Ndinoziva kuti handina kumbobvira ndaita psychotherapy uye handironge kuzviita, uye izvi ndizvo zvinomutsa mibvunzo yakawanda kubva kune avo vanoziva ruzivo rwangu rwekare rwekota-zana remakore. "Izvo zvausingaite psychotherapy? Mushure mezvose, iwe unobatsira vanhu vakakuvadzwa uye vakaipa mumweya yavo! - Chokwadi, ndanga ndichibatsira zvakanyanya uye kwenguva yakareba, asi psychotherapy haina chekuita nazvo. Ndinoda kunzwisisa izvi, asi ndichatanga - kubva kure.
Kare, muhuduku hwangu, manzwi mazhinji evana aigara achinzwika muchivanze pasi pefafitera, upenyu hwakanga hwakazara muchivanze. Nhasi, mitambo iri muchivanze inoratidzika kunge iri kuwedzera kutsiviwa nemitambo yemakomputa, mayadhi akadzikama, asi ndinoda kuti urangarire kana kufungidzira mamiriro ehupenyu: vana vazhinji vezera rakasiyana vanotamba muchivanze chako, uye pakati pevana varipo. mukomana anonzi Vasya. Vasya anorova uye anogumbura vana. Vasya idambudziko rechivanze.
Zvokuita?
- “Unobvisa mhungu inonzi Vasya, uye vana vachatamba zvavo!” danidzirai vakadzi vakatsamwa. Chikumbiro chine mutsa, Vasya chete ndiye akanyoreswa pano, yadhi iyi ndeyake, uye achafamba pano, asi hazvibatsiri kuonana nevabereki vake. Vabereki veVasya iyi havana kunyanya kusiyana naye uye havagoni kurarama naye vari voga. Vasya - haugone kungoibvisa.
- "Fonera mupurisa!" - Ehe. Vasya ari mudiki, haawire pasi peCriminal Code, haugoni kumuisa mujeri kana kwemazuva gumi nemashanu, maoko emapurisa akasungwa. Zvakapfuura.
- “Ngatishevedze mudzidzisi, achataura naVasya!” - Fonera ... Uye ungayera sei kubudirira kwehurukuro dzekudzidzisa naVasya anofara?
Billy Novick. Uyu ndiye Vasya akakwana!
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Aya ose mazano asina kururama. Kubvisa Vasya, kubata neVasya vasina hunhu, kubvisa kukanganiswa kweVasya vakadaro kune vamwe vana vakajairwa maitiro asina kunaka uye saka haashande. Iwe unogona kutarisana nenharaunda iyi kwenguva yakareba: kugadzira vashandi vese vevashandi vezvemagariro evanhu uye vechidiki vaongorori kuti vagadzirise matambudziko akadaro, kupedza makore akawanda uye mazakwatira emari pane izvi, asi hauzokwanisi kurarama naVasya. nenzira iyi. Vasya achakura, zvichida achadzikama zvishoma nekufamba kwenguva, asi Vasyas itsva ichaonekwa panzvimbo yake, uye izvi zvichagara zvakadaro newe.
Sei nguva dzose? Uye zvinokwanisika here kuchinja chimwe chinhu pano?
Zvinogara zvakadaro, nekuti uri kuita zvisirizvo, nenzira isiri iyo. Zvinoita here kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu? - anogona. Mamiriro acho achatanga kuchinja apo vadzidzisi vepfungwa nevadzidzisi vanotanga kushanda kwete chete ne "maapuro akaora", kwete chete naVasya, asi kusvika pamwero mukuru vanotanga kuumba hutano hwehupenyu hwemhuri uye hwemagariro evanhu. Kuti pasave nevanhu vanorwara, zvinodikanwa kubata nevanhu vane hutano vasati varwara. Zvakakosha kusimbisa hutano hwevanhu - iyi nzira chete ndiyo inovimbisa zvechokwadi.
Uye zvino ngatifambe kubva panzvimbo yechivanze kuenda kunzvimbo yemweya wemunhu. Nzvimbo yemweya wemunhu inewo mavara ayo uye ayo, akasiyana masimba akasiyana. Masimba ane hutano uye anorwara, masimba ane chiedza uye rima. Isu tine kufarira uye nehanya, kune kunyemwerera kwemutsa uye rudo, asi isu tine maVasya edu - kutsamwa, kutya, kutsamwa. Uye chii chokuita navo?
Chimiro changu: “Chandinoita hakusi kurapwa kwepfungwa, kunyange pandinoshanda nevarwere. Munhu anorwara haarwari zvachose, sezvakangoita munhu ane hutano anenge asina hutano hwakakwana. Mune mumwe nemumwe wedu mune hutano uye chirwere chekutanga, chikamu chine hutano uye chinorwara. Ndinogara ndichishanda nechikamu chine hutano, kunyangwe chiri chikamu chine hutano chemunhu anorwara. Ndinoisimbisa, uye nokukurumidza utano hunova chinhu chikuru chehupenyu hwomunhu.
Kana pane hooligan Vasya muchivanze uye kune vakomana vakanaka, unogona kutarisana nehooligan, kumudzidzisa zvakare. Kana kuti iwe unogona kuita boka rakasimba uye rinoshanda kubva kune vakomana vakanaka, izvo zvichachinja mamiriro ezvinhu muchivanze kuitira kuti nokukurumidza hooligan Vasya acharega kuzviratidza nenzira ipi zvayo. Uye mushure mechinguva, zvichida, achabatana neboka iri rine utano. "Timur nechikwata chake" haisi ngano, izvi ndizvo zvakaitwa uye kuita nevadzidzisi vakanyanya uye nyanzvi dzepfungwa. Izvi ndizvo zvinonyatsogadzirisa dambudziko. Mhinduro haina kudhura, kwete kukurumidza - asi iyo chete inoshanda.
Healthy psychology, iyo psychology yehupenyu nebudiriro, ndiko uko nyanzvi yepfungwa inoshanda nekutanga kune hutano mumunhu, aine chikamu chine hutano chemweya wake, kunyangwe kana munhu aive (akazvifunga) ari kurwara. Psychotherapy ndiyo iyo nyanzvi yepfungwa inoshanda nechikamu chinorwara chemweya, kunyangwe munhu wacho aive aine hutano.
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