PSYchology

Vabereki vemazuva ano vanonyanya kutarisira vana vavo, vachivasunungura pamabasa epamba vachifarira kudzidza nekukura. Iko kukanganisa, anodaro munyori Julia Lythcott-Hames. Mubhuku rinonzi Let Them Go, anotsanangura chikonzero nei basa richibatsira, zvinofanira kuitwa nemwana pamakore matatu, mashanu, manomwe, 13 ne18. Uye anopa mitemo mitanhatu inoshanda yedzidzo yebasa.

Vabereki vanonangidzira vana vavo pakudzidza nemabasa ebudiriro, pakuziva unyanzvi hwepfungwa. Uye nokuda kweizvi, vanosunungurwa kubva kumabasa ose epamba - "regai adzidze, aite basa, uye vamwe vose vachatevera." Asi kubatanidzwa nguva dzose muzvinhu zvenguva dzose zvemhuri kunobvumira mwana kukura.

Mwana anoita basa remumba angangobudirira muupenyu, anodaro Dr. Marilyn Rossman. Uyezve, kune vanhu vakanyanya kubudirira, mabasa epamba anoonekwa pazera remakore matatu kana mana. Uye avo vakatanga kuita chimwe chinhu pamba pavanenge vachiri kuyaruka havabudiriri.

Kunyange kana zvisiri madikanwa kuti mwana akorobhe uriri kana kubika kudya kwemangwanani, achiri kuda kuita chimwe chinhu mumba, kuziva maitirwo acho, uye kugamuchira mvumo yevabereki nokuda kwomupiro wake. Izvi zvinoumba nzira yakarurama yekushanda, iyo inobatsira munzvimbo yebasa uye muhupenyu hwemagariro evanhu.

Unyanzvi hunokosha hunoshanda

Heano hunyanzvi hukuru uye hunyanzvi hwehupenyu hunodudzwa naJulia Lithcott-Hames achireva kune ine mvumo yedzidzo portal Family Education Network.

Pazera remakore matatu, mwana anofanira:

- kubatsira kuchenesa matoyi

- kuzvimiririra kupfeka uye kusunungura (nerumwe rubatsiro kubva kune mukuru);

- kubatsira kugadzirisa tafura;

— geza mazino nekugeza kumeso uchibatsirwa nemunhu mukuru.

Nezera shanu:

- ita mabasa ekuchenesa ari nyore, sekupukuta nzvimbo dzinosvikika uye kuchenesa tafura;

- kudyisa mhuka dzinovaraidza;

- kukwesha mazino ako, zora bvudzi rako uye geza kumeso kwako pasina rubatsiro;

- batsira nekuwacha mbatya, semuenzaniso, uuye nazvo kunzvimbo yekuwachira.

Nezera rechinomwe:

- kubatsira kubika (kukurudzira, kuzunungusa uye kucheka nebanga rakagomara);

- gadzirira zvokudya zviri nyore, somuenzaniso, gadzira sandwiches;

— Batsira kuchenesa chikafu

- suka ndiro;

- kushandiswa kwakachengeteka kwezvinhu zviri nyore zvekuchenesa;

- rongedza chimbuzi mushure mekushandisa;

- kuwaridza mubhedha pasina rubatsiro.

Pazera remakore mapfumbamwe:

- peta zvipfeko

- dzidza nzira dzakareruka dzekusona;

- chengetedza bhasikoro kana roller skates;

- shandisa mutsvairo uye guruva nemazvo;

- kugona kuverenga mabikirwo uye kubika chikafu chiri nyore;

- rubatsiro nemabasa akareruka ekurima gadheni, sekudiridza nekusakura;

— kubvisa marara.

Nezera rechipiri:

- enda kuchitoro uye tenga wega;

- kuchinja mapepa

- shandisa dishwasher uye dryer;

- fry uye kubika muchoto;

— simbi;

- cheka uswa uye kuchenesa chivanze;

— Tarisira vanun’una nehanzvadzi.

Nezera rechipiri:

- kugona zvese zviri pamusoro zvakanaka;

- ita zvakanyanya kuoma kwekuchenesa nekugadzirisa basa, zvakadai sekushandura bhegi mumudziyo wekutsvaira, kuchenesa ovheni uye kuchenesa mvura;

- gadzira chikafu uye gadzira ndiro dzakaoma.

Zvichida, mushure mokuverenga urongwa urwu, iwe uchatya. Pane mabasa mazhinji mairi atinozviita isu pachedu, pachinzvimbo chekuapa kuvana. Kutanga, zviri nyore kwatiri: tichazviita nekukurumidza uye zviri nani, uye chechipiri, tinoda kuvabatsira uye kunzwa tichiziva, tine masimba ose.

Asi patinokurumidza kutanga kudzidzisa vana kushanda, kashoma kuti vanzwe kubva kwavari mukuyaruka: “Nei muchida izvi kwandiri? Kana izvi zviri zvinhu zvinokosha, nei ndisina kuita izvi kare?

Rangarira zano rakaedzwa kwenguva refu uye nesainzi rekuvandudza hunyanzvi muvana:

- kutanga tinoita kumwana;

ipapo muite naye;

— zvino cherechedzai kuti anozviita sei;

- pakupedzisira, mwana anozviita zvachose akazvimiririra.

Mitemo mitanhatu yedzidzo yebasa

Hazvina kumbononoka kuvaka patsva, uye kana usina kujaira mwana wako kushanda, saka tanga kuzviita izvozvi. Julia Lythcott-Hames anopa mitemo mitanhatu yekuzvibata kuvabereki.

1. Isa muenzaniso

Usatume mwana wako kubasa iwe pachako wakarara pasofa. Nhengo dzese dzemhuri, zvisinei nezera, murume kana mukadzi uye chinzvimbo, dzinofanirwa kubatanidzwa mubasa uye rubatsiro. Vana ngavaone mashandiro ako. Vakumbire kuti vabatane. Kana iwe uchizoita chimwe chinhu mukicheni, muchivanze kana mugaraji - dana mwana: "Ndinoda rubatsiro rwako."

2. Tarisira rubatsiro kubva kumwana wako

Mubereki haasi mubatsiri wega wemudzidzi, asi mudzidzisi wekutanga. Dzimwe nguva isu tine hanya zvakanyanya nekunakidzwa kwemwana. Asi tinofanira kugadzirira vana nokuda kwekukura, uko unyanzvi hwose uhwu huchava hunobatsira zvikuru kwavari. Mwana angasafadzwa nomutoro mutsva—pasina mubvunzo angada kuzviviga amene parunhare kana kuti kugara neshamwari, asi kuita migove yako kuchamupa pfungwa yechinodikanwa chake amene nokukosha.

3. Usakumbira ruregerero kana kupinda mukutsanangura zvisina basa

Mubereki ane kodzero nebasa rokukumbira mwana wake rubatsiro pamabasa epamba. Iwe haufaniri kutsanangura kusingaperi chikonzero nei uchikumbira izvi, uye vimbisa kuti unoziva kuti haazvifariri sei, asi iwe uchiri kufanira kuzviita, simbisa kuti hauna kugadzikana kumubvunza. Tsananguro dzakawandisa dzinoita kuti uratidzike seuri kuita zvikonzero. Zvinongokanganisa kuvimbika kwako. Ingopa mwana wako basa raanogona kuita. Anogona kugunun'una zvishoma, asi mune ramangwana achakutendai.

4. Ipa nhungamiro dzakajeka, dzakananga

Kana basa iri idzva, riparadze kuita matanho ari nyore. Taura chaizvo zvekuita, wobva wasuduruka. Haufanire kudzengerera pamusoro pazvo. Ingoita chokwadi chekuti wapedza basa racho. Ngaaedze, akundikane uye aedze zvakare. Bvunza: "Ndiudze kana yagadzirwa, uye ndichauya kuzoona." Zvadaro, kana nyaya yacho isina ngozi uye kutarisirwa kusingadiwi, siya.

5. Vongai nokuzvidzora

Kana vana vakaita zvinhu zvakapfava—kubvisa marara, kuzvichenesa patafura, kudyisa imbwa—tinowanzovarumbidza zvikuru: “Zvakanaka! Iwe wakangwara sei! Zviri nyore, zvine hushamwari, zvine chivimbo “mazvita” kana kuti “waita zvakanaka” zvakakwana. Chengetedza kurumbidza kukuru kwenguva apo mwana akawana chimwe chinhu chisina kujairika, akazvipfuura.

Kunyange kana basa racho richiitwa zvakanaka, unogona kutaurira mwana izvo zvinogona kuvandudzwa: saka rimwe zuva richava kubasa. Mamwe mazano anogona kupiwa: "Kana iwe ukabata bhaketi seizvi, marara haazodonha kubva mariri." Kana kuti: “Unoona mutsetse uri pahembe yako yegrey? Imhaka yekuti wakaigeza nemajini matsva. Zviri nani kushambidza jeans zvakasiyana nguva yekutanga, kana zvisina kudaro ivo vachasvibisa zvimwe zvinhu.

Mushure meizvozvo, kunyemwerera - iwe hauna kutsamwa, asi dzidzisa - uye dzokera kubhizinesi rako. Kana mwana wako ava kujaira kubatsira pamba uye kuita zvinhu ari oga, muratidze zvaunoona uye tenda zvaanoita.

6. Ita muitiro

Kana ukasarudza kuti zvimwe zvinhu zvinofanira kuitwa zuva nezuva, zvimwe vhiki nevhiki, uye zvimwe mwaka woga woga, vana vachajaira kuti muupenyu pane nguva dzose zvokuita.

Kana iwe ukaudza mwana kuti, "Teerera, ndinoda kuti uende kubhizimisi uye ubatsire," uye kumubatsira kuita chimwe chinhu chakaoma, nekufamba kwenguva anotanga kubatsira vamwe.

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