“Upenyu hunopedzwa zvachose kuti hushuvirwe”, akanyora Jean de la Bruyère muLes Caractères, kubva ku1688. Munyori, nekuratidza izvi, akasimbirira mufirigree pamusoro pebasa rinokosha, muupenyu hwedu, hwekufungidzira, izvi zvinoratidzira zvinomiririra zvinoshandura zvido zvedu. Zvakadai, semuenzaniso, chokwadi chekugadzira zviitiko zvisina kuzadzikiswa, kana chido chepabonde icho munhu asati, kana kuti asati azadzisa. Vamwe vanhu vanosvika pakubvumirana nemafungiro avo. Vamwe vanosarudza kuvadzora. Vamwe, vagutse. Zvakadini kana, pakupedzisira, kusangana nazvo muupenyu chaihwo kuchiita kuti vaodze mwoyo? Zvakadini kana, kupfurikidza nokuvachengeta vane godo, ivo vachibetserawo kutichengeta tiri vapenyu?

"Mafungiro haatonge hupenyu hwepabonde, ndicho chikafu chayo", akatsigira chiremba wepfungwa wechiFrench Henri Barte. Kugadzirwa kwefungidziro kuburikidza neprism iyo ego inogona kutsvaga kutiza kubata kwechokwadi, fungidziro, chaizvo sekufungidzira, zvakare inoratidzira nhema, kana dzisiri dzechokwadi. Etymologically, inobva muchiGiriki dummy zvinoreva kuti “chitarisiko”.

Kufungidzira pabonde kunosanganisira, semuenzaniso, mukufungidzira zviitiko, zviitiko zvepabonde izvo kusvika panguva ino zvisati zvazadzikiswa. David Lodge, mukati Nyika yedzidzo, saka vakafungidzira kuti “Hupenyu hwepabonde hwemunhu wese hunoumbwa nefungidziro, pamwe nekurudziro nemhando dzezvinyorwa, ngano, nyaya pamwe nemifananidzo nemafirimu”. Saka, mavara eVicomte de Valmont naMarquise de Merteuil, varatidziri vaviri vebhuku rakakurumbira reepistolary Les Liaisons Dangereuses, vanogona, semuenzaniso, kudyisa fungidziro dzakawanda… Kufungidzira kuri munzira yepfungwa yezvepabonde.

Kune fungidziro dzepabonde, asiwo narcissistic fantasies, izvo zvino zvine chekuita neiyo ego. Kune rumwe rutivi, mamwe mafungiro anogona kuziva, uye aya ndiwo mareveries emasikati uye zvirongwa, uye vamwe havazivi: munyaya iyi vanoratidzwa kuburikidza nekurota uye neurotic zviratidzo. Dzimwe nguva fungidziro yacho inogona kutungamirira kuzviito zvakanyanyisa. 

Humwewo huri fungidziro naizvozvo maumbirwo efungidziro. Ivo, mupfungwa iyi, vakapa nzira yehumambo yekuongorora kuratidzwa kwekusaziva. Ngatisakanganwa kuti chirevo chinoenda, “Chinhu chinorambidzwa, chinodiwa”...

“Rudo rwekufungidzira ruri nani pane rudo runorarama. Kusatora matanho, kunonakidza kwazvo ”, akanyora Andy Warhol. Sezvineiwo, Oscar Wilde akati: “Nzira bedzi yokubvisa nayo muedzo kutera mauri. Ramba, uye mweya wako unorwara nekuora mwoyo izvo zvinozvirambidza iwe pachako ». Chii chaunofanira kuita, ipapoka, kana munhu akabatwa nefungidziro? Zvichida, nomutoo wakapfava, unorangarira kuti, kana ukazviwana muupenyu chaihwo, zvichava zvinoodza mwoyo?

Kana kuti, tinogona here kuzviwana kuburikidza neprism yenhetembo nemabhuku? Nhetembo, inova, yaPierre Seghers, "Pivot yeuyo anozvitsvaga mukupokanidzana kwake, mukusaenzana kwemauto ake, izwi rekudaidzira kupenga, kuvapo kunyangwe fungidziro".

Zvinoita here kuti uzvifungidzire, zvakare, chete kana zvichienderana newe pachako? Kufanana naFrançoise Dolto, uyo, somuenzaniso, aingofarira dzidziso yomumwe munhu kana aigona kuzviita yake amene? Kureva kuti dai aikwanisa "Tsvaga ipapo, akataurwa zvakasiyana nezvaangadai akaita, fungidziro dzake, zvaakawana, ruzivo rwake". Uye, zvino, anonetseka kudonhedza zvimwe zvese, zvese izvo, mudzidziso yeimwe, zvisinganyatso kuburitsa pachena pane zvaanonzwa kana zvaanosangana nazvo.

Tinogona here kuwana chero pfungwa yemhedzisiro yemanzwiro echitendero pane zvekufungidzira? Nyanzvi yepfungwa yekuAmerica Tierney Ahrold akaedza kuongorora maitiro ayo rudzi rwechitendero chemunhu wega wega pamafungiro ake nezvepabonde uye fungidziro. Nokudaro akawana kuti mwero wepamusoro wechitendero chemukati unofanotaura mamwe maitiro epabonde anochengetedza, zvose muvarume nevakadzi. Pane zvinopesana, huwandu hwepamusoro hwekunamata hunofanotaura hutsika husina kuchengetedza maitiro epabonde muvarume, asi kunyanya kuchengetedza muvakadzi.

Chitendero chekutanga chine simba rakajeka pafungidziro dzepabonde: idzi dzakaderedzwa zvakanyanya pakati pevateveri vayo. Imwe pfungwa yekucherechedza: mazinga epamusoro ekutenda uye zvemweya, akawedzera kukosha kushoma kwechitendero chechinyakare, anoshandura, muvakadzi, mune yakanyanya kukwirira tsika yekuve yakajairwa kune dzakasiyana siyana dzepabonde fungidziro.

Pakupedzisira, kana tikateerera zvakare kuna Françoise Dolto, uyo akanga adzidzira kuisa Evhangeri uye kutenda mukutarisana nengozi ye psychoanalysis, zvichida. “Chivi chimwe chete hachisi chokuzviisa pangozi kuti urarame chido chako”...

Tichapiwa kutonhora kuti tide murazvo, tichapiwa ruvengo uye tichada rudo, akaimba Johnny… Chishuwo uye fungidziro zvakabatana nerudo. Zvakadaro, munyori Malebranche anoti zvishuwo izvi hazvina kusununguka, zvingadaro "Matiri kunze kwedu, uye kunyangwe takatadza kubva pazvivi".

Zvisinei, kutevera Descartes, kana tangoona kuti zvishuvo zvinogadzirwa mumweya pasina chido chiri chikamu chayo, tichazonzwisisa kuti zvichange zvisingabatsiri kutsvaga kuvaderedza kunyarara kuburikidza nekuedza nyore kwekufungisisa. Kune Descartes, kutaura zvazviri, "Zvishuvo zvemweya zvakafanana nemaonero, kana manzwiro emweya, anosimbiswa nekumwe kufamba kwemweya."

Pasina zvakadaro kurega kuchengeta izvi "Unoda kuda", izvo zvakaziviswa naJohnny nenzira kwayo, isu tinogonawo, semudzidzi akakwana weDescartes, kubatsira chikonzero chekuwanazve kodzero dzayo ... Tisingakanganwe mumweya mumwe chete kuti tirambe tiri vapenyu. Uye ipapo, isu tichatevera munzira iyi munyori Frédéric Beigbeder, anopa zano: “Ngatikomborerei zvishuwo zvedu zvisina kuzadzikiswa, tikoshese zviroto zvedu zvatisingakwanisi. Shanje dzinotiraramisa”.