Nzira yekusiyanisa sei "hutano" narcissism kubva "husina hutano"?

Zvinyorwa zvekufambidzana uye hukama zvinowanzotaura nezve narcissism, asi izwi rinowanzoshandiswa zvisizvo, anodaro murapi wemhuri Marnie Feerman. Kana izwi rekuti "narcissist" rinoshandiswa mukukurukurirana kwakajairwa, kazhinji richiri mutsauko wezvakajairwa, uye kwete pathology inonzi narcissistic personality disorder.

"Kana mumwe wako ari narcissist, zvichave zvakaoma kwauri kuti uwane hukama hwepedyo uye kuvimbana, nokuti anotanga afunga nezvake uye zvaanoda uye naizvozvo akavharwa mupfungwa," anotsanangura kudaro.

Zvingangodaro kuti mudiwa akadaro anongoshandisa iwe pasina kupa chero chinhu mukudzoka, uye nekuda kweizvi, kusaenzana kwakakomba kuchamuka muhukama. Izvo zvakakoshawo kuyeuka kuti narcissism inogona kushanduka kuita chaiyo sociopathy, saka hukama neane narcissist akanyanya hunogona kuve nenjodzi.

«Hutano» vs. «Unhealty» Narcissism: Chii Chinosiyana?

Isu tose takaneta, tinogumbuka, taneta nekuda kwekunetsekana. Isu tose dzimwe nguva tinongozvifunga isu chete, tichifuratira manzwiro, zvishuwo uye zvido zvevamwe. Mumwe nomumwe wedu nguva nenguva mumwe munhu anotsoropodza kana kutoratidza hasha.

Kuzvida kwakajairwa, kune hutano kunotibatsira kuti tirambe tine tariro uye tine chivimbo kunyangwe izvi uye mamwe manzwiro asina kunaka. Nekudaro, mune avo vanotambura ne narcissistic personality disorder, kuzvida kunodarika miganhu yese.

Edition yechishanu yeUS Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) inotsanangura narcissistic personality disorder se "pfungwa inopfuurira yehukuru hwemunhu, chishuwo chenguva dzose chekuyemurwa, kusava netsitsi." Kuongororwa kunoda kuvepo kweanosvika mashanu e5 zviratidzo:

• Pfungwa yekusiyana kwemunhu.
• Nguva dzose fungidziro pamusoro pekubudirira kwako kusingagumi, simba, pfungwa dzinopenya, runako runoshamisa.
• Kutenda kwemunhu akadaro kuti munhu akasarudzika, anoshamisa anofanirwa kungodyidzana nevanhu vakasiyana nemasangano.
• Shuwa kuva munhu anoyemurwa zvisina kufanira.
• Kutenda kuti anotenderwa kupfuura vamwe.
• Tsika yekutonga vamwe vanhu muhukama hwevanhu.
• Kushaya kana kusava netsitsi.
• Kuramba kutsamwira vamwe kana kutenda kuti vamwe vanomuchengetera zvigumbu.
• Kuratidzwa kwekuzvida uye narcissism mune maitiro kana maitiro kune vamwe.

Nyanzvi yezvepfungwa yeHarvard Medical School Craig Malkin akacherechedza zvinhu zvitatu zvakakosha zvenarcissism:

1. Narcissists vanobiridzira vamwe. Vakagadzirira chero chinhu, kusanganisira kunyengera uye kunyengera, kuti vagutse zvavanoda.
2. Narcissists vanotenda kuti vane chikwereti chese uye vane kodzero kune zvese. Vanowanzoita nekuputika kwehasha kusvika pakurambwa.
3. Narcissists havana tsitsi. Kubva kunze zvingaita sekuti vanokwanisa kunzwira tsitsi, asi zvinokurumidza kunyangarika kana zvisiri mune zvinodiwa narcissist kana kuti ari kunyanya kufunga nezvezviitiko zvake.

Kuziva sei kana yave nguva yekutiza

Kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti mumwe wako i narcissist chaiyo, hezvino zviratidzo zvitatu zvekunyevera izvo zvisingafanirwe kufuratirwa. Chero chipi zvacho chikonzero chekugumisa hukama pakarepo.

1. Mhirizhonga kana kushungurudzwa

Chokutanga pane zvose, tiri kutaura pamusoro pechisimba chemuviri, asi hapana nyaya inofanira kubvumirwa mhirizhonga yepfungwa. Izvi zvinogona kuva kutsoropodza nguva dzose, kutuka, kuzvidza, kutuka, gaslighting (apo mumwe wako anoedza kukuita kuti ubvunze maonero ako echokwadi).

Mutoro wemaitiro akadaro ndewake chose, kwete newe. Nenzira iyi, hukama hwakanaka hahugoneki.

2. Kuramba matambudziko

Kana mukwanyina akazvibata nenzira isina kufanira, anofanira kubvuma kuti: “Ndinonzwisisa chinhu chiri chose, asi handigoni kuzvidzora ndimene, ndinoda betsero.” Kana asingakwanisi kuona zvinetso zvake pachake, haazombokwanisi kuzvigadzirisa.

3. Recognitions sociopathies

Kugara uchinyepa pasina kuzvidemba kunogona kuva chiratidzo chekusava netsitsi chete, asi kushayikwa zvachose, ndiko kuti, sociopathy. Mukana wekuti sociopathic narcissist achinje maitiro angangoita zero. Kana wahwisisa kuti mudiwa ndizvozvo, mhanya nguva isati yakwana.

Mafungiro ekuzvikudza uye eruvengo kune chikamu chemudiwa anogona kumutsa unhu hwakaipisisa matiri. Isu tinotanga kutenderera tichimutenderedza kuti tisamutsamwise, kana, pane kudaro, tiputse mukupindura, tichiita zvinonyadzisa. Zvakare hazvikodzeri kuhukama hune hutano uye hunobudirira.

“Kana zvisina ngozi, edza kuva akatendeseka uye kumubudira pachena pane zvaunofunga. Nekudaro, usaite izvi kana paine njodzi yekurwiswa mumuviri, "anodaro Marni Feerman.

Heino nzira inogona kubatsira kumutsa tsitsi dzemumwe wako kwauri.

1. Muyeuchidze kuti ukama hwenyu hunokosha zvikuru kwauri.
2. Pachena, usingatyi kuratidzika seusina kugadzikana, taura pamusoro pezvauri kusangana nazvo: kushuva, kutya, kusurukirwa, kunyara, nyota yerudo, nezvimwewo. Somuenzaniso, unogona kuti, “Wakakosha zvikuru kwandiri, saka kana ukandifuratira; Ndinonzwa ndasiyiwa, ndisingadiwi, uye ndisingabatsiri.” Kana kuti: "Unoreva zvakawanda kwandiri zvokuti paunotsoropodza zvisarudzo zvangu zvose, zvinoratidzika kwandiri kuti haundikoshesi zvachose."

Kana mumwe wako achitombokwanisa kunzwira tsitsi, kutaura kwako pachena kunofanira kupfavisa maitiro ake kwauri. Kana izvi zvikasaitika, ichi chiratidzo chinotyisa, zvakakosha kufunga nezvekuputsa hukama. Pakupedzisira, kana mudiwa we narcissistic akaramba psychotherapy, ichi zvakare chikonzero chakakomba chekufunga nezve tarisiro yehukama.