Amai nemwanakomana: hukama hwakasiyana

Chiitiko chakasiyana zvachose kubva pakuva amai

Kuunza mwanakomana munyika chiitiko chikuru kuna amai. Kuvonga kumukomana muduku, achavanda mumuviri wake "imwe pabonde", murume, iyo yaasingazivi. Kuna amai, mwanakomana ndiye mudiki gladiator uyo achamukurira nyika… Achagadzirisa zvaakatadza kuita. Pfupi, ndiko kuberekwazve kwake somurume. Nokusununguka mwanakomana, amai vanopinda mune imwe nyika, munyika yevanhu ... Zvinogara zvichishamisa zvishoma kuva mumaoko ako "mhuka duku" iyo yatisingazivi mirairo yekushandiswa! Nzira yekuidzidzisa sei, kuida, uye kunyange kuishandura? Muwadhi yekuberekesa, kune mibvunzo yakawanda pamusoro pedingindira rechimbuzi, yakakurumbira retracting.

Amai nemwanakomana vanofanira kudzora

Ukama hwaamai nemwanakomana haubvi pakuziva, sekunge nemwanasikana, asi kunoda kupingudza zvishoma nezvishoma. Vanaamai vanofanirwa kunyora, kuvandudza pasina mamaki, uye kubata iri bhora resimba uye testosterone. Mhedzisiro, nekuti isu tinomuziva zvisinganyanyi kukosha, isu tinoedzwa kuti tifunge zvakawanda nezve "mwanakomana" wake. Uye saka, kubva pamazuva ekutanga, "amai hen" vari munzira ! Zvose zvidzidzo zvinoratidza kuti kuyamwisa kwakanyanya "kusimba" nemukomana. Vanaamai vanokurumidza kujairana nerhythm yavo yekumuka-kurara uye kumuka zviri nyore usiku, sekunge vari kutarisisa kune kapuka kanovapunyuka!

Ukama hunokwezva pakati paamai nemwanakomana

Ichokwadi, vanaamai vanoregerera mambo wavo wechirume zvose. Anovafadza, anovanyengedza, anovaroya! Vanotomuti "mudiki wangu". Kubva zvakawanikwa naFreud uye zvakagovaniswa pasi rose "Oedipus complex", tinoziva kuti hukama pakati paamai nemwanakomana hunoratidzwa neimwe "eroticization" sezvinoreva shrinks. Pavanomuona ari pamberi pavo, vanonyengerwa chose nokuti kazhinji vanowana baba vavo vamene kupfurikidza nokupengereka. Iyi mhando ye "inverted Oedipus" ndiyo inonyanya kuoneka sehumwe hunhu (mucherechedzo wekuzvarwa, nzvimbo yemole, ruvara rweganda kana maziso, nezvimwewo) kazhinji kusvetuka chizvarwa. The kuvandudzwa kweOedipus hongu zvichave nemhedzisiro pahukama hwaamai nemukomana: mwanakomana anodyisawo a rudo rusingaverengeki nokuda kwamai vake, avo vacharamba varipo, muupenyu hwavo hwose, ndiye mwarikadzi wake wokutanga worudo. Hapana chinonetsa pazviri: kumukomana mudiki, kuroora amai vake kunoramba kuri kurota, fungidziro yezvakanakira. Amai vanozviziva zvakanaka, ivo vanotambura, kwete pasina kudada, micro-godo mumabhuruku mapfupi!

Verenga chinyorwa "Oedipus: chii chaizvo?"«

Amai havambodi mwanakomana wavo zvakanyanya

Hukama hwakasimba uhu, dzimwe nguva hwakawandisa, hunofadza asi hunovhundutsa vanamai. Vachipesvedzerwa nemafungiro eOedipus, vanozvirambidza kuti vade mukomana wavo muduku nokuti vanotya, nokumushungurudza zvakanyanya, kumuona "achitendeuka" wimpy, uye sei kwete "ngochani"! Clichés vane hupenyu hurefu uye zvinonyadzisa. Vanaamai havafanire kuganhurira rudo rwavo kumukomana wavo, kuti azvidzivirire pakuva munyoro, munyoro, ane rudo, chero zvazvingava, makore okutanga. Ngatirege kuwedzeredza! Hazvirambidzwe kutora mwana anorwara pamubhedha wake, kamwe panguva… Kuita mazuva ese zviri pachena kuti kunyanyisa. Chinhu chakakosha kuisa miganhu uye kuratidza chiremera. Amai "vakanaka zvakakwana", vachisimbisa pasina kudzipwa, vachakwanisa kupa mwanakomana wavo mufaro. kuchengetedzwa kwakasimba basic.

Kubva pamakore maviri, mwanakomana anoda zvakawanda kuzvimiririra

Mukomana achada kuedza kuzvimirira kwake kare zvikuru kupfuura musikana. Kubva pazera re2, anoedza kutiza, pamberi paamai vake, achivatarisa nekona yeziso, kuti aone kuti vachiripo here. Tingave nedambudziko rekuvimba naye, tinofanira kunzwisisa kuda kwake kukura nokukurumidza... Uye regai zvishoma. Kana vakomana vaine chido chakawanda chekuedza, kukwira, kuongorora nharaunda itsva, zvakanyanya kushandisa simba ravo sekudaro. edzai chinhambwe.

Amai vanofanirawo kunzwa kuzvininipisa kwemukomana wavo, anenge makore 5/6. Panguva ino yakapfava apo mafungiro akarara, iwe unofanirwa kungwarira kuti usamumbundire zvakanyanya, kumutsvoda. Vamwe vanaamai vane nguva yakaoma kuona aimbova mucheche wavo achiramba zvekumbundirwa nehasha. Ivo vanofunga: haachandidi. Ndakamuitei nhai? Anondivengerei ?. Kunyange zvazvo zvakapesana! Imhaka yekuti anomuda zvakanyanya zvekuti mukomana mudiki anoedza kuzvibvisa paari, kutiza kubva mumaoko ake.

 Kusiira baba nzvimbo kunokosha

Nokukurumidza, vanakomana vagadzirira kutsiva baba vavo, kuti vave “chikomba” chaamai vavo. Ichi chinetso chakapararira zvikuru mumhuri dzine mubereki mumwe, asi hapana boka renyeredzi remhuri rinodzivirirwa. Kusiira nzvimbo yababa, kana kuti yababa, kunokosha. Essential even. Kubva pane imwe zera, 4 kana 5 yemakore, kana mukomana muduku akaramba mai vake kuti vafarire baba vake ("kwete, ndibaba vanondipfekedza! Ndinoda kuenda nababa, kwete iwe") zvakakosha kuzvigamuchira. Vana vese vane imwe mhando ye "passport" kumurume kana mukadzi iyo inodhindwa danho nedanho nemubereki wemurume mumwe chete. Hatigoni kuzvitiza, hurume hunopfuudzwa kubva kuna baba huchienda kumwanakomana. Nokudzidzisa mwanakomana wavo kuti ave murume, baba vachaenzanisa rudo rwaamai rwakabatanidzwa.

Amai / mwanakomana: tsvaga chinhambwe chakakodzera

Chipo chakanakisisa icho amai vanogona kupa kumwanakomana wavo ndechokuti vakwanise kumuda nguva nenguva vari pedyo, nguva nenguva “vari kure”, kuva nehanya nezvishuwo zvemwanakomana wavo, kuda kuti ashanyire. pasi rose. Iye achamuda zvose zviri nani mukudzoka uye achava a murume anofara. Saka, chero dzidzo yavanopa, pesvedzero yavanaamai pavanakomana vavo yakakura kwazvo kwemakore anotevera. Iyo icing pakike ndeyekuti ivo vanozosarudza chikamu chesarudzo ye ... mudzimai wamangwana ! Kutonga, kuda, kungoita? Kazhinji, mwanakomana anoisa pfungwa dzake pamukadzi anoita saamai vake ... Kana kuti ndiani anopesana, izvo zvinofanana nechinhu chimwe chete. Kana iwe uchida mukomana wako zvinyoro, pasina kuwandisa, unomuita murume akazadzikiswa muhupenyu hwake hwekunzwa. Akazova munyengeri akavimbika uye aifarirwa zvikuru nevakadzi. Sokunge, pakupedzisira, vakanga vachitarira kwaari nokuda kwaikoku amai vakanaka uyo akamurera zvakanaka uye achimuda ...