Iwe wakagadzirirwa hupenyu hurefu hunonakidza pamwe chete nemudiwa wako. Asi ivo havana chokwadi chakazara chekukomba nekudzika kwemaitiro ake kwauri. Ndezvipi zviratidzo zvicharatidza kuti kunzwa kwechokwadi kune mumwe wako hakuna kupera? Yakarondedzerwa nemunyori Wendy Patrick.
Iwe wakambotamba mutambo uyu kamwechete: iwe unogara neshamwari mune cafe uye edza kufunga kuti rudzii rwehukama hune vakaroorana pamatafura akavakidzana. Semuenzaniso, vaviri vari pahwindo havana kana kuvhura menyu — vanodanana zvekuti havatomborangarira kuti vakavingei pano. Mafoni avo anosundirwa kudivi, izvo zvinovatendera kuti vaswedere pedyo kune mumwe nemumwe uye kutaurirana pasina kukanganisa. Iri rinogona kunge riri zuva ravo rekutanga kana kutanga kwehukama hwerudo…
Mukusiana zvikuru naava vane mhanza, kune varoorani vakwegura vari pedyo nekicheni (zvichida vari mushishi uye vanoda kuwana zvokudya zvavo nokukurumidza). Havana kutaudzana vachiita sevasingazivani nyangwe vakagara padhuze. Zvinogona kufungidzirwa kuti vakaroorana kwenguva yakareba, vose vakaoma kunzwa uye vakasununguka mukunyarara (tsanangudzo ine rupo!). Kana kuti vari kuenda panguva yakaoma muhukama izvozvi. Nenzira, ivowo vangave vasina mafoni patafura, asi nekuda kwechikonzero chakasiyana: havachamiriri mafoni uye meseji kubasa, uye shamwari dzisingawanzo kukurumidza kuzviyeuchidza.
Nekudaro, vaviri ava vakura vanogona kunge vachinyanya kufarira kwauri, kunyanya kana iwe uri muhukama hwenguva refu. Unogona kusendamira mukati nekuzevezera kune mumwe wako, "Ngative nechokwadi kuti izvi hazvimboitike kwatiri." Asi unoziva sei kana uri kufamba nenzira kwayo? Heano mamwe mazano achakubatsira kuona kuti manzwiro emudiwa wako ndeechokwadi uye akadzama zvakadii.
Kufarira kwechokwadi uye kusingagumi
Kunyangwe mava nemwedzi miviri kana makore maviri muri mese, mumwe wako anofarira zvepachokwadi zvaunofunga, zvaunoda kutaura, kana zvauri kuda kuita. Izvo zvine basa kwaari izvo zvaunorota uye tariro, uyezve, iye achaita nhamburiko kuti zvishuvo zvako zviitike.
Tsvagiridzo yakaitwa naSandra Langeslag nevamwe vake inoratidza kuti vanhu vane shungu nezvako vanofarira chero ruzivo rwune chekuita nehupenyu hwako, kunyangwe ruzivo rusina basa. Vadzidza ruzivo urwu, vanoyeuka zvose. Anotsanangura kuti kunakidzwa kunoperekedzwa nerudo rwerudo kune chekuita kwakakura pamabatiro enjere.
Kunyange zvazvo vatori vechikamu vechidzidzo vakanga vari murudo kwenguva pfupi, vanyori vanoratidza kuti kuyeuka kwakadaro uye kungwarira kwekuteerera hakugone kungoitika mukutanga, chikamu cherudo. Sandra Langeslag nevamwe vake vanotenda kuti avo vakaroorana avo vave vakaroorana kwemakore akawanda uye vane rudo rwakadzama kune mumwe nemumwe vanoratidzawo kutarisisa kune ruzivo rwakabatana nemudiwa wavo, chete nzira yakatosiyana ipapo.
Vadyidzani vanoteerera vanoratidza kuzvipira kwavo nekuratidza hanya zvechokwadi nezvehupenyu hwako kunze kwemba.
Sezvo muukama hwenguva refu haisisiri kufara kunouya pamberi, asi manzwiro erudo uye ruzivo rwekubatana, ndicho chiitiko ichi chakaunganidzwa chinoita basa rinokosha mukufarira ruzivo pamusoro pevakaroorana.
Mumwe mubvunzo ndewekuti vanobatana vanorasa sei ruzivo urwu rwakagamuchirwa. Izvi zvinoratidza hukama hwavo hwechokwadi kune mumwe nemumwe. Munhu ane rudo anofarira kukufadza. Anoshingairira kushandisa ruzivo nezvewe (zvaunoda, kubva pakuzvivaraidza kuenda kumimhanzi kusvika kune zvaunofarira zvekudya) kuti akufadze iwe uye unakirwe newe.
Vadyidzani vanongwarira muhukama hwenguva refu vanoratidza kuzvipira kuburikidza nekuita zvepachokwadi muhupenyu hwako kunze kwemba. Vanoda kuziva kuti hurukuro yakaoma nemukuru wakaenda sei svondo rino, kana kana iwe wakanakidzwa nechikamu nemurairidzi mutsva. Vanobvunza nezveshamwari nevanoshanda navo vavanoziva nemazita nekuti vanokufarira uye nehupenyu hwako.
Kupupura Kwerudo
Mudiwa anogara achidzokorora rombo rakanaka kusangana newe uye kugara newe, kazhinji, aya ndiwo manzwiro aanoita. Kurumbidza uku kunogara kwakakosha, zvinoratidza kuti achiri kukuda. Ndokumbira utarise kuti kucherechedzwa uku hakunei nekutaridzika kwako, matarenda api aukapihwa, kunyangwe zvese zviri kudonha kubva mumaoko ako nhasi kana kwete. Izvi ndezvenyu semunhu - uye iyi ndiyo yakanakisa kurumbidza kune ese.
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Tichifunga zvese zviri pamusoro apa zviratidzo, zviri nyore kunzwisisa kuti mumwe wako achiri kukufarira. Asi nyaya refu dzerudo, kuyemura uye kuzvipira hadziwanzoitiki netsaona. Kazhinji, vanoratidza kuedza kwevaviri vari vaviri kuchengetedza hukama hwakanaka. Uye basa guru mukutarisirwa uku kwekubatana kwako rinoitwa nekufarira, kutarisa, kubvumirwa uye kuremekedzwa kune mumwe nemumwe.
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