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Zvese zvinogara zvakanaka navo, ivo vazere nesimba uye mazano, vanoseka, vanoseka. Pasina ivo, zvinofinha mukambani, vakagadzirira kubatsira mumatambudziko. Vanodiwa uye vanoongwa. Vanoratidzika kuva vanhu vanofara zvikurusa munyika. Asi ichi chitarisiko chete. Kusuruvara, kurwadziwa, kutya uye kuzvidya mwoyo zvakavanzwa kuseri kwemaski yekufara. Chii chakashata navo? Uye ungavabatsira sei?
Zvakaoma kutenda, asi vanhu vazhinji vanongoratidzika kufara, asi chokwadi, zuva nezuva vanorwa nepfungwa dzakaora mwoyo. Kazhinji vanhu vanotambura nekuora mwoyo vanoita setiri vakasuruvara, vaneta, vasina hanya nezvose. Asi kutaura zvazviri, maererano nekutsvakurudza kwakaitwa neUnited States National Institute of Mental Health, vanopfuura 10% vevagari vemo vanotambura nekuora mwoyo, iyo inopeta ka10 nhamba yevaya vane bipolar disorder kana schizophrenia.
Uye panguva imwe chete, munhu wose anonzwa kuora mwoyo nenzira yake. Vamwe havatombozivi kuti vane chirwere ichi, kunyanya kana vachifunga kuti vanogona kutonga hupenyu hwavo hwezuva nezuva. Zvinoita sezvisingabviri kuti mumwe munhu anogona kunyemwerera, kuseka, kushanda uye kuramba akaora mwoyo. Asi, zvinosuruvarisa, izvi zvinoitika kazhinji.
Chii chinonzi "kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo
"Mukuita kwangu, vazhinji veavo vakaonekwa kuti" kushushikana "kwaive kuvhunduka vakatambura nekushungurudzika" kwekunyemwerera. Vamwe havasati vambonzwa nezvazvo, "anodaro nyanzvi yezvepfungwa Rita Labon. Munhu ane chirwere ichi anoita seanofara kune vamwe, anogara achiseka uye achinyemwerera, asi chaizvoizvo anonzwa kusuruvara kukuru.
"Kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo kunowanzoenda kusingaonekwi. Vanoedza kuifuratira, kutyaira zviratidzo zvakadzika sezvinobvira. Varwere vangave vasingazive nezvechirwere chavo, kana kuti havafarire kuchiona vachitya kunzi havana simba.
Kunyemwerera uye kupenya "facade" ingori nzira dzekudzivirira dzekuvanza manzwiro chaiwo. Munhu anoshuva kurambana nowaakaroorana naye, kuomerwa nebasa, kana kuti kusava nezvinangwa muupenyu. Uye dzimwe nguva anongonzwa kuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka - asi haazive kuti chii chaizvo.
Uyewo, rudzi urwu rwekuora mwoyo runofambidzana nekuzvidya mwoyo, kutya, kutsamwa, kuneta kusingaperi, pfungwa yekusava netariro uye kuora mwoyo mukati mako uye muupenyu. Panogona kunge paine matambudziko nehope, kushaikwa kwekunakidzwa kubva pane zvawaifarira, kuderera kwechido chepabonde.
Munhu wese ane zviratidzo zvake, uye kuora mwoyo kunogona kuzviratidza sechinhu chimwe kana zvose kamwechete.
“Vanhu vanotambura nekuora mwoyo kwe“kunyemwerera” vanoita sevanopfeka masiki. Vanogona kusaratidza vamwe kuti vanonzwa zvakaipa, - anodaro Rita Labon. - Vanoshanda nguva yakazara, vanoita basa remumba, mitambo, vanorarama hupenyu hwekushamwaridzana. Kuhwanda kuseri kwemask, vanoratidza kuti zvese zvakanaka, kunyangwe zvakanakisa. Panguva imwecheteyo, vanonzwa kusuruvara, vanoona kutya kwekutya, havana chivimbo mukati mavo, uye dzimwe nguva vanofunga nezvekuzviuraya.
Kuzviuraya ingozi chaiyo kuvanhu vakadaro. Kazhinji, vanhu vanotambura nekuora mwoyo kwekirasi vanogonawo kufunga nezvekuzviuraya, asi havana simba rakakwana rekuita kuti pfungwa dzive dzechokwadi. Avo vanotambura ne "kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo vane simba rakakwana kuronga uye kuzviuraya. Naizvozvo, rudzi urwu rwekuora mwoyo runogona kuve nengozi zvakanyanya kupfuura vhezheni yayo yekare.
Kuora mwoyo “kunyemwerera” kunogona uye kunofanira kurapwa
Zvisinei, kune mashoko akanaka kune avo vanorwara nechirwere ichi - rubatsiro ruri nyore kuwana. Psychotherapy inobudirira kurarama nekuora mwoyo. Kana iwe uchifungidzira kuti mudiwa wako kana shamwari yako yepedyo iri kutambura ne "smiling" depression, anogona kuzviramba kana kuita zvisina kunaka paunotanga kuunza chirwere chake.
Izvi zvakanaka. Kazhinji vanhu havabvumi kurwara kwavo, uye izwi rekuti "depression" rinonzwika kuvatyisidzira. Yeuka kuti, mukuona kwavo, kukumbira rubatsiro chiratidzo chokushaya simba. Vanodavira kuti vanhu vanorwara zvechokwadi chete ndivo vanoda kurapwa.
Pamusoro pekurapa, zvinobatsira zvakanyanya kugovera dambudziko rako nevadikani.
Zvakanakisisa kusarudza nhengo yemhuri yepedyo, shamwari kana munhu waunogona kuvimba zvachose. Kukurukurirana nguva dzose kwechinetso kunogona kuderedza zviratidzo zvekuratidzwa kwechirwere. Zvakakosha kubvisa pfungwa yekuti uri mutoro. Dzimwe nguva tinokanganwa kuti vadiwa vedu neshamwari vachafara kutitsigira sezvataizovatsigira. Mukana wekugovana manzwiro unopa simba rekubvisa pfungwa dzinoodza mwoyo.
Iyo yakareba iwe uchiramba uchiramba kuongororwa uye kudzivirira dambudziko, zvakanyanya kuoma kurapa chirwere. Kana pfungwa dzakaora mwoyo uye manzwiro zvisingatauri, kwete kurapwa, zvinongowedzera kuipa, ndicho chikonzero zvakakosha kutsvaga rubatsiro munguva.
4 Matanho Ekudzora Kunyemwerera Kushungurudzika
Laura Coward, nyanzvi yepfungwa uye nhengo yeNational Alliance on Mental Illness, anoti mukuora mwoyo “kunyemwerera,” munhu anoita seari kufara chaizvo noupenyu, asi anonyemwerera nemarwadzo.
Kazhinji, varwere vane chirwere ichi vanobvunza chiremba wepfungwa, "Ndine zvose zvaungada. Saka nei ndisiri kufara?" Ongororo yakaitwa munguva pfupi yapfuura yevakadzi 2000 yakaratidza kuti chikamu che89% chavo vanotambura nedepression asi vachivanza kushamwari, mhuri nevanoshanda navo. Chii chakakosha, vakadzi vese ava vanorarama hupenyu hwakazara.
Chii chaungaita kana uine zviratidzo zve "kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo?
1. Bvuma kuti uri kurwara
Basa rakaoma kune avo vanotambura ne "kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo. “Vanowanzozvidza mirangariro yavo vamene, vachivapinza mukati. Vanotya kuti vachanzi havana simba kana vaziva nezvechirwere ichi,” anodaro Rita Labon. Asi mirangariro inopfuurira yokusuruvara, kusurukirwa, kusava netariro, uye kunyange funganyo zviratidzo zvefunganyo, kwete utera. Manzwiro ako akajairika, iwo chiratidzo chekuti chimwe chinhu hachina kunaka, kuti rubatsiro nekukurukurirana zvinodiwa.
2. Taura nevanhu vaunovimba navo
Dambudziko guru kune avo vanotambura nerudzi urwu rwekuora mwoyo nderekuti vanoedza kuvanza zviratidzo kubva kune vamwe. Uri kurwadziwa, asi unotya kuti shamwari nemhuri havazonzwisisi manzwiro ako, vachagumbuka uye vachavhiringidzika nokuti havazozivi zvokuita. Kana kuti une chokwadi chokuti hapana anogona kukubatsira.
Hungu, vamwe havazokwanisi “kubvisa” kunzwa kwako kwakashata, asi kunokosha kuaisa mumashoko, kutaura nomumwe munhu waunovimba naye, waunonzwa wakasununguka naye. Iri idanho rakakura rekupora. Ndicho chikonzero, kutaura nezvematambudziko ne psychotherapist, tinonzwa zviri nani.
“Kutanga unofanira kusarudza munhu mumwe chete: shamwari, hama, chiremba wepfungwa – womuudza nezvemanzwiro ako,” anopa zano Rita Labon. Tsanangura kuti kazhinji zvinhu zvese zvakanaka muhupenyu hwako, asi haunzwe kufara sezvaunotarisa. Muyeuchidze uye iwe pachako kuti hausi kukumbira kuti matambudziko aende nekukasira. Uri kungotarisa kuti kukurukura nezvemamiriro ako kunokubatsira here."
Kana iwe usina kujaira kukurukura manzwiro ako, unogona kunzwa kunetseka, kusagadzikana, kusagadzikana.
Asi zvipe iwe nemudiwa wako nguva, uye iwe uchashamisika kuti inoshanda sei uye inogara kwenguva refu mugumisiro wehurukuro iri nyore inogona kuva.
3. Chengetedza kuzviremekedza kwako
Dzimwe nguva kusava nechokwadi kudiki kwakajairika, asi kwete kana zvinhu zvese zvatonyanya kuipa. Panguva dzakadaro, tino“pedza” kuzviremekedza kwedu pachedu. Zvichakadaro, kuzviremekedza kwakafanana nehutachiona hwepfungwa, hunobatsira kutarisana nezvinetso, asi inodawo kusimbiswa uye kuchengetedzwa.
Imwe nzira yekuita izvi ndeyekunyora iwe pachako tsamba, uye mairi, uzvinzwire tsitsi, tsigira uye kufara nenzira imwechete yaungatsigira shamwari. Nokudaro, iwe uchashandisa mukuzvitsigira, kuzvinzwira tsitsi, izvo zvinoshaya kune avo vanotambura ne "kunyemwerera" kuora mwoyo.
4. Kana shamwari yako ichitambura, rega itaure, iteerere.
Dzimwe nguva kurwadziwa kwemumwe munhu kwakaoma kutakura kupfuura kwako, asi unogona kubatsira kana ukateerera kune mumwe. Rangarira - hazvibviri kubvisa manzwiro asina kunaka uye manzwiro. Usayedze kunyaradza uye kugadzirisa zvese, ingojekesa kuti unoda mudiwa wako, kunyangwe asina kukwana sezvaanoda kuva. Ingomusiya ataure.
Kunyatsoteerera kunoreva kuratidza kuti unonyatsonzwa uye kunzwisisa zviri kutaurwa.
Taura kuti unonzwira tsitsi, bvunza kuti chii chingaitwa. Kana pashure pokunge wataura newe zvichiita sokuti pane chimwe chinhu chaunofanira kuita, tanga wakurukura nemudiwa ari kutambura nokuora mwoyo. Ratidza tsitsi, tsanangura zvakadzama zvauri kuronga kuita uye kuti sei, uye nyatsoteerera mhinduro.
Kana zvasvika kune rubatsiro rwehunyanzvi, govana chiitiko chakanaka mukurapa, kana iwe uine imwe, kana kungofara. Kazhinji shamwari dzinouya nemurwere kana varwere vanouya pakurudziro yeshamwari, vozosangana nekufamba kana mukombe wekofi nekukurumidza mushure mekurapwa.
Iwe unogona kunge usingadiwi kumirira mushure mechikamu kana kukurukura mhedzisiro yehurukuro nenyanzvi yepfungwa. Kuti utange, ingotsigira shamwari - izvo zvichave zvakakwana.