Mumhuri yevanhu vane muchetura, ndinokumbira vasingaiti-hasha! Zvakaoma kutsanangura nekuti izere nekupokana, vanhu vanongoita zvehasha vane chepfu kune vamwe. Vanhu vanongoita zvehasha vanoita sei? Chii chinonzi kungoita zvehasha kuvanza? Chii chekuita nemaitiro ekungoita-aggressive? Mhinduro.

Izwi rokuti "passive-aggressive" rakagadzirwa munguva yeHondo Yenyika II naAmerican psychiatrist, Colonel Menninger. Akanga aona kuti mamwe masoja airamba kuteerera asi aisaratidza nemashoko kana kutsamwa. Pane kudaro, vairatidza hunhu hwekuita kuti meseji yavo iwanikwe: kuverengera, kudzorwa, kusashanda… Masoja aya akange asina kuratidza kuda kwavo kutaura “kwete” zvakajeka. Izvi zvinodaidzwa kuti masked rebellion. 

Kutanga kunyorwa sehutano hwehutano muDSM (Diagnostic uye Statistical Manual yeMental Disorders), passive-aggressive disorders yakabviswa kubva muBhuku muna 1994. Asi chokwadi chinoramba chiripo kuti hunhu uhwu hunogona kuva mavambo ematambudziko makuru ehukama kubasa, mu murudo, mumhuri kana muhushamwari, sechimwewo chirwere chehunhu. Chokwadi, takatarisana neanongoita zvehasha anoti "hongu" asi ari pachokwadi anofunga "kwete", isu hatizive zvekuita. Kugara vachiramba kuzviisa pasi pezviremera asi vasingazvitauri zvakajeka, vanhu vane hasha vasingaiti zvinomutsa hasha nekusanzwisisa muvatauri vavo. Pamusoro peizvi zvakavanzwa kuramba kuteerera:

• Kuramba. Vanhu vane hasha havazivi maitiro avo.
• Nhema. 
• Kuramba kuchinja.
• Kushungurudzwa. 
• Manzwiro ekutambudzwa.
• Kutsoropodza vamwe.
• Social passivity. 

Hatina kuzvarwa tichingoita zvehasha, tinozviita. Tinofanira kusiyanisa pakati pemaitiro ekungoita-aggressive, ayo isu tose tinogona kutendeukira kune mamwe mamiriro ezvinhu, kubva kune asingaiti zvehasha hunhu, izvo zvinogara zvachose nekuti zvinodzvinyirira zvakadzama matambudziko epfungwa. Saka, zvinhu zvakati wandei zvinogona kutungamira kune passive aggression:

• Kutya kupokana.
• Kutya shanduko. Izvi zvinoisa mitemo mitsva iyo iyo passive-aggressive ichafanirwa kuendesa. 
• Kusazviremekedza uye kuzvivimba iyo inozviratidza mukuwedzera kwekunzwa. Kubva kupi kusingadi kuenda kune kunetsana kudzivirira chero kushoropodzwa.
• Kukurira mumhuri yakanga isina chiremera uye saka miganhu kana zvinopesana mumhuri umo kuratidza kutsamwa uye kuvhiringidzika kwaisabvumirwa, nokuda kwomunhu ane chiremera zvikuru. 
• Paranoia. Manzwiro ekugara achirwiswa nevamwe anogona kutsanangura iyi systematic passive-aggressive defense mechanism.

Nzira yakanakisa yekudyidzana nemunhu asina hasha ndeyekutevera tsanga yemunyu… Kana ukava nechiremera uye nekusimbirira uinaye, ndipo paanoita zvishoma.

Kubasa, edza nepaunogona napo kuti usatsamwise kana kugumbura waunoshanda naye asingaiti zvehasha nekuti ivo, kusiyana newe, vanozoomerwa nekushivirira navo uye mukupindura vangave vasingade kushanda newe. Kuna Christophe André, chiremba wepfungwa uye munyori webhuku "Ini ndinodzivisa hunhu hwehupfu (nezvimwe zvipembenene)”, Zviri nani, nekungoita-hasha, ku“gara uchiremekedza mafomu, mubvunze nezvechisarudzo chimwe nechimwe kana zano rega rega”. Chokwadi chekunzwa sechinobatsira chichamudzosera kuzvivimba kwake. Zvakare, pane kumurega achipuruzira uye kunyunyuta mukona yake, zvirinani "mukurudzire kuti aratidze chakaipa”. Vanhu vane hukasha vanoda kusimbiswa uye kudzidziswa kuti vataure zvavanoda, kutsamwa uye kushushikana. Zvisinei, usazvirega uchitarisana nokuramba kwake kuteerera. Tarisira kushomeka kweruremekedzo kubva kumunhu uyu uye ita kuti vanzwisise kuti maitiro avo ekungoita zvehasha anonetsa muhukama hwavo nevamwe. Kazhinji, vanhu vanongoita zvehasha havazivi kuti ndizvo, kutozosvikira rimwe zuva vaona kuti hukama hwavo hwehunyanzvi, hwerudo, hushamwari kana hwemhuri hune mhirizhonga uye kuti vangave vaine chekuita nazvo. sezvo maitiro akafanana anoparadza achidzokororwa muhupenyu hwavo. Muchiitiko ichi, rubatsiro rwenyanzvi runogona kufungwa uye runobatsira kubvisa maitiro aya akawandisa.