Mukati
"Ndichamuda zvakadaro here?" », Mubvunzo watinozvibvunza isu rimwe zuva patinenge takamirira mwana wedu wechipiri. Zvine musoro, isu tatoziva yekutanga, tinoida zvakanyanya, tingakwanisa sei kupa rudo rwakawanda kumunhu mudiki uyu watisati taziva? Ko kana zviri normal? Gadzirisa nenyanzvi yedu.
Vabereki: Tinogona here kuda vana vedu zvakanyanya asi… zvakasiyana?
Florence Millot: Wadii kungogamuchira pfungwa yokuti haumbodi vana vako zvakanyanya, kana kuti nenzira imwe cheteyo? Mushure mezvose, ava havasi vanhu vakafanana, vanotitumira chimwe chinhu chakasiyana maererano nehunhu hwavo, tarisiro dzedu, uyewo nemamiriro ezvinhu ekuzvarwa kwavo. Kuzviwana iwe usingashandi kana muhukama huri kunetseka pakuberekwa kwechipiri, somuenzaniso, zvinogona kuita kuti kusungirirwa kuwedzere kuoma. Sezvineiwo, kana mudiki anotaridzika sesu zvakanyanya, anogona subconsciously kutisimbisa, kusimudzira chisungo.
Kugadzira zvisungo zvakasimba zvinogonawo kutora mazuva, mavhiki, mwedzi, kunyange makore mashomanana kune vamwe vanaamai. Uye chokwadi chekuti nzanga yedu inotsvenesa mufananidzo waamai vakakwana vanochengeta mwana wavo kubva pakuzvarwa haiite kuti zvive nyore kwatiri ...
Zvakakomba here kusarudza mumwe wevana vako?
FM : Kunyange zvazvo vasiri vabereki vose vanozviziva kana kuti vanoramba kuzvibvuma, tinoda mumwe nomumwe wevana vedu nokuda kwezvikonzero zvakasiyana uye pamwero yakasiyana-siyana, tingave tichida kana kuti kwete. Kusiyana neshamwari dzedu, isu hatisarudze vana vedu, tinojairana navo, saka, apo mumwe anopindura zviri nani kuzvitarisiro zvedu, nenzira yomuzvarirwo tichachengeta kuwirirana kukuru naye. Chinhu chinokosha ndechokuti mwana mumwe nomumwe anowana nhoroondo yake yepfungwa pakati pababa vake, amai vake uye dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri, kuedza kuvada zvakafanana hazvibviri sezvazvisingabatsiri sezvo, zvichienderana nezera ravo kana unhu hwavo, vana havaiti. vane zvinodikanwa zvakafanana zvorudo nengwariro uye usazvitaura nenzira imwe cheteyo.
Tinofanira kutaura nezvazvo rini?
FM : Apo hunhu hwedu hunoita kuti pave negodo rehama - kunyange kana, zvechokwadi, kune vamwe mumhuri dzose, chero nhengo yevanun'una inoda kunzwa yakasiyana - uye mwana anotiudza kuti anonzwa sei kudiwa zvishoma kana kunetseka kuwana nzvimbo yako, unofanira kutaura nezvazvo. Kunyangwe zvichireva kubvunza nyanzvi kuti itiperekedze, kutibatsira kutsvaga mazwi akakodzera, nekuti ichiri nyaya isingafadzi. Ndevapi amai vangada kubvuma kumwana wavo kuti zvechokwadi vane zvikorekedzo zvakawanda nemukoma kana hanzvadzi? Rubatsiro rwekunze urwu rwunozokwanisawo kutisimbisa pachinhu chakakosha: hazvina kunaka kusavada zvakafanana, uye izvozvo hazviiti kuti tive vabereki vakaipa!
Kukurukurirana naavo vakatipoteredza, shamwari dzedu, kuchatibetserawo kurerutsa mamiriro acho ezvinhu ndokuzvisimbisa timene: vamwewo vanogona kuva vakakwana kuvana vavo kana kuti kuyambutswa nemirangariro isina kujeka, uye izvozvo hazvivatadzisi kuda vana vavo. .
Ndingaita sei kuti ndisarwadzisa mwana wangu?
FM : Dzimwe nguva hatizivi kuti mafungiro edu anoita kuti mwana afunge kuti anodiwa zvishoma pane munun’una kana kuti hanzvadzi yake. Kana akauya kuzonyunyuta, tinotanga nokumubvunza mumamiriro ezvinhu api aakanzwa asiyiwa, kuti agadzirise mamiriro acho ezvinhu uye timusimbise zvachose. Bva, kunze kwokutsvoda nokumbundikira, wadii kufunga nezvemibato umo tichakwanisa kusangana nokugoverana nguva dzinokosha?
Hazvisi zvekuzvibata zvakafanana nevana vako. Pane zvakasiyana, kutenga zvipo zvakafanana kana kumbundirana panguva imwe chete kune ngozi yekugadzira makwikwi pakati pehama, avo vanoedza kumira kunze mumeso edu. Uyewo, mukuru wedu ane makore 11 okukura haafaniri hake kuva ane zvinodikanwa zvemirangariro zvakafanana nehanzvadzi yake ine makore maviri okukura. Chinhu chikuru ndechokuti munhu wose anonzwa achidiwa, achikosheswa pane zvayakasarudzika: mutambo, zvidzidzo, hunhu hwevanhu, nezvimwe.
Chipupuriro chaAnne-Sophie: “Mukuru akanga akasarudzika kwemakore manomwe! “
Louise, mukuru wangu, musikana wechidiki anonzwira tsitsi, anonyara, akangwara ... Aive nechishuwo, angangoita makore 5-6, kuva nemunin'ina kana munin'ina ... Pauline, mwana anozotora nzvimbo yake. pasina kubvunza kana zvichinetsa, zvisina kusefa, zvinongoerekana zvaitika uye zvakatsunga kwazvo.
Zvakwana kutaura kuti vaviri ava havasi kunyatsopindirana ... Negodo, Louise agara "akaramba" zvakanyanya kana zvishoma hanzvadzi yake. Tinowanzoita jee nekumuudza kuti ane rombo rakanaka rekushaya vakoma nevanin'ina vatanhatu… Tinoedzawo kumutsanangurira kuti aive akasarudzika kwemakore manomwe. Dai aiva nemunin’ina, zvingave zvakasiyana. Angadai asati atofanira kupa zvinhu zvakawanda kumwana mudiki: matoyi, zvipfeko, mabhuku ... "
Anne Sophie, ane makore 38, amai vaLouise, vane makore 12, naPauline, ane makore 5 nehafu
Izvi zvinogona kuchinja nekufamba kwenguva here?
FM : Hapana chinombogadziriswa, hukama hunoshanduka kubva pakuzvarwa kusvika pakukura. Amai vangada mumwe wevana vavo paanenge ari muduku kana kuti ari pedyo zvikuru naye, uye anorasikirwa nechinzvimbo chake chokuva mudiwa sezvaanokura. Nokufamba kwenguva, paunosvika pakuziva mwana wako, wawaisanyanya kushamwaridzana naye, ungasvika pakuyemura hunhu hwake hwawaizoda kuva nahwo - semuenzaniso, kana iwe uchingonzwa uye mwanakomana wako aine hunhu hwekushamwaridzana. uye tiise meso edu paari, nekuti mubatsiri wedu. Muchidimbu, pane dzinenge dzagara dzichifarira uye kazhinji zvinoshanduka. Imwe nguva ndiyo imwe, yozotevera imwe. Uye kamwe zvakare.
Hurukuro naDorothée Louessard
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