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Rarama zvirinani nekukwana
Zvose zvaunoita zvinofanira kuitwa nemazvo here? Unogadza zvinangwa zvinowanzova zvakakwirira, kana kuti zvisingasviki here? Aya mafungire pasina mubvunzo anoratidza kariro yokuda kuita zvinhu nenzira yakakwana. Zvinogoneka kurarama zvine hutano nehunhu hwehunhu uhu. Zvikatorwa zvakanyanyisa, zvisinei, zvinogona kuva zvisina kunaka uye zvinokuvadza zvakanyanya kugara zvakanaka uye kunyange izvo zvakatenderedza vamwe vanhu.
"Zviratidzo zvakasiyana kubva kune mumwe munhu kune mumwe," anotsanangura kudaro Frédéric Langlois, purofesa muDhipatimendi rePsychology paYunivhesiti yeQuebec kuTrois-Rivières (UQTR).
Hunhu uhu hunogona kuratidzira munzvimbo dzakasiyana, senge kubasa, muhukama nevamwe, kana kunyangwe mumabasa emazuva ese. "Perfectionism inova isina kunaka kana munhu asingakwanisi kugadzirisa maitiro ekuita zvaanoisa paari maererano nenguva yake kana mamwe matanho ehupenyu hwake", inotsanangura muongorori.
Perfectionism inova isina kunaka kana1 :
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Kubva 2005 kusvika 2007, Frédéric Langlois nechikwata chake vakaendesa gwaro remibvunzo kuvarwere vaienda kukiriniki yekushushikana uye kusagadzikana. Maererano nemigumisiro yekudzidza kwavo1, vatori vechikamu vakaratidza zviratidzo zvekudarika-kukwana vakanga vari pangozi yakakura yekuvandudza zvirwere zvepfungwa zvakadai sekuora mwoyo, kuzvidya mwoyo kwakawanda kana kumanikidzika-kumanikidzirwa.
“Munhu anoona nezvemaitiro akakwana anonzwa kusagutsikana kusingaperi uye dzvinyiriro isingaperi yaanoisa paari. Kana nekuwedzera munhu uyu achifanira kutarisana nepamusoro-soro yekushungurudzika, iyo inotora simba rake rose. Zvinova panjodzi zvakanyanya uye mhedzisiro yacho inogona kukuvadza zvakanyanya, ”inosimbisa Frédéric Langlois.
Mhinduro?
Munhu anoda kukwana angabuda sei mudenderedzwa rakashata rokusakwana? Iyo yakakwirira yezvinangwa zvayo, zvishoma zvinosvikika. Mamiriro ezvinhu aya anowedzera kuderera uye munhu anozoripa nekutoda zvakatowanda kwaari. Asi zvinokwanisika kuwanazve kuzviremekedza kwako.
“Vavariro ndeyokuchinja maitiro maduku panguva,” anodaro Frédéric Langlois. Kazhinji kazhinji vanoda kuita zvinhu nenzira yakakwana vanokanganwa chinangwa chezvavari kuita. Pfungwa yacho ndeyekuwana kunakidzwa mune zvaunoita, zorodza yako wega mitemo kuti ive yechokwadi uye uchisiya shure kubudirira. “
Pamusoro pazvose, usazeza kubvunza. Kubatsira kwepfungwa kunogona kubatsira kuchinja maonero uye kuisa zvinangwa zvinogoneka.
Mazano ekurarama zviri nani nekuda kukwana1
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Emmanuelle Bergeron - PasseportSanté.net
Update: Nyamavhuvhu 2014
1. Kubva mupepanhau Papfungwa dzako, bhuku remasangano reYunivhesiti yeQuebec kuTrois-Rivières.