Mabhuku eAmerican psychologist Dale Carnegie akazova kune vazhinji vekuRussia sosi yeruzivo rwekutanga mumunda wepfungwa. Uye iyo pfungwa yekuti munhu anogona kubudirira mune chero bhizinesi chete nekuda kwekunyemwerera kwakaratidzika kusingadaviriki kune vagari vakasuwa veiyo post-Soviet space. Zvisinei, nekufamba kwenguva, dzidziso dzaCarnegie dzakarasikirwa nebasa. Sei izvi zvakaitika?
Nyika yemazano
Nzara ye "mabhuku anorambidzwa," tinoverenga mabhuku aCarnegie panguva apo mukurumbira wake muUnited States wakanga wapfuura nguva yaro. Mabasa ake anonyanya kukosha, Maitiro Ekukunda Shamwari uye Kufurira Vanhu uye Nzira Yokurega Kunetseka uye Kutanga Kurarama, akaonekwa muAmerica muhafu yekutanga yezana remakore re1936: muna 1948 uye XNUMX, zvichiteerana.
Muchidimbu, iwo matipi gumi kubva Maitiro ekurega Kunetseka uye Kutanga Kurarama ndeaya anotevera:
- Dzidza kutora mutsara wakajeka pakati pekare uye ramangwana, uchisiya musuo wekare wakavharwa.
- Kufanofungidzira uye kuita zvakare mamiriro ezvinhu apo zvakaipisisa zvinogona kuitika uye kufunga nzira yekubuda nayo.
- Dzidza kufunga kwakanaka uye kuita kwakanaka.
- Gara uchiyeuka kuti kana tichitya, tinokuvadza utano hwedu pachedu.
- Muchiitiko chekuzvidya mwoyo uye kuzvidya mwoyo, zvipinze iwe mubhizinesi iro richakutendera kuti uzorore uye ukanganwe nezvechikonzero chekuzvidya mwoyo.
- Rangarira: mukana wekuti dambudziko riitike kwauri mudiki zvakanyanya.
- Usaita "sawdust", kureva kuti, usadzokorora zvakare uye zvakare matambudziko ekare, asi agamuchire uye aende.
- Usagumbuka nekuda kwezvipingamupinyi zvidiki, kwete kuzviona.
- Seta "muganho" wekunetseka kwako uye kunetseka.
- Usatarisa iwe pachako: funga zvakanyanya nezvevamwe, batsira vanhu, ita mabasa akanaka.
Christina ane makore 49 anoti, “Ndaifanira kutaura nezvebhuku raDale Carnegie kanopfuura kamwe, asi kubvira ipapo ndakaverenga mabhuku akawanda kwazvo anotaura nezvokukura kwounhu zvokuti ndakakanganwa zvakawanda. - Zvisinei, mamwe mazano ake - somuenzaniso, kubva mubhuku rinonzi «How to Stop Worrying and Start Living», ndichiri kushandisa. Vanondibatsira kukunda kusava nechokwadi, kufunganya, kutsungirira ndangariro dzisingafadzi uye nemamiriro ezvinhu akaoma eupenyu. "
Kazhinji, hapana chaicho chakashata mune zano rakadaro. Zvisinei, kana iwe uine kuora mwoyo kana imwe yakaoma mamiriro emukati, hazvigoneki kuti chero ipi zvayo yenyanzvi dzepfungwa dzichakurudzira kuti utsungirire nerubatsiro rwekufunga kwakanaka uye mabasa akanaka.
Masiki anoratidza
Carnegie akapikisa kuti kuti ufare, unoda kubudirira mubasa, izvo zvinoreva kukwanisa kutaura nevanhu, vanofadza vashandi vebhizimisi uye kumanikidza chero munhu kuti aite zvaunoda.
“Chaizvoizvo, Carnegie anodzidzisa zvinhu zvounzenza—kubata vanhu kuti zvikubatsire,” anodaro Daria ane makore 35 okukura. “Kutaura zvavanoda kunzwa unyengeri. Saka, kana mabhuku aya akaita kuti mumwe munhu afadze uye afarire, saka munhu wacho pachake haana kuchinja, asi akavanza zvinangwa zvake pasi pemaski kuitira purofiti.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzemazuva ano dzinonyanya kuomerera kune yakafanana maonero.
"Pfungwa huru yaCarnegie ndeye "kunyemwerera, iwe uchafarirwa nevamwe, uye kubudirira kwakamirira iwe," asi kana iwe uchingotaura chete sezvaanorayira, iwe unofanirwa kugara uchivanza shure kwechiso, anotsanangura kudaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa, gestalt therapist Sofya Pushkareva. - Kana uine hushamwari kubva pakutanga, unogona kutanga kuonana nemumwe munhu, kuderedza kusawirirana uye kugadzira mamiriro ekuenderera mberi kutaurirana. Asi kana iwe uchiramba uri mumweya mumwe uye mberi, zvino iyi ndiyo nzira yakananga kune neurosis.
Chinhu chikuru ndechokuzviona sezvatiri, uye kubvumira manzwiro akasiyana kuti ave. Pamusoro pazvo, hazvibviri kufadza munhu wose.
Mharidzo huru yeCarnegie ndiko kurambwa kwe "Ini" yako kuitira kuti kutaurirana nevamwe vanhu kubudirire. Muhupenyu, nzira iyi inoshanda chaizvo: zvakakodzera kusiya maonero ako mukukurukurirana uye kugara uchizvidzora, sezvo interlocutor achaita zvose zvaunoda. Nekudaro, zvakakosha here kutaura kuti zvinokanganisa sei psyche? Pashure pezvose, mirangariro yakashata iyo isingawani nzira yokubuda nayo inoungana ndokuva chisakiso chokufunganya.
“Kunooneka kuti hatisi kurarama upenyu hwedu timene, asi hwomumwe munhu: hunogamuchirwa kazhinji kazhinji, hwenguva dzose,” anopfuurira kudaro nyanzvi yendangariro. "Saka, semugumisiro wekukurukurirana kwakadaro, pane kunzwa kusagutsikana, kurasikirwa kwako pachako."
"Smile!" izano raDale Carnegie rinowanzodzokororwa. Murume anonyemwerera kubva kuCarnegie "mufananidzo" ane zvose: mhuri, basa, kubudirira. Zvisinei, zvinoita sokuti hapana mufaro uye mufaro: panzvimbo pavo - kusurukirwa uye kuora mwoyo.
“Zvakakosha kunyemwerera, sekutsamwa kana kuchema, paunonzwa kuda. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuzviona sezvatiri, uye kubvumira manzwiro akasiyana kuti ave. Pashure pezvose, hazvibviri kufadza munhu wose, "anopedzisa Sofya Pushkareva.