicheni? Kana kuti zvichida akatanga kushandisa mari yakawandisa pazvokudya, achiedza kuomerera pakudya kunovaka muviri? Rimwe zuva, akatumira shoko rokunyomba kushamwari yake kuti mudzimai wake akanga asiri kufara naye zvakare, zvichida akariverenga?
Kazhinji Ivan mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro akareurura kuzvivi zvose zvinofungidzirwa uye zvisingafungidziki, akakumbira ruregerero uye akamukumbira kuti atange kutaura naye zvakare. Haana kukwanisa kutsungirira kunyarara kwake. Iyewo, akabvuma kukumbira ruregerero kwake achizengurira, akamutuka zvikuru, uye zvishoma nezvishoma akatangazve kurukurirano. Nehurombo, izvi zvese zvairamba zvichidzokororwa anenge masvondo maviri ega ega.
Asi panguva ino, akafunga kuti akanga awana zvakakwana. Aive aneta nekubatwa semwana mudiki. Akatanga kunzwisisa kuti nebetsero yokuramba, mudzimai wake anodzora mufambiro wake ndokumumanikidza kuita mutoro wakanyanyisa. Pakutanga kwehukama, akafunga kuti taciturnity sechiratidzo chekugadzirisa, asi iye zvino akaona zvakajeka kuti uku kwaiva kungonyengedza.
Kurambana murudo inzira yekushungurudza pfungwa. Mafomu akajairika.
1. Kufuratira. Nekuregeredza iwe, mudiwa anoratidza kuregeredza. Anoratidza zvakajeka kuti haakukoshesi uye ari kuedza kukuisa pasi pekuda kwake. Semuenzaniso, anoita seasingakuone, sekunge iwe usipo, anonyepedzera kusanzwa mazwi ako, "anokanganwa" nezve zvirongwa zvekubatana, anotarisa iwe achizvidzikisira.
2. Kudzivisa kukurukura. Dzimwe nguva mudiwa wacho haakuregereri zvachose, asi anovhara, nekushingaira kudzivisa kutaurirana. Semuenzaniso, anopa mhinduro-syllable kumibvunzo yako yese, haakutarise muziso, anoburuka nemashoko akajairika paunobvunza nezve chimwe chinhu chakananga, achin'un'una pasi pekufema kwake kana kudzivisa kupindura nekungoerekana achinja nyaya. Nokudaro, anobvisa kurukurirano ipi neipi uye anoratidzazve mafungire ake okuzvidza.
3. Kuparadza. Mukwanyina akadaro anoedza nenzira isina mufungo kukushaisa kuzvivimba. Haazive zvawakaita, haakubvumiri kuti uite mabasa ako pachako, anongoerekana achinja zvaanoda, anokudzivisa pakavanda kubudirira. Kazhinji izvi zvinoitwa muchivande uye pakutanga hautombonzwisisi zviri kuitika.
4. Kuramba kushamwaridzana kwenyama. Achiramba zviratidzo zvechidakadaka norudo kwauri, iye, kutaura idi, anokuramba. Kazhinji izvi zvinoitika pasina mazwi: mudiwa anodzivirira kubata kwako kana kutsvoda, anodzivirira chero hukama hwenyama. Anogona kuramba bonde, achiti bonde harina kukosha kwaari.
5. Kuparadzaniswa nevadiwa. Ari kuedza kuganhurira hupenyu hwako hwekushamwaridzana. Somuenzaniso, anorambidza kukurukura nehama dzokunyama dzingakudzivirira kwaari, achiruramisa ikoku kupfurikidza nokutaura kuti vari kuedza kuparadza ushamwari, “vanondivenga,” “havambokuitiri zvamazvirokwazvo.” Nokudaro, kukanganisa kunopfuurira kwete iwe chete, asiwo kuhama dzako, dzisingazivi chinhu.
6. Kukuvadza mukurumbira. Nenzira iyi, mudiwa ari kuedza kukuparadzanisa kubva kuboka rose revanhu: shamwari, vaunoshanda navo, shamwari muzvikamu nemapoka. Anovaita kuti vakuramwe nokuparadzira makuhwa enhema anosvibisa zita rako.
Somuenzaniso, kana iwe uri mutendi uye uchigara uchishanyira temberi imwe chete, mumwe wako angaparadzira runyerekupe rwokuti warasa kutenda kwako kana kuti uri kuzvibata zvisina kufanira. Iwe unofanirwa kuita zvikonzero, izvo zvinogara zvakaoma uye zvisingafadzi.
Apo Ivan akaziva nzira dzipi dzekugadzirisa uye chisimba chepfungwa chinoshandisa mudzimai wake, pakupedzisira akasarudza kumusiya.
Nezve Nyanzvi: Kristin Hammond inyanzvi yezvepfungwa uye nyanzvi mukubata nekunetsana kwemhuri.