Nzira yekukunda sei taboo uye kunzwisisa zvatinoda muhukama hwepedyo? Nzira yekutaura sei izvi kune mumwe wako? Chekutanga, zviudze (uye pamwe nevamwe) kuti hapana chimwe chakasikwa kunze kwekutarisisa muviri, kusanganisira erotic.
Kubata
Kufarira muviri, kutanga kwedu pachedu uye kwozotevera kwomumwe munhu, kunomuka matiri kare tisati taziva kuti vakomana vanosiyana sei nevasikana. Nekubata ganda rake uye kudzidza chimiro chemuviri, mwana anovaka chifananidzo chake - anowana nzvimbo dzakanyanya kunetseka uye anodzidza izvo zvinobata zvinonyanya kufadza.
Iyi inzira yakasikwa uye inofanirwa: "Kushayikwa kwekudzidza kwakadaro kunogona kutungamirira kumatambudziko akakomba mune ramangwana," inonyevera nyanzvi yezvepabonde Elena Korzhenek. Semuyenzaniso, kana mwana akapfeka manapukeni kwenguva yakareba uye asina mukana wekujairana nenhengo yake yekuberekesa, ipapo nzvimbo iyi inoonekwa se "chena nzvimbo" pamuviri - zvikamu izvi zvinorasikirwa nekunzwa uye hazvikodzeri. mumufananidzo wepfungwa wemuviri wavo.
Asi iyo nyaya haina tariro - gare gare tinogona kubata. Sezvo takagadzira mepu yemuviri wedu pachedu, tinotanga kufarira miviri yevamwe. Pakazosvika makore matatu, tinoona kuti vanhu vose vakatenderedza vakakamurwa kuva mapoka maviri: avo vanogona kunyora vakamira, uye avo vasingakodzeri. Kana, sezvainodanwawo, pavarume nevakadzi.
Kuongorora mafaro
Gare gare, sezvatinoenderera mberi nekuziva muviri wedu pachedu, tinoona kuti nzvimbo dze erogenous dziripi, uye tinogona kumutsa kunzwisiswa munzvimbo idzo pazvaishaikwa: mapoinzi anosimudzira pamuviri anowedzera kubatwa kwavo. Muviri uripo kwete chete wenyama, asi uripowo mukufungidzira kwedu: ipapo tinogona kushandura maitiro ayo, kusimba kana kukwezva.
"Mukufungidzira, tinozvifungidzira tiri mubasa rinodiwa zvikuru, ringave riri gamba guru, mudzimi wemoto kana mukoti," anodaro nyanzvi yepfungwa Svetlana Nechitailo. Kazhinji, mabasa aya ari kure nezvatinoita muchokwadi: anoshanda pamoto haazopfeki ngowani yekutamba pabonde.
“Bhachi jena rinondikwanira kubasa,” anobvuma kudaro mukoti ane makore 32 okukura Irina, “vanhu vanorwara, kunyanya varume vari kupora, vanowanzondipfimba, asi ichi chinongova chiratidzo chokuti simba ravo rava kudzokera kwavari. Uye mukufungidzira kwangu kunonyadzisa, ndinofungidzira pachangu Cleopatra kana Madame de Montespan, anodiwa namambo weFrance.
Mukufungidzira, tinozviona isu seavo, mumaonero edu, vakavimbiswa kukwezva erotic mumaziso evamwe. Uye, hongu, isu tinosanganisira iyo yekupedzisira mumutambo. "Mafungiro, kusanganisira zvepabonde, mifananidzo yakave uye inoramba ichiporeswa kwatiri, zvichibatsira kutarisana nekukuvara kwakadai sekusava nehanya kana kuonana," anosimbisa Elena Korzhenek. Asi vakadzi nevarume vane nzira dzakasiyana dzekuita zvinyadzi.
Erotica Martian uye Venusian
Kugadzirwa kwemafirimu kunofunga nezvekusiyana kwezvido: vakadzi vanonyanya kukwezvwa kupfimbana, kunyenga uye kudanana, nepo varume vanowanzo svetuka nhaurirano votarisa pachiito chacho. Nekuda kweizvi, erotica yechirume iri padyo nezvinonyadzisira uye inoratidza miviri yakashama yevatambi, ichideredza chirongwa kusvika padiki. Uye mukadzi, pane kudaro, anotsvaka kutanga kutaura kuti munhu wose akaguma sei pamubhedha.
Svetlana Nechitailo anoti: “Pakaedza kuita zvinonyadzisira kune vateereri vechikadzi, nzira mbiri dzakashandiswa,” anodaro Svetlana Nechitailo, “mushanduro yokutanga, vanyori vakanyatsocherechedza mamiriro akaita zvinhu uye hurongwa, uye mune yechipiri vakaedza kutarisa nezvevakadzi. kunakidzwa, asi kwete zvakananga, nekuvhara-pedyo panhengo dzepabonde, uye zvisina kunanga, kuburikidza nemafungiro, manzwi, chiso.
Mhedzisiro yacho haina kurarama maererano nezvaitarisirwa: zvese zviri zviviri sarudzo hazvina kukonzera kufara kukuru pakati pevateereri vechikadzi. Musiyano mukuona kwe eroticism unoverengerwa mukurapwa kwevakaroora. Vese vadyidzani vanorairwa kuti vaise mukufungidzira kwavo chikamu chavanowanzo potsa - rudo rwevarume uye zvepabonde kuvakadzi.
Iri harisi basa riri nyore, kunyanya kuvakadzi, vane hupombwe hwave husingabvumirwe kwemazana emakore, uye vane muviri uchiri kufanira kuramba wakavanzwa mune dzimwe tsika. Kurambwa kweizvi taboos kunobatsira kunzwisisa zviri nani mudiwa uye kutanga kuonana.
Magirazi nemapfumo
Muchisikigo, basa remunyengeri rinowanzopiwa murume: ndiye ane minhenga yakajeka, nziyo dzekupfimbana dzine ruzha uye matavi edendere. Mukadzi anosarudza zvakadzikama zvakanakisisa pane zvakarongwa zvingasarudzwa. Munzanga yavanhu, pachivanhu, murume anoitawo basa rinoshingaira, kunyengedza mukadzi uye kuratidza urume hwake panguva ipi neipi.
Asi iyi haisi iyo chete inogoneka yehukama modhi. Mushure mezvose, isu, kusiyana nemhuka dzakawanda, tinoita zvepabonde kwete chete kubereka, asiwo kungonakidzwa. Uye mufaro haugone kugamuchirwa chete, asiwo unopiwa. Mabasa emugamuchiri uye mupi anosarudzwa nevarume vedu here, kana kuti angasiyana neanogamuchirwa?
"Vadyidzani vakakamurwa chaizvo kuva vanogamuchira uye vanopa, asi kwete maererano nechimiro chemitezo, asi pahwaro hwekukura kwavo pabonde. Kazhinji kazhinji, basa rinotarwa nechiitiko chekutanga chepabonde, "anodaro Elena Korzhenek. Sexologists vanotenda kuti hazvigoneke kushandura zvaunofarira munzvimbo ino, asi iwe unogona kutaurirana uye kuita mune zvisina kujairika mabasa pamwe chete.
kutaura kusina kunaka
Nguva refu isati yasvika pakuita zvepabonde, tinoedza kuratidza munhu watingafambidzana naye kuti tinomufarira uye tinoda kukudziridza kuzivana uye ukama. Pane nzira dzekuziva kana mazano edu akakodzera here?
Elena Korzhenek anoti: “Muukama hwenguva refu, tinowanzonzwisisa kuti rudzii rwekusangana, bonde kana kuti manzwiro aari kutsvaga,” anodaro Elena Korzhenek, “izvi zvinoonekwa nematauriro aanoita muviri wake, maziso ake okuda kutamba, kuita zvinyadzi, kukwezva, kana kuti , ukuwo, kuneta kuri pachena pashure pezuva rokushanda.”
Zvisinei, mumatanho ekutanga, kunyara kunobvira. Zvinangwa zvinotsanangurwa zvisiri izvo zvinowanzokonzera kukakavara, "saka pano iwe unofanirwa kutevera mutemo uri nyore: kana usina chokwadi, bvunza," Svetlana Nechitailo anopa zano. "Mudiwa haafanire kufungidzira nezve zvishuwo zvako." Kunyange kana tine chokwadi chemhinduro yakanaka, zvakakodzera kuva nechokwadi.
Mukuwedzera, kukwanisa kutaura pachena pamusoro pezvishuvo zvako, kubatanidza zvishuvo zvomuviri, kuchava kunobetsera mune ramangwana. Muhukama hwerudo uye hwepedyo, isu takavhurika sezvinobvira. Dzimwe nguva izvi zvinokonzera kunyadziswa, kunyadziswa uye kufara, zvakafanana nezvatinosangana nazvo pachikuva, kunyange zvazvo vateereri vedu vose vangori shamwari, asi maonero ake anokosha zvikuru.
Zvisinei, kuzvininipisa uye kunyara ngazvisatitadzise kukurukura zvishuvo zvomumwe nomumwe. Pashure pezvose, kuramba kurukurirano yakadaro, kuedza kutevera mipimo inogamuchirwa navose, kunoreva kuzvinyima umene mufarwa. Mukuwedzera, "munhu wose ane pfungwa yake pachake yemitemo yetsika, uye kuedza kuwirirana nevasingazivi ibhizimisi risina tariro," nyanzvi yepfungwa inosimbisa.
Muviri ndiye mubatsiri wedu mukuwana mafaro, ayo anogara aripo uye akagadzirira kutaura nesu. Zvinotibatsira kutevera zvido zvedu uye kutsvaga mumwe munhu watingazadzisa naye.