Mukati
Waona here kuti kuwana dzikamo pakati pemhuri, nguva yako pachako nebasa zvinokubira simba uye kutenda mauri? Kazhinji vakadzi vanotambura neizvi, nokuti, maererano nemafungiro aripo, ibasa ravo re "juggle" mabasa akasiyana. Paunenge uchitsvaga basa, hazvingamboiti kuti chero munhu abvunze murume kuti anobudirira sei kuvaka basa rinobudirira uye kupa nguva kuvana, kana kuti kutanga kwegore rechikoro kuchamutadzisa kupedza chirongwa nenguva. Vakadzi vanofanira kupindura mibvunzo yakadaro zuva nezuva.
Isu tose, pasinei nevakadzi, tinoda kuzivikanwa, hukama hwemagariro evanhu, mukana wekuvandudza, tisingarasikirwi nevanoda uye kutora chikamu muhupenyu hwevana vedu. Maererano neongororo yakaitwa naEgon Zehnde, 74% yevanhu vanofarira zvinzvimbo zvemaneja, asi chikamu ichi chinodzikira kusvika pa57% pakati pevakadzi vane makore. Uye chimwe chezvikonzero zvikuru idambudziko rekuenzanisa pakati pebasa nemhuri.
Kana tikanzwisisa "kuenzanisa" sechiyero chezvikamu zvakaenzana zvenguva uye simba ratinopa kubasa uye hupenyu hwehupenyu, saka chido chekuwana kuenzana uku chinogona kutidzinga mukona. Kurondwa kwetariro yenhema, chishuvo chikuru chokuwana dzikamo, kunyanyoda kunotiparadza. Chinhu chitsva chinowedzerwa kune yatovepo nhanho yekushushikana - kusakwanisa kubata zvakaenzana nemabasa ese.
Iko kubvunza chaiko kwemubvunzo - kutsvaga kuenzana pakati pezvinhu zviviri - kunotimanikidza kusarudza "kana-kana", sekunge basa risiri chikamu chehupenyu, seshamwari, zvinokuvaraidza, vana nemhuri. Kana kuti basa chinhu chakaoma zvokuti zvakaoma kudzikamisa noupenyu hunofadza hwomunhu oga here? Balance imhando yekufungidzira, kutsvaga kwe stasis, kana pasina munhu uye hapana chinofamba, zvese zvakaomeswa nechando uye zvichave zvakakwana nekusingaperi. Kutaura zvazviri, kuwana dzikamo hakusi chimwe chinhu kunze kwokuvavarira kurarama upenyu hunogutsa.
Edza kufunga nezvekuenzanisa sechido chekuzadzikiswa munzvimbo mbiri pasina kuzvidemba uye mhosva.
Ko kana, pachinzvimbo chekuenzanisa iyo «isina kuenzana», edza kuvaka chirongwa chakabatana chekushanda uye hupenyu hwemunhu? Kuwedzera kubereka maonero emunhu sehurongwa hwese, mukusiyana nemaitiro ehunyambiri, ayo anokamuranisa muanopikisa "zvikamu" nezvido zvakasiyana. Mushure mezvose, basa, pachedu, uye mhuri zvikamu zvehupenyu humwe, vane zvese zvinofadza nguva uye zvinhu zvinotikwevera pasi.
Ko kana tikashandisa zano rimwechete kunzvimbo dzese dziri mbiri: ita zvaunoda nekunakidzwa nazvo, uchiedza kubata nemabasa asingafadze nemazvo uye kutungamira hunyanzvi hwako kwahunonyatso kukosha? Edza kufunga nezvedzikamo sechishuvo chokuzadzikiswa mumativi ose ari maviri pasina kuzvidemba kana kuti kuva nemhaka. Izvi zvichakupa pfungwa yekuzadzika, kuzadzika uye kuenzanisa.
Mazano akadaro angavakwa panheyo dzipi?
1. NZIRA YEKUVAKA
Panzvimbo pekuramba zano rinogadzira pfungwa yekushaikwa uye rinotibira kugutsikana, tora zano rekuvaka. Panzvimbo yekufunga nezve chokwadi chekuti uri kushanda zvishoma uchiri pamba uye uchidemba kusawana nguva yakakwana nevana vako ugere panhaurirano muhofisi, unofanirwa kuvaka hupenyu hunogutsa.
Iri zano rine zvakare physiological tsananguro. Maviri akasiyana masisitimu etsinga, anonzwira tsitsi uye parasympathetic, zvichiteerana, ane mhosva yekupindura kwekushushikana uye kuzorora mumuviri wedu. Chakavanzika ndechekuti vese vanofanirwa kushanda nenzira imwechete. Ndiko kuti, huwandu hwekuzorora hunofanira kuenzana nehuwandu hwekunetseka.
Sarudza uye gara uchidzidzira zviitwa zvaunozorora: kuchovha bhasikoro kana kufamba, kuita zvemuviri, kutaurirana nevana nevadikani, kuzvitarisira, zvekuzvivaraidza. Nokufamba kwenguva, iwe uchanzwa kuti "relaxation system" yatanga kukunda pamusoro pekunetseka kwekunetseka.
Kumwe kuronga kwekupera kwesvondo kunogonawo kubatsira, kwaunoronga zuva nenzira “yakadzokera shure”, uchiisa pamberi pezviitwa zvinofadza pane kuzviita sechisara mushure mezvinhu “zvinoda”.
2. KURAMBWA KWEZVINHU
Basa rinogona kuva mukana wakanaka wekutsanangurira vana nevanoda zvikomborero zvaunounza, zvikonzero nei uri kuita basa reunyanzvi, uye, pakupedzisira, basa rako, iro richazadzisa mufananidzo weimba. Usatore pasi nguva inopedzerwa kubasa - asi, tarisa zviitiko zvako semupiro wakakosha uye shandisa mukana uyu kudzidzisa tsika dzako kumwana wako.
Pane pfungwa yokuti mukadzi anofarira basa anoita kuti vana vake vasafara. Migumisiro yeongororo yakaitwa pakati pevanhu zana munyika 100 inoramba pfungwa iyi. Vana vamai vebasa vanongofarawo sevaya vanaamai vakaswera pamba.
Mukuwedzera, kune migumisiro yakanaka: vanasikana vakuru vevanaamai vanoshanda vanowanzoshanda vakazvimiririra, kutora nzvimbo dzehutungamiri uye kugamuchira mihoro yakawanda. Vanakomana vavanaamai vanoshanda vanofarikanya ukama hwakaenzana zvikuru pakati pavanhukadzi uye kugoverwa kwemitoro mumhuri. Ramba uchifunga izvi paunotarisana nemafungiro ekuti amai vanoshanda vari kurasikirwa nechimwe chinhu chinokosha kumwana wavo.
3. Hupenyu hwakatenderedza "RUDO"
Paunenge uchitsvaga kuenzanisa, zvakakosha kuti unzwisise kuti chii chaizvo chinokupa kurudziro kubasa. Nemabasa akafanana, vamwe vanosimbiswa nemukana wekuzvipikisa ivo pachavo uye kuzadzisa zvisingagoneki, vamwe vanosimbiswa nemukana wekudyara nguva mukudzidzisa vashandi, vamwe vanokurudzirwa nemaitiro ekusika, uye vamwe vanofara kutaurirana nevatengi.
Ongorora zvaunoda kuita, zvinokupa simba, zvinokupa pfungwa yekufara nekuyerera, wobva wawedzera. Iwe unogona kuedza kurarama zvishoma mwedzi mune mamwe mapoka: panzvimbo yenguva dzose "basa" uye "mhuri", igovera hupenyu hwako mu "vanoda" uye "vasingadiwi".
Hungava upenzi kutaura kuti tinofanira kuita zvatinoda chete. Zvisinei, kuzvicherekedza timene uye kusimbisa zvatinoda kuita (kubasa kana kuti muupenyu hwemhuri), uye ipapo kuwedzera mugove wezvatinoda mumativi ose ari maviri, kuchatiita kuti tinzwe zviri nani. Uye zvakare, shamwari dzedu, hama, vatinoshanda navo vachakwanisa kubatsirwa kubva kune edu akanakisa kuratidzwa.
Chii chinotevera kubva pane izvi?
Kana iwe ukakwanisa kuvaka hupenyu hwako hwakapoteredza misimboti iyi, kuruka machira echokwadi «kuburikidza» nzvimbo dzakasiyana-siyana uye kuita pakati pezvaunonyatsoda, zvichakuunzira kugutsikana uye mufaro.
Usashandure zvakanyanya zvese kamwechete - zviri nyore kutarisana nekutadza uye kusiya zvese sezvazviri. Tanga zvishoma. Kana ukashanda maawa makumi matanhatu pasvondo, usaedze kuzvipinza muforemu yemaawa makumi mana ipapo ipapo. Kana usati wambodya kudya kwemanheru nemhuri yako, usazvimanikidza kuita kudaro mazuva ose.
Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechekutora danho rekutanga uye kunamatira kumisimboti mitsva pane zvese zvinodhura. Uchenjeri hweChinese huchakubatsira kutanga: "Pane nguva mbiri dzakanaka dzekutanga itsva: imwe yaive makore makumi maviri apfuura, yechipiri ikozvino."