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Vana vechikoro vechidiki vana vane makore 7 kusvika ku9, ndiko kuti, kubva pa1st kusvika ku3rd (4th) mamakisi echikoro. Rondedzero yezvinyorwa zvegiredhi 3 — dhaunirodha.

Mwana anova mwana wechikoro, zvinoreva kuti ava nemabasa matsva, mitemo mitsva uye kodzero itsva. Anogona kutaura mafungiro akakomba kune vanhu vakuru kune basa rake redzidzo; ane kodzero yenzvimbo yake yebasa, kusvika panguva inodiwa pazvidzidzo zvake, kuzvidzidzo zvekudzidzisa, nezvimwewo. Kune rumwe rutivi, anotarisana nemabasa matsva ekuvandudza, kunyanya basa rekuvandudza unyanzvi hwekushingaira, kukwanisa kuparadza basa rakaoma kuva zvikamu. , kukwanisa kuona kubatana pakati pekuedza uye chigumisiro chakawanikwa, kukwanisa kubvuma dambudziko remamiriro ezvinhu nekutsunga uye ushingi, kukwanisa kuzviongorora zvakakwana, kukwanisa kuremekedza miganhu - yako uye yevamwe. .

Unyanzvi hwekushanda nesimba

Sezvo chinangwa chikuru chemudzidzi wepuraimari chiri “kudzidza nzira yokudzidza,” kuzviremekedza kunovakwa pahwaro hwebudiriro yedzidzo. Kana zvinhu zvose zvakanaka munharaunda iyi, kushingaira (kushingaira) kunova rutivi rweunhu hwomwana. Sezvineiwo, vana vasina kubudirira vanogona kunzwa vakaderera kana vachienzaniswa nevezera ravo vanobudirira. Gare gare, izvi zvinogona kukudziridza kuita tsika yekugara uchizviongorora iwe nevamwe, uye zvinogona kukanganisa kugona kwako kupedzisa zvaunotanga.

Dzvanya dambudziko rakaoma kuita zvikamu

Kana wakatarisana nebasa rakaoma uye idzva, zvakakosha kuti ugone kuzviona sekutevedzana kweakaparadzana, madiki uye mamwe mabasa anogoneka (matanho kana mazinga). Isu tinodzidzisa vana kuti vaparadze basa rakaoma muzvikamu, tichivadzidzisa kugadzira, kuronga mabasa avo. Hazvibviri kuti udye pakarepo orenji - hazvina kunaka uye kunyange zvine ngozi: unogona kukachidzwa nekuisa yakawandisa chidimbu mumuromo mako. Nekudaro, kana iwe ukakamura orenji kuita zvimedu, saka unogona kuidya pasina kunetseka uye nekunakidzwa.

Kazhinji tinoona muboka revana vasina hunyanzvi uhu. Mufananidzo unonyanya kuenzanisira ipati yeti, iyo vakomana vanozvironga ivo pachavo. Kuti uwane chigumisiro chakanaka (tafura pane iyo inotapira inotapira mumahwendefa, pasina marara uye kuvhara, apo munhu wose ane chinwiwa uye nzvimbo patafura), vakomana vanofanira kuedza. Pakutanga kwegore rechikoro, tinoona zvakasiyana-siyana zvingasarudzwa: zvakaoma kumira uye kusaedza chimwe chinhu chinonaka kubva mundiro yeumwe munhu, zvakaoma kuyeuka pamusoro pezvinhu zvako zvinoda kubviswa nekutanga kwekunwa tii, uye. kunyange kuchenesa zvimedu ibasa rekuwedzera kuoma. Nekudaro, kana iwe ukakamura hombe - kuronga bato reti - kuita mabasa madiki anogoneka, ipapo boka revana vane makore 7-9 okuberekwa rinogona kurarama neizvi vari voga. Zvechokwadi, vafambisi vanoramba vari muboka uye vakagadzirira kutonga maitiro kana zvichidiwa.

Ona kubatana kuri pakati pekuedza uye kubudirira

Kana mwana akatora mutoro, iye nokudaro anotanga nzira yekushandura ramangwana. Zvinorevei? Basa rinoitwa nevakomana, hongu, rinogadzira mamwe matambudziko muhupenyu hwavo (iwe unofanirwa kupukuta bhodhi nenguva, usapotsa zuva rebasa rako, nezvimwewo), asi, uchiona mhedzisiro yebasa ravo, mwana. anotanga kunzwisisa: "Ndinogona!" .

Nzvimbo yeMunyori: tsika yekugamuchira dambudziko remamiriro ezvinhu nekutsunga uye ushingi

Kana tichiti: "Zvingava zvakanaka kana mwana akadzidza kana kujaira kuita chimwe chinhu", tinoreva mano ake chete. Kuti mwana achinje pfungwa yekuti "Ini handitomboyedze, haisati yashanda" kune ine hutano "nyota yekubudirira", zvakakosha kuisa njodzi, ushingi uye kukunda kukosha kwe. vana.

Chinzvimbo cheAkabatwa, chinzvimbo chega chega, kutya kukundikana, kunzwa kuti hazvina maturo kuedza uye kuedza - iyi ndiyo mhedzisiro isingafadzi iyo kuregeredza basa iri rega kunogona kutungamira. Pano, semundima yapfuura, tiri kutaurawo nezvekusangana nesimba rangu, simba, asi maziso angu akatendeukira kumamiriro ezvinhu, kune izvo zvinobva munyika sebasa: kuti ndiite, ndinofanira kutora mukana. , try; kana ndisina kugadzirira kutora njodzi, ndinorega kuita.

Alexey, ane makore 7. Amai vakaenda kwatiri vachinyunyuta nezvekusachengeteka uye kunyara kwemwanakomana wavo, izvo zvinomutadzisa kudzidza. Zvechokwadi, Alexei mukomana akanyarara kwazvo, kana iwe usingamubvunze, akanyarara, pakudzidziswa anotya kutaura ari mudenderedzwa. Zvakamuomera kana zviito zvinopihwa nevatenzi zvine chekuita nemanzwiro uye zviitiko, zvakaoma kuvhurika muboka, pamberi pevamwe vakomana. Dambudziko raAlexey - kuzvidya mwoyo kwaanoona - hakumubvumiri kuti aite basa, kunomudzivisa. Atarisana nezvinetso, anobva angodzokera. Kuda kutora njodzi, simba, ushingi - izvi ndizvo zvaanoshaya kuve nechokwadi. Muboka, isu nevamwe vakomana taiwanzomutsigira, uye mushure mechinguva Aleksey akawedzera kudzikama uye ane chivimbo, akaita shamwari pakati pevakomana, uye pane imwe yemakirasi ekupedzisira iye, achinyepedzera kuva mubatanidzwa, akamhanya naye. chitoyi muchina pfuti, izvo kwaari pasina mubvunzo kubudirira.

Heino mienzaniso yekudzidzisa vana kuita kune matambudziko nenzira yevakuru.

Zviongorore zvakakodzera

Kuti mwana aumbe maitiro ane hutano kune iyo nzira yekuzviongorora, zvakakosha kuti iye pachake adzidze kunzwisisa kuti yakawanda sei kuedza kwaakashandisa pabasa, uye zvakare kuzviongorora zvinoenderana nehuwandu hwekuedza, uye kwete. nekuongorora kubva kunze. Iri basa rakaoma, uye rine zvinokwana zvikamu zvitatu zvakadai se:

  1. kuwana ruzivo rwekushingairira - ndiko kuti, kuita wakazvimirira zvinhu zvakadaro izvo zvinofanirwa kuitwa pasi pemamiriro ese ezvinhu uye zvinosanganisira kukunda "Ini handidi";
  2. dzidza kuona huwandu hwekuedza kwakashandiswa - ndiko kuti, kukwanisa kuparadzanisa mupiro wako kubva mupiro wemamiriro ezvinhu uye vamwe vanhu;
  3. dzidza kuwana manyorero pakati peichi chitsama chekuedza, maitiro kune iwe pachako uye mhedzisiro. Dambudziko guru riri pakuti basa iri rechisikigo rinopikiswa nekuongorora kwekunze kubva kuvanhu vanokosha, kunobva pane zvimwe zvikonzero, kureva, pakuenzanisa nemigumisiro yevamwe vana.

Nekusakwana kuumbwa kwebasa iri rekukura kwemunhu, mwana, panzvimbo yekukwanisa kuisa pfungwa paari, anowira mu "adaptive trance", achipa simba rake rose pakuwana kuongororwa. Maererano nekuongorora kwekunze, anozviongorora pachake, achirasikirwa nekwanisi yekuumba maitiro emukati. Vadzidzi vanobata shanduko shoma pachiso chemudzidzisi pavanenge vachiedza «kuverenga» mhinduro chaiyo «beg» yezvibodzwa zvepamusoro uye vanosarudza kunyepa pane kubvuma kukanganisa.

Muboka redu maiva nevana vakadaro, uye kanopfuura kamwe. Mufananidzo wakajairika musikana kana mukomana, uyo asina matambudziko muboka, anonyatso kutevedzera ese mitemo nemirairo, asi ivo havana chero mukati mekukura. Nguva nenguva, mwana akadaro anouya kukirasi, uye nguva imwe neimwe anoratidza kuti anonyatsokwanisa kuverenga zvatinoda, anogona kuchinjika nyore kune chero mamiriro ezvinhu kuti afadze vatungamiriri, achapa mhinduro kune vamwe vese vakomana, izvo kukonzera hasha. Shamwari dziri muboka, hongu, hazvioneki. Mwana anongotarisa kunze, saka chero mubvunzo une chekuita neruzivo kana maonero emunhu ndewekuti “Munofungei? Uye zvakamira sei kwauri? Uye iwe unonzwa sei zvino? ”- anomumisa. Kuratidza kuvhiringidzika kunobva kwaoneka pachiso uye, sokunge zvakadaro, mubvunzo: “Zvakanaka sei? Chii chandinofanira kupindura kuti ndirumbidzwe?

Vana ava vanodei? Dzidza kufunga nemusoro wako, kutaura pfungwa dzako.

Remekedza miganhu - yako uye yevamwe

Mwana anodzidza kuwana boka revana rakadaro umo maitiro ake aizoremekedzwa, iye pachake anodzidza kushivirira. Anodzidza kuramba, anodzidza kupedza nguva naye pachake: kune vana vakawanda iyi ibasa rinokosha, rakaoma zvikuru - kutsungirira zvakadzikama mamiriro ekusurukirwa. Zvakakosha kudzidzisa mwana nokuzvidira uye nokudisa kujoina zvirongwa zvakasiyana-siyana zvakabatana, kukudziridza kushamwaridzana kwake, kukwanisa kuisa nyore nyore vamwe vana mumabasa eboka. Zvakakosha zvakaenzana kumudzidzisa kuti arege kuita izvi chero ipi zvayo, ndiko kuti, kumudzidzisa kuramba mutambo kana kambani kana miganhu yake ichityorwa, kodzero dzake dzakaputswa, chiremera chake chinonyadziswa.

Iri ndiro dambudziko rinoitika muvana vanoita sevasurukirwa. Vanonyara, vanongwarira kana, zvakasiyana, vane hasha, ndiko kuti, vana vanorambwa nevezera ravo vane hunhu hwakafanana. Havanzwi miganhu ye "zvavo" (zvavanoda, tsika, zvishuwo), "Ini" yavo haina kunyatsotsanangurwa. Ndicho chikonzero nei vachibvumira nyore nyore vamwe vana kuti vatyore miganhu yavo kana kunamatira, ndiko kuti, vanogara vachida mumwe munhu ari pedyo kuitira kuti vasanzwa sechinhu chisina chinhu. Vana ava vanotyora zviri nyore miganhu yevamwe, sezvo kushaikwa kwepfungwa yemiganhu yeumwe neyemunhu ari maitiro anoenderana.

Serezha, ane makore 9. Vabereki vake vakamuunza kukudzidziswa nekuda kwematambudziko nevaaidzidza navo: Serezha aive asina shamwari. Kunyange zvazvo ari mukomana anoshamwaridzana, haana shamwari, haaremekedzwi mukirasi. Serezha anoita fungidziro inonakidza, zviri nyore kutaura naye, ari kushingaira kubatanidzwa mukudzidzira, anosvika pakuziva vakomana vatsva. Matambudziko anotanga apo chidzidzo chinotanga. Serezha anoedza zvakanyanya kufadza munhu wese, anoda kugara achitariswa kubva kune vamwe vakomana zvekuti nekuda kweizvi akagadzirira kuita chero chinhu: anogara achiseka, kazhinji zvisina kufanira uye dzimwe nguva zvisina kufanira, anotsanangura pane ese chirevo mudenderedzwa, anozvifumura mune benzi. chiedza, kuti vose vamuone. Pashure pezvidzidzo zvishoma, vakomana vanotanga kuita zvehasha kwaari, vanouya nezita remadunhurirwa rokuti «Petrosyan» kwaari. Hushamwari hweboka hahuwandi, sezvakangoitawo vaunodzidza navo. Takatanga kukwevera pfungwa dzaSerezha pamaitiro ake muboka, tichimuudza kuti zviito zvake zvinokanganisa sei vamwe vakomana. Isu takamutsigira, takamisa kuita zvehasha kweboka, takakurudzira kuti vamwe vatori vechikamu vasatsigire mufananidzo uyu we "Petrosyan". Pashure penguva yakati, Serezha akatanga kukwevera pfungwa shoma muboka, akatanga kuzviremekedza uye vamwe. Achiri kuseka zvakanyanya, asi iye zvino hazvikonzeri kuita zvechisimba kubva kune vamwe vose veboka, sezvo nemajee ake haagumburi vamwe uye haazvinyadzisi. Serezha akaita shamwari mukirasi nemuboka.

Natasha. 9 makore. Kukwidza padanho revabereki: musikana anogumburwa mukirasi, maererano naye - pasina chikonzero. Natasha anoyevedza, anofara, ari nyore kutaura nevakomana. Pachidzidzo chekutanga, hatina kunzwisisa kuti dambudziko ringave riri rei. Asi pane imwe yemakirasi, Natasha kamwe kamwe anotaura nehasha uye zvinogumbura pamusoro peimwe nhengo yeboka, iyo yaanoitawo nehasha. Kupopotedzana kunomuka kubva pakatanga. Kumwe kuongorora kwakaratidza kuti Natasha haacherechedzi kuti anotsamwisa sei vamwe vakomana: haana kana kumboona kuti wekutanga akataura nehasha. Musikana wacho haana hanya nemiganhu yepfungwa yevamwe, haaoni kuti anokuvadza sei vanhu. Natasha akaenda kukudzidziswa kwedu mugore rechikoro, asi mushure memwedzi mishoma, hukama mukirasi uye muboka hwakawedzera. Zvakazoitika kuti dambudziko rekutanga raive "muromo wechando", nepo dambudziko guru raNatasha raive rekutadza kudzora manzwiro ake, kunyanya kutsamwa, kwatakashanda navo.

Marina, ane makore manomwe. Vabereki vakachema-chema nenyaya yekuba. Marina akaonekwa mukamuri rekukiyira rechikoro paakaburitsa matoyi madiki muhomwe dzebhachi revamwe. Kumba, vabereki vakatanga kuwana akasiyana matoyi madiki, domino chips, zvihwitsi wrappers. Isu takakurudzira kuna Marina, kutanga kwezvose, basa rega rega nenyanzvi yepfungwa, pamwe nebasa reboka - kudzidziswa. Basa pakudzidziswa kwakaratidza kuti Marina akanga asina kunzwisisa kuti chii chaiva "changu" uye chii chaiva "chomumwe munhu": aigona kutora nzvimbo yeumwe munhu nyore nyore, kutora chinhu cheumwe munhu, aigara achikanganwa zvinhu zvake pakudzidziswa, kazhinji. vakarasika. Marina haana hanya nemiganhu yake uye yevamwe vanhu, uye pakudzidziswa kwatakashanda neizvi, tichimukwevera kutarisa kumiganhu yepfungwa, zvichiita kuti zvive pachena. Taiwanzobvunza dzimwe nhengo kuti dzinonzwa sei kana Marina akatyora miganhu yavo, uye ainyatsoteerera kushanda nemitemo yeboka. Marina akaenda kuboka kwegore, panguva iyo maitiro ake kune zvinhu (wokune imwe nyika uye zvake) akachinja zvikuru, nyaya dzekuba hadzina kudzokororwa. Zvechokwadi, kuchinja kwakatanga nemhuri: sezvo vabereki vaMarina vaishingaira mubasa uye basa rekubvisa miganhu rakaenderera mberi kumba.

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