Mukati
Sei tichibvumira hukama husingaiti chete kuti tifare, asi hunoparadza hutano hwedu uye zvirongwa zvehupenyu, kubvisa simba uye kufarira kuti tienderere mberi? Zvichida isu hatisi kunyanya kutsvaga rudo sezvatiri kuedza mumamiriro ezvinhu anorwadza, sechionioni, kuona uye kuzvinzwisisa isu pachedu, kubata nemakakatanwa akavanzika? Nyanzvi dzedu dzinoongorora imwe yenyaya idzi.
Rudo rwechibairo kuzviuraya kwekufananidzira
Chris Armstrong, murairidzi
Anna ave achiziva murume uyu kwemakore matatu nehafu uye ave achidanana naye kwenguva imwe chete. Kunyangwe manzwiro aya dzimwe nguva achimupa nguva dzekunakidzwa, anopedza nguva yakawanda ari mukusakendenga uye kushushikana. Zvaanoti rudo zvakamuremadza hupenyu hwake hwese. Anna akandinyorera achikumbira betsero, achireurura kuti akanga ane tariro shomanene yokuchinja mugariro wacho.
Ndinoreurura kuti ndinotenda mutariro kana isingakanganisi mamiriro chaiwo ezvinhu, zvichitungamirira munyika yekufungidzira kwemashiripiti. Hapana zvachose mashiripiti pamusoro pekuti mudiwa waAnna anozvibvumira kutyaira motokari akadhakwa kana akagara pedyo naye. Uye kuti akanga achitaura zvinhu zvakashata pamusoro pake kushamwari dzake apo akawana kuti akanga achinetseka pamusoro pezvinetso zvake nedoro.
Kune mienzaniso yakawanda yakadaro munhoroondo yaAna. Nekuda kwezvakaitika, akarasikirwa nehuremu hwakawanda, zvirwere zvisingaperi zvakawedzera, uye kuora mwoyo kwakakura. Munhu waanopa simba rakawanda kudaro anogara kune rimwe guta. Uye kwenguva yose iyi, kamwe chete akabhururuka kwaari kuti asangane. Anna anobhururuka kwaari pachake uye nemari yake. Kubasa haana kukwidziridzwa chete, asi ave pedyo nekudzingwa basa nekuti akapotsa arasa kufarira zvese.
Tisina kuzviuraya, tinozviuraya nenzira yekufananidzira.
Anna ane vanakomana vaviri vezera rechikoro, uye zviri pachena kuti mukwanyina ane chinetso chokunwa doro haasi muenzaniso wakanakisisa kwavari. Anonzwisisa kuti hukama hunorwadza uhwu huri kuparadza hupenyu hwake uye huri kukanganisa hupenyu hwevana vake, asi kuvakanganisa hakuna simba rake. Isu tese tinoziva rwiyo rwakakurumbira rweBeatles: "Zvose zvaunoda rudo." Ini ndaizozvidzokorora: zvese zvatinoda rudo rune hutano. Tikasadaro, tinonyura mugomba rechitambudzo chisina mufungo chinotora makore oupenyu hwedu.
Ndinofunga kuti chinhu chinokosha kumamiriro ezvinhu aAnna chiri mumutsara mumwe chete wetsamba yake. Anobvuma kuti aigara achishuvira kuwana rudo rwaigona kufira munhu. Zvinonzwika zverudo, uye isu tese tinoda kusimuka pamusoro pehupenyu hwezuva nezuva, asi rudo rwakakodzera kufira kazhinji runotungamira kune chokwadi chekuti pasina kutora hupenyu hwedu pachedu, tinozviuraya kwekufananidzira. Isu tinorasikirwa nesimba, zvishuwo uye zvirongwa, tinoodza makore edu akanakisa.
Rudo rwakafanira kurega zvimwe zvinhu here? Zvichida chete mhinduro yakatendeseka kumubvunzo uyu inogona kuchinja mamiriro acho ezvinhu.
“Kuzvinzwisisa chete ndiko kunogona kutidzivirira”
Lev Khegai, Jungian muongorori
Sei tichipinda muukama hwerudo hwakanyanya hunoparadza? Panogona kuva nezvikonzero zvakawanda.
Izvi zvinogona kunge zviri hunhu hwekuzvarwa hwekushungurudzika hunotisundidzira kuzviranga, uye mubatanidzwa nemudiwa unotidzikisira unobatsira mune izvi. Zvichida izvi kuedza kuvakazve uduku, apo ukama nababa kana amai vaipomerwa mhosva yechisimba, kusava nehanya, kusachengeteka.
Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, isu tisingazivi tinoedza kuzvidzokorora, mune tariro yakavanzika yekugadzirisa zvinhu zvose. Iyo heroine iri kutsvaga hukama hwayo, maererano naye, haisi tsitsi kufa. Kutsvaga uku kunogona kuvanza kurota kwekufa kwekufananidzira kweunhu hwekare uye kuberekwa patsva mune imwe nzvimbo.
Kunzwisisa kwakanaka kwedu timene nekombamiro dzedu dzokusaziva zvinogona kutidzivirira pakuzviparadza timene.
Rudo rukuru, kufara kwehukama hwepedyo, kuzviratidza kwepanyama kunogona kuiswa zvisingazivi nemunhu munheyo yehuzivi hutsva, nokuda kwekuziva kuti hukama hutsva hunodiwawo.
Tinoda kuva vakasiyana, uye wedge inobviswa nechero. Hatizoparadzana neyekare "Ini" kana tikasawira mudutu redambudziko rekuzivikanwa. Naizvozvo, rudo rutsva, runodanwa kuita chimurenga muhupenyu hwedu, runogona kupenga nekuparadza.
Kunzwisisa kwakanaka chete kwedu nemaitiro edu ekusaziva kunogona kutidzivirira pakuzviparadza.