Chitubu chakazosvika: yave nguva yekubvisa mabhachi ako pasi. Asi kunaka kwemwaka wekudziya kwakafukidzwa nekuwedzera kutarisisa kwevarume vanoshungurudza vasikana nevakadzi munzira chaimo. Sei vachizviita uye tingaramba sei maitiro akadaro?
Kana iwe uri mukadzi, saka pamwe wakamboona kana kusangana nechiitiko chakadai se "catcalling": apa ndipo apo varume, vari munzvimbo yeruzhinji, vanoridza muridzo mushure mevakadzi uye kusunungura kunyomba, kazhinji nekuita zvepabonde kana kutyisidzira. mumadress avo. Shoko iri rinobva ku English catcall — «to boo». Mune dzimwe nyika, zviito zvakadaro zvinogona kubhadharwa. Saka, muFrance, "vanoshungurudza mumigwagwa" vari pangozi yekubhadhara kubva pa90 kusvika ku750 euros nokuda kwemaitiro avo.
Maitiro ekubatwa akasiyana: zvinoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu, uye munhu pachake. Vamwe vasikana vanowana rudzi rwekunakidzwa, vachigamuchira zviratidzo zvakadaro zvekutarisisa. "Ndonzwa mushe. Vakandicherechedza, vanofunga. Asi kazhinji, "kurumbidza" kwakadaro kunotyisa, kunotsamwisa uye kunoita kuti tinzwe sokuti tiri mumusika wevaranda, sezvo tichigona kukurukurwa uye kuongororwa, sezvavanoita nezvinhu. Kushungurudzika mupfungwa kunogonawo kubva mukushungurudzwa kwakadaro.
Zvinoitika sei
“Manheru, ini nemusikana wangu takadzokera kumba — takanwa chinwiwa ndokufunga kumbofamba-famba munharaunda yedu. Mota yakasimudzwa nevakomana vaviri kana vatatu. Vanodzikisa fafitera ndokutanga kudaidzira, “Makanaka huyai nesu. Vasikana, zvichanyanya kunakidza nesu, isu tichawedzera kwauri! Handei, muchina mutsva, uchauda. Takafamba takanyararisana kusvika pamba tichizama kufuratira mashoko aya, zvaityisa uye zvisinganakidzi zvachose.
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“Ndaiva nemakore 13 uye ndairatidzika kuva mukuru pane zera rangu. Akacheka majean ake ega, ndokuachinja kuita mashort short, ndokupfeka ndokuenda zvake ega. Pandakanga ndichifamba munzira, vamwe varume - vaive vashanu vavo, pamwe - vakatanga kuridza muridzo vachishevedzera kwandiri: "Huya kuno ... matako ako haana kusimira." Ndakatya ndokudzokera kumba nekukurumidza. Zvainyadzisa, ndichiri kurangarira.
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“Ndakanga ndava nemakore 15 panguva iyoyo, akanga ari matsutso. Ndakapfeka jasi raamai vangu refu rakanaka, bhutsu - kazhinji, hapana chinotsamwisa - uye muchipfeko ichi ndakaenda kumusikana wangu. Pandakabuda mumba, mumwe murume akanga akapfeka Mercedes nhema akanditevera. Akaridza muridzo, akandidana, uye akatondipa zvipo. Ndakanyara uye ndaitya, asi panguva imwe chete ndakafara zvishoma. Izvi zvakaita kuti ndinyepe kuti ndainge ndakaroorwa ndichibva ndapinda pamukova weshamwari yangu.
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“Shamwari yakauya kwandiri ichibva kuIsrael, yakajaira kupfeka meup inopenya uye yakapfeka corsets ine leggings yakasimba. Mumufananidzo uyu, akaenda neni kubhaisikopo. Taifanira kudzika kuchiteshi chinofamba nepasi pevhu, uye panzira yepasi mumwe mukomana akamuridzira muridzo ndokutanga kumurumbidza. Akamira ndokutendeuka kuti atitevere. Musikana asina kufunga kaviri akadzoka ndokumupa chibhakera mumhuno. Uye ipapo akatsanangura kuti munyika yake haisi tsika yekuita nenzira iyi nemukadzi - uye haakanganwiri munhu nokuda kwekuita kwakadaro.
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“Ndiri kumhanya. Pane imwe nguva ndakanga ndichimhanya munyika, uye motokari yakamira pedyo. Murume wacho akandibvunza kana ndaida chokufambisa, kunyange zvazvo zvaiva pachena kuti ndakanga ndisingadi. Ndakamhanya, mota ikatevera. Murume wacho akataura nepahwindo rakanga rakashama, achiti: “Uya. Gara neni pasi, tsvarakadenga. Zvadaro: "Ndeipi panty yako sexy." Uye ipapo mazwi asina kunyorwa akaenderera mberi. Ndakatozotendeuka nekukasira kutiza kumba."
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“Ndichidzokera kumba husiku, ndakapfuura nepabhenji paiva neboka revanhu vainwa doro. Mumwe wevaive vagere pabhenji akasimuka ndokutevera. Akandiridzira muridzo, akandituka, akandituka uye akataura kuti: “Wakanaka kwazvo.” Ndaitya zvikuru. "
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“Nguva dzakanga dzava kuma22:40, kunze kwakanga kwasviba. Ndakanga ndava kudzokera kumba ndichibva kuchikoro. Mumwe murume ane makore ekuma XNUMX akauya kwandiri mumugwagwa, akadhakwa, akamira netsoka dzake. Ndakaedza kusavateerera, kunyange ndakatsunya, asi akanditevera. Akatanga kudana kumba, achiseka, neimwe nzira akanyarara, akaedza kundimbundira. Ndakaramba neruremekedzo, asi ndakaita sendabatwa nechando. Kwakanga kusina kwokutizira, kwakanga kusina vanhu pedyo—nzvimbo yakanga yakanyarara. Somugumisiro, ndakamhanyira muberere rangu pamwe chete naambuya, vachishevedzera kuti: “Musikana, uripi, ngatiuye kuzondishanyira. Ndakanga ndichibvunda kwenguva refu.
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“Ndakanga ndakagara pabhenji remupaki ndakaturika makumbo ndichibaya-baya foni yangu. Murume anouya, ondibata ibvi rangu, ndinosimudza musoro wangu. Ipapo anoti: “Zvakanaka, wakagarirei muimba yepfambi?” Ini ndakanyarara. Uye anoenderera mberi achiti: “Makumbo akavharirwa zvinoyevedza, usadaro…”
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“Ndakaenda kuchitoro ndakapfeka t-shirt yakasimba. Ndiri munzira, mumwe murume akanditevera. Munzira yose akandiudza kuti: “Musikana, sei uchishamisira zvinhu zvose, ndiri kutoona kuti zvinhu zvose zvakanaka kwazvo.” Zvakandiomera kumusiya."
Sei vachizviita uye kuti voita sei
Sei varume vachizvibvumira kuita izvi? Zvikonzero zvinogona kuva zvakasiyana, kubva pakufinhwa kusvika pakuda kuratidza utsinye kuvakadzi nenzira inofungidzirwa inogamuchirika. Asi chinhu chimwe chinogona kutaurwa zvechokwadi: uyo anoridza muridzo mushure memukadzi kana kuedza kumudaidza nemashoko okuti "kiss-kiss-kiss" zviri pachena kuti haanzwisisi. uye nei vachifanira kuremekedzwa. Uye muchiitiko ichi, hazvina basa kana iye achiziva kuti vatorwa vanopfuura nenzira yebhizimisi ravo vamene havafariri kutarisirwa kwakadaro.
Hungu, mutoro wezviri kuitika uri pamunhu anozvibvumira amene kushinha vakadzi vaasingazivi. Asi vanhu havafungidzirike, uye hatizivi kuti rudzii rwemunhu: zvichida anongova nengozi kana kuti akatongerwa mhosva dzechisimba. Naizvozvo, basa redu guru nderekuchengetedza hutano hwedu uye kubva pakuonana nekukurumidza.
Chii chekusaita? Edza kudzivisa hasha dzapachena. Rangarira kuti hukasha "hunoparira" uye hunogona kuwanikwa nekukasira nemunhu anenge achitotyora tsika dzevanhu. Mukuwedzera, iyo «catcaller» inogona kutambura nekuzviremekedza kwakaderera, uye mhinduro yako yakaoma ichamuyeuchidza zviri nyore nezvechimwe chiitiko chakaipa kubva kare. Iyi ndiyo nzira yaunomutsa kupesana nayo uye unozvipinza munjodzi.
Kana mamiriro acho achityisa:
- Edza kuwedzera chinhambwe nemunhu, asi pasina kukurumidza kukuru. Ona waunogona kutendeukira kwaari kuti akubatsire kana zvichidiwa.
- Kana paine vanhu vari pedyo, bvunza nezwi guru kuti «catcaller» kuti adzokorore kurumbidza kwake. Pamwe haadi kuonekwa.
- Dzimwe nguva zviri nani kufuratira kutarisa.
- Unogona kunyepedzera kutaura pafoni nemumwe wako anoita kunge ari kuuya kwauri. Somuenzaniso: “Uripi? Ndatovapo. Huya kumberi, ndichakuona mumaminitsi mashoma."
- Kana uine chokwadi chokuti munhu haazokuvadzi iwe, unogona kuratidza maitiro ake: kuridza muridzo, taura "kit-kit-kit". Vanoridza katsi kazhinji vanenge vasina kugadzirira chokwadi chekuti munhu anenge abatwa chibharo anogona kutora danho racho. Vanogona kushandurwa nekunyara uye kuora mwoyo kwemukadzi, asi ivo havazvifariri kana akangoerekana atora basa rinoshanda.
Chinonyanya kukosha, yeuka kuchengeteka kwako pachako. Uye kuti hauna chikwereti kumutorwa chausingatomboda.