Munguva ichangopfuura, vana vakaoma vakapiwa "fashion" diagnosis - oppositional defiant disorder. Psychotherapist Erina White anopikisa kuti ichi hachisi chimwe chinhu kunze kwe "nyaya inotyisa" yemazuva ano, iyo iri nyore kutsanangura chero maitiro ane dambudziko. Kuongororwa uku kunotyisa vabereki vakawanda uye kunoita kuti vasiye.
Sezvakataurwa naErina White, murapi wepfungwa, mumakore achangopfuura, vabereki vakawanda vari kunetseka kuti mwana wavo ane chirwere chinopikisa chinopikisa (ODD). IAmerican Psychiatric Association inotsanangura ODD sehasha, kushatirwa, kusindimara, kutsiva, uye kuzvidza.
Kazhinji, vabereki vanobvuma kuti mudzidzisi kana chiremba wemhuri akataura kuti mwana wavo anogona kunge aine ODD, uye pavakaverenga tsananguro paInternet, vakaona kuti zvimwe zvezviratidzo zvinoenderana. Vakavhiringidzika uye vanonetseka, uye izvi zvinonzwisisika.
Chiratidzo cheOIA, chakanamirwa ne“vanoshuvira zvakanaka”, chinoita kuti vanaamai nanababa vafunge kuti mwana wavo ari kurwara zvine ngozi, uye ivo pachavo vabereki vasina basa. Mukuwedzera, kuongororwa kwakadaro kwekutanga kunoita kuti zvive zvakaoma kunzwisisa kuti hutsinye hwakabva kupi uye kuti ungabvisa sei matambudziko ehutano. Zvakaipa kumunhu wese: vese vabereki nevana. Zvichakadaro, OVR haisi chimwe chinhu kunze kweyakajairika "nyaya inotyisa" inogona kukundwa.
Chokutanga pane zvose, zvakakosha kubvisa "kunyadziswa" kwekunyadzisa. Mumwe munhu akati mwana wako ane ODD? Zvakanaka. Regai vataure chero chinhu uye kunyange kunzi nyanzvi, izvi hazvirevi kuti mwana akaipa. "Mumakore makumi maviri ekudzidzira, handina kumbobvira ndasangana nevana vakaipa," anodaro White. “Kutaura zvazviri, vakawanda vavo vanoita zvehasha kana kuti kuzvidza nguva nenguva. Uye zvinhu zvose zvakanaka nemi, muri vabereki vakakwana. Zvose zvichava zvakanaka - zvose kwauri uye kumwana.
Danho rechipiri ndere kunzwisisa kuti chii chaizvo chiri kukunetsa. Chii chinoitika - kuchikoro kana kumba? Zvichida mwana wacho anoramba kuteerera vanhu vakuru kana kuti anovenga vaanodzidza navo. Ehe, hunhu uhu hunoshungurudza, uye haudi kuhufarira, asi hunogadziriswa.
Yechitatu uye pamwe yakakosha nhanho ndeyekupindura iyo "nei?" mubvunzo. Sei mwana achiita zvakadai? Zvikonzero zvakakosha zvinowanikwa munenge vana vese.
Mwana paanozoyaruka, vanhu vaiva nemukana wose wokumubatsira vanotanga kumutya.
Vabereki vanofunga nezvemamiriro ezvinhu uye zviitiko zvingave zvakakonzera maitiro ekunyevera vanogona kuwana chimwe chinhu chakakosha. Somuenzaniso, kunzwisisa kuti mwana anova asingatsungiririki zvikuru kana zuva rechikoro risina kurongwa zvakajeka. Pamwe mumwe munhu anodheerera aimunetsa kupfuura mazuva ose. Kana kuti anonzwa kusafara nokuti vamwe vana vanoverenga zviri nani kumupfuura. Kuchikoro, akashingaira kuchengeta chiso chakarurama, asi paakangodzokera kumba uye akazviwana ari pakati pehama dzake, munzvimbo yakachengeteka, manzwiro ose akaoma akaputika kunze. Muchidimbu, mwana ari kunetseka zvakanyanya, asi haasati aziva kuti angazviita sei.
Pane zvikonzero zvakakonzerwa kwete zvakanyanya nezviitiko zvemwana asi nezviri kuitika kwakapoteredza. Pamwe amai nababa vari kurambana. Kana sekuru vako wawaida vakarwara. Kana kuti baba vemauto uye iye achangobva kutumirwa kune imwe nyika. Aya matambudziko makuru chaiwo.
Kana matambudziko acho ari kune mumwe wevabereki, vanganzwa vaine mhosva kana kuzvidzivirira. “Ndinogara ndichiyeuchidza vanhu kuti chero nguva tiri kuita zvatinogona. Kunyange kana dambudziko risingakwanisi kugadziriswa pakarepo, kuzviziva zvatoreva kubvisa zita rakanamirwa, rega kutsvaga zviratidzo zvechirwere uye tanga kugadzirisa maitiro evana, "psychotherapist inosimbisa.
Danho rechina uye rekupedzisira nderekudzokera kuzviratidzo zvinorapika. Unogona kubatsira mwana wako kukurira hasha nokumudzidzisa kunzwisisa manzwiro ake. Zvadaro pfuurira kushanda pakuzvidzora uye zvishoma nezvishoma kukudziridza ruzivo rwepfungwa uye rwemuviri. Kuti uite izvi, kune mitambo yemavhidhiyo inokosha, inotamba iyo vana vanodzidza kukurumidza uye kuderedza kurova kwemwoyo yavo. Nenzira iyi, vanonzwisisa zvinoitika kumuviri kana manzwiro echisimba atora, uye dzidza kudzikamisa otomatiki. Chero sarudzo yaunosarudza, kiyi yekubudirira ndeyekusika, hushamwari uye kunzwira tsitsi kumwana uye kutsungirira kwako.
Dambudziko rekuita riri nyore kutaura nezveOVR. Zvinoshungurudza kuti kuongororwa uku kunogona kukanganisa hupenyu hwemwana. OVR yekutanga. Zvadaro hunhu hwekusagarisana nevamwe. Mwana paanozoyaruka, vanhu vaiva nemukana wese wekumubatsira vanobva vatanga kumutya. Nekuda kweizvozvo, vana ava vanopihwa nzira yakaomesesa yekurapwa: munzvimbo yekururamisa.
Zvakanyanya, unoti? Maiwe, izvi zvinoitika kakawanda. Vose vashandi, vadzidzisi uye vanachiremba vanofanira kuwedzera maonero avo uye, kunze kwemaitiro akaipa emwana, ona nzvimbo yaanogara. Maitiro akazara achaunza zvikomborero zvakawanda: vana, vabereki uye nzanga yose.
Nezve Munyori: Erina White ikiriniki yepfungwa paBoston Children's Hospital, internist, uye Master of Public Health.