Amai vanofanira kunge varipo, amai vanofanira kudya, kupfeka, kurarisa, amai vanofanira ... Asi vanofanira here? Clinical psychologist Inga Green anotaura nezve chiitiko chake chekuva amai achiri mudiki uye akura.
Vanakomana vangu vakasiyana nemakore 17 muzera. Ndine makore 38, mudiki ane 4 months. Uhu ndihwo humai hwevanhu vakuru, uye zuva nezuva ndinozvienzanisa ndisingazivi nguva nenguva.
Ipapo ndaifanira kuva nenguva kwese kwese uye kwete kurasikirwa nechiso. Chiroorai muite mwana soon. Asununguka, haugone kunyatsomuchengeta, nekuti unofanira kupedza zvidzidzo zvako. Kuyunivhesiti, ndinonetseka nendangariro nokushaya hope, uye kumba hama dzangu dziri pabasa nemwanakomana wangu mumashifiti matatu. Iwe unofanirwa kuva amai vakanaka, mudzidzi, mudzimai uye muenzi.
Diploma inokurumidza kushanduka bhuruu, nguva dzose inonyara. Ndinorangarira kugeza mapani ose mumba mavamwene vangu zuva rimwe chete kuti vaone kuchena kwangu. Handiyeuki kuti mwanakomana wangu akanga akaita sei panguva iyoyo, asi ndinoyeuka mapani aya zvakadzama. Enda kunorara nekukurumidza kuti upedze diploma. Kurumidza chinja kune zvakajairika chikafu kuti uende kubasa. Husiku, anogutsurira kune mutinhimira wepombi yemazamu kuti arambe achiyamwisa. Ndakaedza zvikuru uye ndakatambura nenyadzi kuti ndakanga ndisingakwani, nokuti munhu wose anoti amai mufaro, uye amai vangu iwadhi.
Iye zvino ndava kunzwisisa kuti ndakawira mukubata kwezvido zvinopokana pana vanaamai nevakadziwo zvavo. Mutsika dzedu, ivo (isu, ini) vanodiwa kuti vawane mufaro kubva mukuzvipira. Kuita zvisingagoneki, kushandira munhu wese akatenderedza, kugara akanaka. Nguva dzose. Dzimba dzemabhiza.
Chokwadi ndechekuti hazvibviri kunzwa zvakanaka mumuitiro wekuita, unofanirwa kutevedzera. Kunyepedzera kuti vatsoropodzi vasingaoneki havana chavanoziva. Mumakore ose aya ndakasvika pakuziva izvi. Dai ndaigona kutumira tsamba kumunhu wangu ane makore makumi maviri, yaiti: “Hapana anofa kana ukatanga kuzvichengeta. Pese paunomhanya kunogeza nekukwiza, bvisa "majority" mujasi jena kubva pamutsipa wako. Iwe hauna chikwereti, ndezvekufungidzira. "
Kuva amai vakuru zvinoreva kusamhanyirira kupi zvako uye kusamhan’ara kune ani zvake. Tora mwana mumaoko ako uye muyemure. Pamwe chete nomurume wake, muimbirei nziyo, benzi. Huya nemazita akasiyana akapfava uye anosetsa. Pakufamba, taura nemufambisi pasi pemaziso evanopfuura. Panzvimbo pokuodzwa mwoyo, inzwa tsitsi huru uye kuonga kumwana nokuda kwebasa raanoita.
Kuva mucheche hakusi nyore, uye zvino ndine ruzivo rwakakwana kuti ndinzwisise izvi. Ndiinaye, uye haana chikwereti neni. Zvinobuda pakuda chete. Uye pamwe chete neshiviriro nokunzwisisa kwezvinodikanwa zvomucheche, kuzivikanwa kwakawanda noruremekedzo nokuda kwomwanakomana wangu mukuru kunouya kwandiri. Iye haana mhosva nekuomerwa kwandakaita naye. Ndiri kunyora rugwaro urwu, uye pedyo neni, mwanakomana wangu wegotwe ari kufema zvakayerwa muchiroto. Ndakaita zvose.