Mukati
Ndagara ndichizvimiririra uye kuzviriritira. Muuduku pane kudikanwa, mukukura nechisarudzo. Ndava ne 6 years, ndakazvibikira breakfast ndisati ndaenda kuchikoro, ndaiita homework yangu ndega from the 1st grade. Kazhinji, huduku hwakajairika kune vabereki ivo vakakurira munguva yakaoma yehondo. Pakupedzisira, cheers! Ini ndakazvimiririra, uye serumwe rutivi rwemari, handizivi kuti ndokumbira sei rubatsiro. Uyezve, kana vakati vandibatsire, ndinoramba nezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana. Naizvozvo, nekupikiswa kukuru kwemukati, ndakatora Kubatsira kurovedza ndiri chinhambwe kuti ndishande.
Pakutanga, ndakakanganwa kukumbira rubatsiro. Ndakapengenuka pashure pemamiriro ezvinhu anotevera: Ndakanga ndakakwira musimudzwa nomuvakidzani, akandibvunza kuti ndakanga ndiri pauriri hupi, achida kudzvanya bhatani reuriri hwandaida. Ndakamutenda ndokuzvishingisa. Mushure mekuita kwangu, murume wacho akave nechitarisiko chinoshamisa kwazvo pachiso chake. Pandakapinda mufurati, zvakandijekera - muvakidzani akazvipira kuti andibatsire, uye mukunzwisisa kwake kwaiva mutemo wakanaka wechimiro, somuenzaniso, rega mukadzi aende mberi kana kumupa chigaro. Uye ini mukadzi akaramba. Ipapo ndipo pandakafunga nezvazvo uye ndakafunga kunyatsotora Batsira chiitiko kushanda.
Ndakatanga kukumbira rubatsiro kumba kumurume wangu, muchitoro, mumigwagwa, kushamwari neshamwari. Chinonyanya kushamisa, kuvapo kwangu kwakawedzera kunakidza: murume wangu akachenesa imba yekugezera kana ndikabvunza, yakabikwa kofi pakukumbira kwangu, yakazadzisa zvimwe zvikumbiro. Ndakafara, ndakatenda murume wangu nemoyo wese. Zvakazoitika kuti kuzadzikiswa kwechikumbiro changu kumurume wangu chikonzero chokunditarisira, kuratidza rudo rwake kwandiri. Uye kuva nehanya ndiwo mutauro mukuru werudo wemurume. Ukama hwedu hwava kudziya uye huri nani somugumisiro. Kutaura kune mupfuuri nekumwemwerera uye chirevo chakajeka chechikumbiro chinokonzera chido chekubatsira, uye vanhu vanofara kuratidza nzira kana nzira yekuwana iyi kana iyo imba. Pandakatenderera maguta eEurope kana USA, vanhu havana kungotsanangura nzira yekusvika panzvimbo, asi dzimwe nguva vaindiunza kukero yekurudyi neruoko. Anenge munhu wose anopindura zvikumbiro nemhinduro yakanaka, uye anobatsira. Kana munhu asingakwanisi kubatsira, imhaka yokuti haakwanisi.
Ndakaona kuti zvinobvira uye zvakakodzera kukumbira rubatsiro. Ndakabvisa kunyara, ndicharegerera rubatsiro nechivimbo, nekunyemwerera kwemutsa. Kwaenda kunzwisa tsitsi nekukumbira. Zvese zviri pamusoro angori mabhonasi madiki kune rubatsiro rwandakagamuchira kubva kune vamwe ☺
Mukushanda pachiitwa, ndakazvigadzirira mamwe misimboti:
1. Ita chikumbiro zvinonzwika.
“Kuti tiite izvi, tinofanira kutanga taziva zvinodiwa, kuti rudzii rwebetsero runodiwa. Zvinogona kubatsira kugara pasi uye kufunga zvakadzikama pamusoro pezvandinoda, zvandinoda kubvunza.
Zvinowanzoitika kuti vanhu vanobvunza kuti, "Ndingabatsira sei?" uye ndinonyengerera chimwe chinhu chisinga nzwisisike mukupindura. Somugumisiro, havabatsiri.
- Kumbira zvakananga rubatsiro, pane kukanda manipulatives (kunyanya nevadikani).
Semuenzaniso: "mudiwa, ndapota chenesa imba yekugezera, zvakandiomera kuti ndizviite mumuviri, saka ndiri kutendeukira kwauri, iwe une simba neni!" pachinzvimbo che "Ah, imba yedu yekugezera yakasviba!" uye nokunyatsotarisa murume wake, achifuridza mutsara mutsvuku unopisa pahuma yake, “Pedzisirai geza tabhu yerasha iyi! . Uye zvakare ndakagumburwa kuti murume wangu haanzwisise uye haagone kuverenga pfungwa dzangu.
2. Bvunza mumamiriro ezvinhu akanaka uye kubva kumunhu akakodzera.
Semuyenzaniso, handikukumbirei kuti mufambise midziyo yemumba kana kuti mubvise tsvina yemurume achangobva kubasa ane nzara uye akaneta. Mangwanani ndichakumbira murume wangu kuti atore bhegi remarara, uye Mugovera mangwanani ndichamukumbira kutamisa midziyo.
Kana kuti ndiri kuzvisonera rokwe, uye ndinoda kurongedza pasi (maka chinhambwe chakaenzana kubva pasi pamupendero). Zvakaoma kwazvo kuzviita qualitatively ndiri ndoga, nekuti pandinenge ndichiedza parokwe randiri kupfeka, uye kurerekera kudiki kunokanganisa pakarepo mufananidzo. Ndichakumbira shamwari yangu kuti ibatsire, kwete murume wangu.
Sezviri pachena, mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma, somuenzaniso, kana ndichinyura mugungwa, ndichadana rubatsiro kubva kune chero munhu ari pedyo. Uye kana mamiriro ezvinhu achibvumira, ndichasarudza nguva yakakodzera uye munhu akakodzera.
3. Ini ndakagadzirira chokwadi chekuti handizobatsirwe muchimiro chandinotarisira.
Kazhinji tinoramba rubatsiro nekuti "kana uchida kuti zviitwe nemazvo, ita wega!". Kunyanya kujekesa kwandinotaura chikumbiro changu, mune chii uye sei chaizvo ini ndinoda rubatsiro, inowedzera mikana yekuwana zvandinoda. Naizvozvo, zvinonyanya kukosha kutaura zvakajeka chikumbiro chako. Uye ini ndinozvitora nyore kana hama dzangu dzakazviita nenzira yavo (mhoroi kune "Calm kuvapo" kurovedza muviri). Kana hama dzangu dzakazadzisa chikumbiro changu nenzira yavo pachavo, ndinoyeuka mutsara waOscar Wilde "Usapfura pianist, anoridza nepaanogona napo" iyo, maererano naye, yaakaona mune imwe saloons yeAmerican Wild West. Uye pakarepo ndinoda kuvambundira. Vakaedza zvikuru!
Nenzira, ini handikumbiri murume wangu kuti abatsire kurongedza pasi pamucheka wakasona, nokuti ini ndakatokumbira kamwe chete uye ndakave, pakupedzisira, kutendeukira kushamwari kuti ibatsirwe. Uye panguva iyoyo yokutanga uye bedzi, akatenda murume wake ndokutsvoda namashoko okuti “Unofadza zvikuru!”
4. Kugadzirira kukundikana.
Vazhinji vanotya kurambwa. Vakaramba kwete nekuti ndaive ndisina kunaka, asi nekuti munhu aive asina mukana. Mune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, aizondibatsira zvechokwadi. Uye zvakanaka kana vakaramba pakarepo, zvikasadaro iwe uchapedza nguva uchinyengetedza, uye zvino zvinozoitika kuti ivo havazobatsiri chero zvakadaro kana ivo vanozviita nenzira yekuti iwe haudi iwe pasina. Uye kana uchiramba, unogona kuwana imwe pakarepo.
5. Kuonga nomwoyo wose nokuda kwebetsero.
Nekunyemwerera kwoushamwari, pasinei zvapo nokuwanda kwebetsero, ndinotaura kuonga kwangu nokuda kwebetsero. Kunyange vakati, “Huyai, izvi hazvina maturo! nei zvimwe uchida shamwari / ini / murume (nyora pasi sezvakakodzera)? Ndatenda hangu, musatore rubatsiro serusina basa. Pashure pezvose, munhu akandiitira chimwe chinhu, akashandisa nguva, simba, zvimwe zvinhu. Izvi zvakakodzera kuonga uye kuonga.