Dzimwe nguva haufanirwe kufungidzira: kutarisa kunokoka kana kubatwa zvinyoro kunozvitaurira. Asi dzimwe nguva tinovhiringika. Uyezve, kunzwisisa kwakaoma zvikuru kuvarume kupfuura kuvakadzi.
Kusvikira munguva pfupi yapfuura, nyanzvi dzepfungwa dzaingofarira mamiriro ekutanga zuva. Zvakarurama sei varume nevakadzi «verenga» chido (kana kushaya chido) weangangove mudiwa. Mhedziso muzvinoitika zvose dzakanga dziri dzokuti varume kazhinji kazhinji vanofungidzira kugadzirira kwomukadzi nokuda bonde.
Vanyori vezvidzidzo vakadudzira mhedzisiro iyi kubva pamaonero eevolutionary psychology. Zvinonyanya kukosha kuti murume asapotsa mukana wekurara nemunhu akakodzera uye kusiya vana pane kufunga kuti anoda bonde here. Ndicho chikonzero ivo vanowanzoita mhosho yekuwedzeredza chishuwo chemudiwa wavo pazuva rekutanga.
Canadian psychologist Amy Muse nevamwe vake vakatanga kuyedza kana kuongorora uku kuchienderera mberi muhukama hwakasimba, hwenguva refu. Vakaita zvidzidzo zvitatu zvinosanganisira 48 vakaroorana vemazera akasiyana (kubva pamakore 23 kusvika kumakore 61) uye vakaona kuti varume vari mumamiriro ezvinhu aya vanogonawo kukanganisa - asi iye zvino vazvidza chido chemumwe wavo.
Uye vakadzi, kazhinji, vakanyatso fungidzira chishuwo chevarume, ndiko kuti, ivo vakanga vasingatarisiri kurerutsa kana kufungidzira kukwezva kwemudiwa.
Kana murume achitya kurambwa, kazhinji kacho anoita seasingakoshesi chido chepabonde chemumwe wake.
Maererano naAmy Muse, izvi zvinogona kutsanangurwa nechokwadi chokuti mune vakaroorana varipo, kuzvidza chishuwo chemukadzi hakubvumiri murume kuti asununguke uye akasununguka "kuzorora pamararamiro ake", asi kunomukurudzira kuunganidza uye kuedza kumutsa murume. kudzorera chido mushamwari. Anowedzera nhamburiko dzokutungidza, kumunyengedza. Uye yakanakira hukama, anodaro Amy Mewes.
Mukadzi anonzwa akasiyana, anodiwa uye naizvozvo anonzwa achigutsikana, uye kushamwaridzana kwake kune mumwe wake kunosimbiswa.
Varume vanorerutsa chishuwo chemudiwa nekuda kwekutya kurambwa kwaari. Kana murume achitya kurambwa muchishuwo chake, anokurumidza kukoshesa chido chepabonde chemumwe wake.
Iyi ndiyo reinsurance isingazivi inokubvumira kuti udzivise njodzi yekurambwa, iyo ine simba rinoparadza pahukama. Zvisinei, anonyora Amy Muse, dzimwe nguva chido chemudiwa uye mukadzi chinokanganisa nenzira imwechete - sekutonga, avo vane libido yakakwirira.
Zvinoitika kuti kurerutsa chishuwo chemudiwa kunobatsira kune vakagadzikana vakaroorana. Panguva imwecheteyo, tsvakurudzo yakaratidza kuti kana vose vakaroorana vakanyatso "verenga" kukwezva kwakasimba kweumwe neumwe, izvi zvinounzawo kugutsikana uye kusimbisa kubatanidzwa mune vakaroorana.