Mukati
Kune vamwe vanaamai, kupa vamwe basa rokutarisira uye dzidzo yemwana wavo kwakafanana nokukusiya. Madzimai aya anoita kunge ari musimba raamai zvekusvika pakusarega baba vachitora chigaro chavo vanotambura nedambudziko iri rekutadza kuregedza. Ukama hwavo naamai vavo chaivo pamwe chete nemhaka inovapo mukuva amai zvinobvira tsananguro.
Zvinetso pakugovera basa ... kana kupatsanura
Ndinoyeuka zhizha randakaronzesa vanakomana vangu kuna vamwene vangu vanogara kuMarseille. Ndakachema kusvika kuAvignon! Kana kuti Marseille-Avignon yakaenzana ne100km… zvakaenzana nezana hengechepfu! "Kurondedzera kuparadzana kwekutanga nevanakomana vake (makore mashanu ne5 nhasi), Anne, 6, akasarudza kuseka. Laure, haasati abudirira. Uye apo amai ava vane makore makumi matatu nemaviri vanotaura sei, makore mashanu apfuura, akaedza kuisa Jérémie wake muduku - mwedzi miviri nehafu panguva iyoyo - mukireshi, tinonzwa kuti nyaya yacho ichiri kuoma. “Haaikwanisa kupedza awa ndisina ini, akanga asati agadzirira,” anodaro. Nekuti chero ndikamusiya kubva paakazvarwa kumurume kana hanzvadzi yangu, haana kumbokotsira ndisipo. »Mwana akapindwa muropa naamai vake kana kuti neimwe nzira? Zvine basa rei kuna Laure, uyo anobva afunga kubvisa mwanakomana wake kubva kukireshi - anomirira kusvika ave ne34 gore kuti amusiye ipapo zvachose.
Kana pasina munhu anoita seanozvida ...
Ndangariro dzinorwadza, dzakawanda kana wasvika panhau yekuparadzana. Julie, makumi mana nemanomwe, mubatsiri wekuchengeta vana mukireshi, anoziva chimwe chinhu nezvazvo. “Vamwe vanaamai vanogadzira zvirongwa zvekudzivirira. Vanotipa mafambiro ekureva kuti “Ndinoziva,” anodaro. "Vanoomerera kune zvakadzama: unofanirwa kuchenesa mwana wako nemapupu akadaro, kumurarisa panguva yakadai," anoenderera mberi. Inovanza kutambura, kuda kuramba wakabatirira. Tinoita kuti vanzwisise kuti hatisi pano kuzotora nzvimbo yavo. Kune vanaamai ava vanogutsikana kuti ndivo chete "vanoziva" - nzira yekudyisa mwana wavo, kuifukidza kana kumuisa pahope - kupa basa muedzo wakakura kudarika kungojekesa kuchengetwa kwevana. Nemhaka yokuti kuda kwavo kudzora chinhu chiri chose chaizvoizvo kunopfuurira mberi: kuzviisa, kunyange kana bedzi kweawa, kumurume wavo kana kuti vamwene vavo kwakaoma. Pakupedzisira, chavasingagamuchiri ndechokuti mumwe munhu anotarisira mwana wavo uye anoita, netsanangudzo, anozviita zvakasiyana.
... kwete kunyange baba
Iyi ndiyo nyaya yaSandra, 37, amai vaLisa mudiki, ane mwedzi miviri. "Kubva pakuzvarwa kwemwanasikana wangu, ndakazvivharira mune gangaidzo chairo: zvese ndinoda rubatsiro, asi panguva imwe chete, ndinonzwa kugona kupfuura chero munhu kana zvasvika pakuchengeta mwanasikana wangu. kana kuti ari mumba, anodaro, akaora mwoyo zvishoma. Lisa paakanga ava nemwedzi, ndakapa baba vake maawa mashoma kuti vaende kunoona mafirimu. Uye ndakauya kumba awa mushure mekunge bhaisikopo ratanga! Hazvibviri kuisa pfungwa pachirongwa. Zvinoita sekuti handisi wemunzvimbo ino yebhaisikopo, kuti ndakanga ndisina kukwana. Kuudza mwanasikana wangu zviri kutsi kwemwoyo ndiko kumusiya. Nekunetsekana, Sandra achiri munyoro. Kwaari, maitiro ake akabatana nenhoroondo yake uye nekuparadzanisa kunetseka kunodzokera paudiki hwake.
Tarisa kuuduku hwake
Mukuwirirana nachiremba wepfungwa uye nyanzvi yokuongorora pfungwa dzemwana Myriam Szejer, apa ndipo patinofanira kutarira: “Chinetso chokugovera mamwe mabasa chinotsamira pakubatana kwake naamai vake amene. Ichi ndicho chikonzero vamwe amai vanongopa mwana wavo kuna amai vavo uye vamwe, pane kudaro, havazombomuvimbisi kwaari. Inodzokera kumhuri neurosis. Kutaura naamai vake kungabatsira here? ” Kwete. Chinodiwa kuita nhamburiko yokubvunza zvikonzero nei tisiri kubudirira. Dzimwe nguva zvese zvinotora hapana. Uye kana kuparadzana kusingagoneki, unofanirwa kuwana rubatsiro, nekuti izvo zvinogona kuva nemhedzisiro yepfungwa pamwana, "anopa zano psychoanalyst.
Uye parutivi rwemhosva isingadzivisiki yaamai
Sylvain, ane makore 40, anoedza kuongorora zvaari kusangana nazvo nemudzimai wake, Sophie, ane makore 36, nevana vavo vatatu. "Anoisa bhawa yakakwirira kwazvo, zvese zvehupenyu hwake hwepachivande uye hwehunyanzvi. Kamwe kamwe, dzimwe nguva anoda kutsiva kusaenda kwake kubasa nokuita mabasa ose epamba pachake. “Sophie, ave achishanda nesimba kwemakore akawanda, anotsinhira zvinorwadza kuti: “Pavakanga vachiri vaduku, ndakatovaisa muimba inochengeterwa vana vane fivha. Ndichiri kunzwa ndine mhosva nhasi! Zvese izvi zvebasa… ”Tingatiza mhosva here? “Nekupa vamwe basa, vanaamai vanotarisana nechokwadi chekusawanikwa kwavo kune chekuita nebasa - vasina kana hunyanzvi hwekuita basa. Izvi zvinotungamira kurudzi rwekuva nemhosva, anodaro Myriam Szejer. Kushanduka kwehunhu kwakadai zvekuti kare, nenhume yemukati memhuri, zvaive nyore. Hatina kuzvibvunza mubvunzo, mhosva yaive shoma. Uye zvakadaro, zvingava zvinopedza awa kana zuva, zvingave zviri zvenguva nenguva kana kuti zvenguva dzose, uku kuparadzana kunobvumira kuenzana kunokosha.
Kuparadzana, kwakakosha pakuzvitonga kwayo
Mucheche nokudaro anowana dzimwe nzira dzokuita nadzo zvinhu, dzimwe nzira. Uye amai vari kudzidzirazve kuzvifunga munzanga. Saka maitiro ekugadzirisa zvakanaka iyi inosungirwa kuyambuka nzvimbo? Kutanga, unofanira kutaura nevana, anoomerera kudaro Myriam Szejer, kunyange kuvacheche “vari masiponji uye vanonzwa kutambura kwaamai vavo. Naizvozvo tinofanira kugara tichikarira kuparadzana, kunyange kuduku, kupfurikidza namashoko, kuvatsanangurira apo tichavasiya uye nokuda kwechikonzeroi. »Ko vana amai? Pane imwe chete mhinduro: kutamba pasi! Uye bvuma kuti mwana wavakazvara ... anovatiza. "Icho chikamu che" castrations "uye munhu wese ari kupora kubva mazviri, anovimbisa Myriam Szejer. Tinoparadzana nemwana wedu kuti timupe kuzvitonga. Uye mukukura kwayo, tinofanira kutarisana nekuparadzana kwakawanda kana kushoma. Basa romubereki rinopfuura naikoku, kutozosvikira zuva apo mwana anosiya dendere remhuri. Asi usanetseka, iwe unogona kunge uchine imwe nguva!