Chii chinokonzera kuvhunduka kwakamwe kamwe? Kutya kusina musoro kunobva kupi? Dzimwe nguva borderline personality disorder inozviratidza nenzira iyi. Sezvineiwo, zvinorapika. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuziva zviratidzo nenguva.
Elena akatambura nekutya kukuru. Kurwiswa kwakatora kubva pamasekonzi mashomanana kusvika hafu yeawa. Vakasimuka vasingafungiri uye vasina kugadzikana zvachose. Izvi zvakamutadzisa kurarama zvizere, kushanda uye kutaurirana. Ainyara zvake. Kazhinji aishamwaridzana, Elena akatanga kuramba vanhu uye akasiya zvaaimboita zvinomuvaraidza.
Kuvhunduka kwakatanga mukuyaruka. Pakazosvika makore makumi matatu, Elena aisakwanisa kubatisisa chero basa kwemwedzi mishomanana, muchato wakanga wava pedyo nekuparara, pakanga pasina shamwari dzakasara.
Vanachiremba vakamuudza kuti aiva neborderline personality disorder. Elena aisaratidzika semurwere akajairika ane chirwere ichi zvachose. Aiva nechirwere chakavandika.
Heano mashoma ezviratidzo zveborderline kusagadzikana mune yayo yakadzika fomu:
1. Chido chekuchengetedza hukama pane zvese. Elena haazombosiyi murume wake, pasinei nezvinetso muwanano. Kubvira pauduku, akanzwa asiyiwa nevabereki vake uye, muhuduku hwake, akadanana nomurume waakaroora.
2. Hukama husina kugadzikana uye husina kugadzikana mupfungwa mumhuri. Izvi zvakanyanya kuratidzwa muukama hwaamai. Akatuka uye akanyadzisa Elena. Mwanasikana akarega kutaurirana naamai vake mushure meimwe SMS nekutuka, uye mavhiki maviri gare gare, sokunge pasina chakaitika, akaenda naye kunotenga. Elena akadzvinyirira kutsamwa uye kutsamwa.
3. Mafungiro akamonyaniswa pamusoro pako. Elena achiri mudiki, amai vake vakaramba vachimutuma kuti atore chikamu mumakwikwi erunako. Zviitiko zvakadaro zvinoumba pfungwa dzisina kunaka pamusoro pomuviri womunhu amene. Elena akasarudza kuti kana akanga akanaka muchitarisiko, aisazofanira kubata nemanzwiro uye manzwiro. Nemhaka yaikoku, akadzvinyirira kutsamwa, rusuruvaro, nyadzi, mhaka, uye rusuruvaro kwamakore mazhinji.
4. Kusafunga uye kuzviparadza. Elena haana kuramba kuti aishandisa zvidhakwa nezvinodhaka. Aiwanzoshandisa mari isingadzoreki, kuzvikuvadza, kudyisa. Tsika dzakaipa dzakateverana. Kana akakwanisa kurega kushandisa zvinodhaka psychotropic, akabva atanga kushandisa mari asingadzoreki. Mushure mekukunda tsika yekukama ganda rake, akatanga "kubata" kushushikana. Nzira dzekuzvikuvadza dzakagara dzichichinja.
5. Kuedza kuzviuraya nguva dzose. Pakutanga kuona, Elena akanga asina chinangwa chokuzviuraya, akaramba pfungwa dzakadaro. Zvisinei, aiva nezvinodhaka zvakawandisa. Tsika yake yenguva refu yekuzvikuvadza uye maitiro ane ngozi yaive yakasimba zvekuti zviito zvakadaro zvinogonawo kunzi kuedza kuzviuraya pachivande.
6. Kushungurudzika kwakanyanya, kuora mwoyo kana kushatirwa. Somwana, Elena akadzidziswa kuti manzwiro asingafadzi - kuzvidya mwoyo, kutsamwa, kuzvidya mwoyo - kunofanira kunyara. Sezvo akanga asingabvumirwi kuratidza kunzwa kwakadaro pachena, akaaviga. Somugumisiro, kutya kwakamuka, uye mukukura, zvinetso zvekugaya zvakawedzerwa.
7. Kugara uchinzwa usina chinhu mukati. Kunyange zvinhu pazvaifamba zvakanaka kuna Elena, ainzwa asingagutsikani. Akatanga kukanganisa mafungiro evamwe, asingazivi achiedza kuratidza kusava nechinhu mukati. Zvisinei, izvi zvakasangana nokushorwa kunotyisa kwomurume wake nedzimwe hama dzokunyama zvokuti aisarudza kuvanza manzwiro ake kumunhu wose.
8. Kuputika nehasha. Elena akataura kuti anenge asingambotsamwi. Kutaura idi, akadzidziswa kubva pauduku kuti hasha hadzifaniri kuratidzirwa. Hasha dzakawedzera nokufamba kwemakore, uye dzimwe nguva kwaiva nekuputika kusingatarisirwi. Mushure mekunge anzwa kunyara, akatangazve kuzvikuvadza, kudyisa kana kunwa doro.
9. Pfungwa dzeparanoid. Maitiro ekuongororwa nachiremba akakonzera kutya kwaElena zvokuti akadonhedza zvinhu zvose kakawanda ndokubva atanga zvakare. Aive nepfungwa dzakapishana nepfungwa. Aitya kuita kwehama, kushorwa kwevamwe. Uye kupfuura zvose - kuti munhu wose achamusiya.
10. Zviratidzo zvekuparadzana. Dzimwe nguva Elena aiita se "akabva kunze kwechokwadi", zvaiita sekuti aizviona ari parutivi. Kakawanda, izvi zvakaitika pakarepo kusati kwaitika kutya uye pakarepo pashure payo. Asati aenda kuna chiremba, Elena haana kuudza chero munhu nezveizvi, aitya kuti aizoonekwa seasina kujairika.
Zvose zviri pachena uye zvakavanda borderline personality disorder zvinorapika. Psychotherapy inobatsira varwere vazhinji: dialectical behavioral therapy, schema therapy, dzidzo yepfungwa. Apo Elena akaziva kuti chii chaiitika kwaari, kuvhunduka kwakaderera, uye nekufamba kwenguva, psychotherapy yakamubatsira kudzidza kurarama zviri nani nezviitiko zvepfungwa.
Nezve munyori: Kristin Hammond inyanzvi yepfungwa.