Bonde rinotenderwa pazuva rekutanga here?

Kune nzira dzakasiyana dzekupedza zuva rekutanga, uye imwe yesarudzo ndeyebonde. Nekudaro, isu tinoziva mutemo usina kunyorwa unorambidza kushamwaridzana mushure memusangano wekutanga. Tinofanira kunyatsoitevera here, kana kuti tinofanira kuramba tichiteerera zvido zvedu?

bonde pazuva rekutanga: varume nevakadzi

Izvi hazvisi zvakanyanya stereotype seyakanyorwa, uye inotaurirwa kunyanya kuvakadzi. Fungidzira murume aizodzivirira mutemo wakadaro wekuzvibata pachake - vangafunga kuti ane matambudziko ne potency. Asi mukadzi anofanira kudzora zviri mukati make. Sei?

“Mafungiro aya akavakirwa pangano yokusiyana kwevatano yomurume nomukadzi,” anotsanangura kudaro Inga Green. - Zviri nyore kumuwana ari pasi pemasiki senge: "varume vanongoda izvi", "varume vanoda bonde, uye vakadzi vanoda kuroora". Zvinoenderana nengano iyi, murume ari omnivorous uye achidzingirira nhamba yevanobatika, uye zuva ndiro risingadzivisiki diki, mushure meizvozvo achawana "kusvika kumuviri." Zvakanaka, zvepabonde zvechikadzi - chido, kufarira, kufara - hazviratidzike kuvapo. Kuratidzwa kwekukwezva kunze kwemamiriro ehukama kunoonekwa sekudenha uye kukoka kune chiito.

kubva kune imwe yakanyanyisa kuenda kune imwe

Zvisinei, kana tichitaura nezve stereotype iyi yakashinga, ndeyechinyakare. Zvechokwadi, nhasi maitiro acho ndezvimwe zvakanyanyisa - kuratidza kusununguka kwepabonde uye kusununguka. "Kurara kuratidza chimwe chinhu - nzira iyi haina chokuita nekuratidzwa kwepabonde," nyanzvi yezvepfungwa inodaro. "Anogona kuva mufananidzo wechimwe chinhu: kupikisa, chido chekufadza, kuwana simba, pesvedzero kana ruzivo rutsva." Uye mune iyi kesi, mukadzi anowira mune imwe inotsamira - pakumutsa kwake uye / kana pane chishuwo chemurume.

Zvinoitika kuti hapana musiyano pakati pezvigadziro "kuita rudo pazuva rekutanga kwakaipa" uye "ratidza kuti wakasununguka sei"! Mumwe nemumwe wavo anoratidza maonero eruzhinji anotimanikidza imwe mhando yekuita otomatiki uye isingatarise zvido zvemunhu.

Tsvaga chiyero

“Kana mukadzi akateerera zvishuvo zvake, anobvuma kushamwaridzana paanenge achida, uye zvinoitika zvakasiyana kumunhu wose,” anoyeuka kudaro Inga Green. -Maitiro edu anogona kusiyana zvakanyanya zvichienderana nekuti ndeupi mudiwa ari padyo. Nemumwe munhu, zvakakwana kuti isu tinzwe kunhuwidza kana kubata ruzha rweizwi kuti kukwezva kusvetukira kune "pano chaipo uye nekukurumidza", uye nemumwe munhu tinofanira kuzviteerera isu kwenguva yakareba kuti tiwane kufarira.

Asi kana tikakweverwa kumunhu akapesana naye, uye iye achikweverwa kwatiri, kana tose tiri vaviri tine chishuvo chokugamuchira nokupa mufarwa, ipapoka nei mumwe munhu kana kuti chimwe chinhu chichifanira kutirambidza kuziva ikoku?

Zvechokwadi, zvakakodzera kuyeuka nezvekuchengeteka. Iwe unogona kusarudza kusangana nevaviri kakawanda uye kuziva mumwe wako mutsva zviri nani kuitira kuti urege kutiza imba yemumwe munhu mune negligee kutiza vhidhiyo kamera kana maitiro asina kufanira epabonde. Kana ukafunga kutevedzera chido chekuda manheru ekutanga, usave neusimbe kutora matanho ekuzvidzivirira: usanwa doro rakawanda, chengeta nharembozha yako yakachajwa uye yambira shamwari kana musikana nezve kwawakaenda uye nani.

Inga Green

Psychologist

Mhuri psychotherapist. Kubva 2003 anga achishanda sacounselling psychologist. Ane ruzivo senyanzvi yepfungwa yechikoro, nyanzvi yebasa rekuvimba mune imwe yenzvimbo dzeguta rekugadziriswa kwepfungwa uye pedagogical uye kudzorera vana, vechidiki uye mhuri.

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