Racket kunzwa kunzwa kunotsiva, kunotsiva manzwiro chaiwo, echokwadi, manzwiro, kana kudiwa.
Racketeering kunzwa kunotsanangurwa semanzwiro akagadziriswa uye kukurudzirwa muhudiki, ane ruzivo mune dzakasiyana siyana zvinoshungurudza mamiriro uye asingakodzeri kugadzirisa dambudziko revakuru.
Somuenzaniso, mumwe mukadzi, somusikana, akadzidza mumhuri yake kubata nehasha kupfurikidza nokurwara. Sezvo atove munhu mukuru uye aine zviwanikwa zvevakuru, achiri kushandisa simba rehasha kuidzvanya, kuibata, kushandura kune mamwe manzwiro - kusuwa, kutsamwa, shanje, kusuwa kana kurwadziwa kwemuviri. Semuenzaniso, akarwara, akagamuchira kutarisirwa kubva kune vanhu vepedyo, zvakare akasimbiswa nekurohwa kwekodzero yenzira yakasarudzwa yekupindura. Asi hazvina kupedza dambudziko rehasha. Kunobva kwasara, uye kuchamutsazve hasha.
Nguva imwe neimwe, zvinoda simba rakawanda uye simba kuti ritore kutsamwa. Psychosomatic disease chirwere chichapiwa kumukadzi uye muviri unorapwa. Hapana nyadzi pakurwara. Zvinonyadzisa kubvuma kusakwanisa, kukundikana kana kukundwa mune chero nzvimbo yehupenyu. Mufananidzo wechiremba unozivikanwa uye unokurudzirwa munharaunda. Mufananidzo wenyanzvi yepfungwa, psychotherapist hauna kujairika. Zvirwere zvepfungwa zvinoda kurapwa, asi chiremba anongorapa muviri chete. Kana "mweya" usina kurapwa, ipapo mhirizhonga inomuka. Kurapa muviri pasina kurapa mweya kunosimbisa racket system uye kunoita kuti chirwere "chisapora". Murwere anogamuchira shamhu kubva kuna chiremba nenzira yekucherechedza chirwere, kutarisira, mishonga, maitiro, mazano ekugara pamubhedha. Dzimwe nguva chiremba anova iye ega munhu anofarira murwere. Chiremba angachengeta chiratidzo chacho kwemakore, achipinda muukama hwokuitirana hanya kwomubereki nomwana uye kuranga murwere nokuda kwokuedza kutaura manzwiro echokwadi. Semuenzaniso, kufara pakunzwa zviri nani kana kutsamwa nekusava nematuro kwekurapa. “Handingakudi kana ukava nani,” mashoko akavanzika achiremba. Mazano epfungwa akasiyana. Basa re psychotherapeutic basa hunhu hwakakura hwemutengi, hunokwanisa kuzvimiririra kutarisana nematambudziko ari kubuda. Munhu ane hutongi hweVakuru ego nyika anozvisarudzira ega kuva neutano hwakanaka kana kurwara.
Racketeering kutamba kwemaitiro echinyakare, anowanzo kutorwa muhudiki uye akabatsirwa munguva idzodzo dziri kure. Asi panguva ino, havachisiri nzira dzakabudirira.
Muhuduku, mwana, achiratidza manzwiro e-racket, akagamuchira sitiroko yakamirirwa kwenguva refu kubva kumifananidzo yevabereki. "Pano uye zvino", akakomberedzwa nemunhu mukuru, pachagara paine mumwe munhu achapa shamhu idzi, sezvo isu pachedu tinosarudza nzvimbo yedu. Nguva imwe neimwe mumamiriro ezvinhu anotambudza, aya maitiro ehuduku achadzokororwa asingazivi. Zvisinei, manzwiro echokwadi nezvido zvicharamba zvisingagutsikani. Kutyairwa mukati, ivo vanozozviratidza muchimiro che psychosomatic reaction, phobias, panic kurwisa.
Vana vanodzidza kunzwa manzwire echirango senzira yokugutsa nayo zvinodikanwa zvemhuri yavo, senzira yokuwana nayo sitiroko. Vakomana vanodzidziswa kudzvinyirira kutya, kusuruvara, kurwadziwa, asi iwe unogona kutsamwa, kuratidza utsinye. "Usachema, uri murume. Murwi wangu mudiki! Saka mumurume vanotanga kutsamwa, hasha dzinotsiva kutya nekurwadziwa. Vasikana, kune rumwe rutivi, vanodzidziswa kutsiva hasha nokuchema kana kuti kusuruvara, kunyange kana vachida kutsiva. "Uri musikana, ungarwa sei!"
Tsika, chitendero, pfungwa dzenzanga dzinoshandisawo racket system. Chiri kushamisa ndechekuti zvikonzero zvekunyengerera manzwiro akanaka, akarurama, uye akarurama.
Heino muenzaniso kubva kunhengo yeboka redu rekurapa. Elena, ane makore makumi matatu nemasere, chiremba. “Ndaiva nemakore gumi. Baba vangu vakabva vagadzira musanganiswa. Akaenda neni kumunda. Yakanga iri matsutso. Takamuka mangwanani kusati kwaedza. Pavakasvika kumunda kwakabva kwaedza. Minda mihombe yegorosi yegoridhe, yakaita semhenyu, yaisuduruka kubva mumhepo duku uye yaipenya. Kwandiri zvaiita sokuti vakanga vari vapenyu uye vaitaura neni. Mufaro, mufaro. Kunzwa kwakanyanya kwekubatana nenyika, hunhu. Kamwe kamwe, kutya - hazvina kufanira kufara saizvozvo, nokuti kumativi ose vanhu vakabatikana nebasa rakaoma, kukohwa siku nesikati. Ndiri kufara here?! Kuva nemhaka, kusuwa kwakatsiva mufaro. Ndakanga ndisingadi kuramba ndiri mumunda. " Uyu muenzaniso wakajeka wekutsiva mufaro wechokwadi nekutya racket, mhosva. Uye chirevo chinozadzwa nehasha dzakarurama: "Iwe unofara, asi vanhu vanotambura." Sei tisingagoni kushanda nemufaro?
Mafungiro enyika ekutsiva manzwiro echokwadi nemanzwire ereketi anoteedzerwa zvakanaka mungano dzechivanhu uye ngano. Ivanushki, Emelya anowanzo kutsiva kutya nehupenzi husina maturo. "Vanka iri kukungurutswa." Tsumo dzakawanda nezvirevo zvinoratidza nzira yekutsiva kana kuti nyevero yekuratidzwa kwemanzwiro echokwadi uye manzwiro. Somuenzaniso: "Pakutanga shiri duku yakaimba - pasinei nokuti katsi yakadya sei", "Kuseka pasina chikonzero chiratidzo chebenzi", "Iwe unoseka zvikuru - uchachema neshungu."
Zvakakosha kuti basa rekurapa risiyanise pakati pemanzwiro e-racket uye echokwadi, manzwiro echokwadi ari pasi pawo. Mukuongorora kwekutengeserana, zvinogamuchirwa kuti kune manzwiro mana chete echokwadi semanzwiro ekutanga: kutsamwa, kusuruvara, kutya, mufaro. Ichi ndicho chiratidzo chekutanga chekusiyana.
Racket manzwiro haaperi, sekunyara, godo, kuora mwoyo, mhosva, chigumbu, manzwiro ekuvhiringidzika, kuvhiringidzika, kusabatsira, kupererwa, kusanzwisisa, nezvimwe.
Mubvunzo unogona kumuka, maererano nemanzwiro api e-racket dzimwe nguva ane zita rakafanana nerechokwadi? Kusuwa, kutya, mufaro, hasha zvinogona kuva chitsotsi. Semuyenzaniso, akajairika munhukadzi manipulative strategy. Kutsamwa hakugoni kuratidzwa pachena, nokuti mukadzi anofanira kunge ari munyoro, asina simba uye asingadziviriri. Asi unogona kuchema, kuchema kuti haunzwisiswi. Kugumbuka, pout. Mukadzi wacho akatsiva kutsamwa kwechokwadi nemanzwiro ekusuwa, asi atova chitsotsi. Kufambisa basa rekuziva racket manzwiro, pane chiratidzo chechipiri chekusiyana.
Manzwiro echokwadi anotungamira kumhinduro yedambudziko «pano uye ikozvino», kugadzirisa uye kupedzwa kwemamiriro ezvinhu. Racket manzwiro - usape kupedzisa.
Chechitatu chimiro chakatsanangurwa naJohn Thompson. Akatsanangura kubatana kwemanzwiro echokwadi nemhinduro yezvinetso munguva. Hasha dzechokwadi dzinobatsira kugadzirisa dambudziko riripo. Kutya kuri mune ramangwana. Kusuruvara - kunobatsira kutaura zvakanaka kune zvakapfuura, kugumisa mamiriro acho uye kutaura zvakanaka kwaari. Mufaro wechokwadi - hauna miganhu yenguva uye masaini "Hapana shanduko inodiwa!"
Funga nezvomuenzaniso. Viktor, chiremba ane makore 45 okukura, akanga akatasva ngoro yechitima. Ndichipinda muvhesi, ndakanzwa kunhuwa kutsva uye chiutsi. Kunzwa kwechokwadi kwekutya kwakadzvinyirirwa naye nokuda kwekudzikama. "Ndiri murume wandinoda, semukadzi, kuvhunduka." Akagara zvakanaka akamirira apo mumwe munhu akakwenya stopcock. Victor akabatsira kubudisa zvinhu zvevamwe vatakurwi mumotokari yaipfungaira. Pakabva paita moto mota ichibva yatanga kutsva akabva agadzirira ndokuva munhu wekupedzisira kubuda mumota. Akabata chero chaainge auya nacho achisvetuka kubva mumotokari yaibvira moto. Akapisa kumeso nemaoko, mavanga akasara. Parwendo irworwo, Victor akanga akatakura zvinhu zvinokosha zvakanga zvapiswa zvachose.
Saka, kutya kwaiva kwechokwadi muna Victor pakutanga kwemoto kwaizomubatsira kugadzirisa matambudziko «munguva yemberi» - kutakura kwake kwaizoramba kusina kukuvadzwa, kwete kupiswa, chiso chake nemaoko zvaisazopiswa. Victor akasarudza kutsiva kutya nekusava nehanya uye kudzikama. Pashure pemoto, aifanira kusiya basa rake ndokuenda kune rimwe guta. Kufa kwemutoro haana kuregererwa. Mudzimai wacho akanga asingadi kutamira kune rimwe guta, vakarambana.
Muongorori anozivikanwa wemazuva ano wekutengeserana Fanita Chirungu ("Racket and Real Feelings", TA, 1971. Nha. 4) akaongorora zvakadzama matanho ekubuda kwekutengesa. Mukuona kwake, pane zvinhu zvitatu zvekuona manzwiro mumunhu akura: kuziva, kutaura uye chiito.
Kuziva ruzivo pamusoro pako, kunze uye mukati. Achishandisa pfungwa shanu, munhu anogamuchira ruzivo kubva mumanzwiro emuviri wake. Anosefa zviitiko uye anouya pakuziva nechivimbo chezviri kuitika kwaari, nyika uye nemuviri panguva ino. Somuenzaniso, munhu anoona, anonzwa uye anoziva kuti iye zvino ari kurwadziwa zvikuru muchigunwe chiduku chetsoka yake yoruboshwe, iyo yakatsikwa nembwa yake yaaida.
Kuratidza manzwiro ndiko kuratidza kwavo nerubatsiro rwemuviri kana mazwi. “Ibva, iwe imbwa benzi,” anodaro murume wacho, uye anobudisa gumbo rake pasi petsoka dzemhuka yacho. Zviito zvinowanzonangana kune mumwe munhu kana chimwe chinhu, chakadai sembwa. Tisati tatora danho, tinoita sarudzo pakati pechiito chekushanda nekusaita. Kurova imbwa nembama here? Vakuru vane mukana wekuita sarudzo, kutora matanho, uye kutaura manzwiro avo. Mwana muduku haana mukana wekuita sarudzo yakadaro nehana, sezvo zvakanyorwa zvitatu zvemaonero emanzwiro hazvina kuumbwa maari panguva imwe chete. Mwana anotanga kugona zviito (chikamu chechitatu) panguva imwe chete nekuratidzwa kwemaitiro emanzwiro (chikamu chechipiri) uye izvi zvinoitika kusati kwaonekwa kuzviziva (chinhu chekutanga). Nokudaro, vanhu vakuru vanoita ruzivo kumwana. Mwana anotaura manzwiro, uye mubereki anoatumidza, achitaura zvose zviri zviviri chikonzero nemigumisiro. Somuenzaniso, "Uri kuzununguka zvino? Unotya. Huya mumaoko angu, amai vachakudzivirira, iwe hauna dziviriro, uye nyika ine hutsinye. Mwana achashandisa Adult ego state yake kuti azive, asi gare gare. Kazhinji, Mwana akarerwa, anochinja-chinja anobvuma uye anobvumirana nekuturikira kwemubereki zviri kuitika. Kana mwana achinge akura, hunhu hwake hweAdult ego, hunogona kunge hwakasvibiswa nehunhu hwemwana, hunotevedzera mhedzisiro yemubereki. Iye achaongorora "kuvhunduka" semhinduro yekutya, kwete kufara kana kutonhora, semuenzaniso.
Ngatidzokei kune racket feelings. Kune vanasikana vaviri mumhuri yedu - Katya uye Ksenia. Vose vari vaviri vanonzwa miganhu yavo uye vanoona kutyorwa kwemiganhu zvine hukasha. Ngatiti Ksenya akatora chinhu chaidiwa naKatya asina kubvunza. Achiona izvi, Katya akatsamwa ndokurova hanzvadzi yake. Ksenya akasvimha misodzi ndokumhanyira kuna mbuya vake. Ambuya vedu havasi psychotherapist, saka vanoita muyero, "munhu" nzira. “Uri musikana, haugoni kurwa,” vanodaro mbuya. Nokudaro, inofuratira uye inorambidza kunzwa kwehasha mumuzukuru. Ambuya vanopa reaction chete kune zviito. “Makakatanwa ese anofanira kugadziriswa murunyararo,” mbuya vanoenderera mberi vachipa zano. “Uri musikana akangwara, Katya,” anogadzirisa nesitiroko.
Chii chekuita uye nzira yekurera vana? Pane nzira mbiri dzatinoshandisa nekushingaira zvese sevabereki nevana vavo uye sevarapi mubasa re psychotherapeutic. Nzira yekutanga ndeyekudzidzisa iwe kuparadzanisa manzwiro kubva kune zviito. Chechipiri zano nderekudzidzisa nzira yekusarudza nzira dzakanakisa dzekutaura manzwiro uye zviito zvinonyanya kushanda.
Ngatidzokere kuvanasikana vedu. Mubereki wacho anoti: “Ndinoona kuti iwe, Katya, wakatsamwira Ksenya. Asi haubvumidzwe kumurova." Mubereki haafuratiri, asi anogamuchira kunzwa kwehasha, asi haabvumiri hanzvadzi kukuvadzwa. “Unogona kuridza mhere, kuridza tsamwa, kurova chibhakera (tine magirovhosi etsiva nebhegi rokurovera), ratidza hasha dzako munzira ipi neipi, asi usarova hanzvadzi yako.” Vasikana vanodzidza kusarudza pakati pekutaura manzwiro nekuita. Kuparadzanisa manzwiro nezviito zvinokubvumira kutora nguva yekuziva manzwiro ako uye zvinokurudzira zvekuita. Uye mune ramangwana - kuziva chido chavo chekuvaka humwe hukama kune mumwe nemumwe, zvakajeka, zvakajeka. “Handinetse nekukupa chinhu changu. Ndinokukumbira kuti usatore zvinhu zvangu pasina mvumo mune ramangwana, "Katya anodaro kune hanzvadzi yake. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, vasikana havarambidzwe pakuratidzwa kwehasha, hapana chinotsiva manzwiro eracket. Vari kutsvaga, kuedza nekutsvaga nzira itsva dzakabudirira dzekudyidzana uye kuratidza manzwiro pasina kurohwa.
Manzwiro eRacket, pamwe chete neaya echokwadi, anogona kuratidzwa nekukasira - "pano uye ikozvino", kana anogona kuunganidzwa kuitira kuashandisa gare gare. Pane kutaura - kudonhedzwa kwekupedzisira mumukombe wekushivirira, iyo inokubvumira kuputsa kapu yose kune mutadzi. Kudonha nekudonha kwekunzwa kweraketi kunonzi kuunganidza zvitambi. Vana vanotora sei zvitambi, makuponi, mavara, makoko, kuitira kuti vawane mubairo gare gare. Kana kuti vanounganidza mari mubhangi renguruve kuti vazviitire chipo, kutenga kunogamuchirwa. Saka isu tinozvisiya kuitira gare gare, isu tinounganidza manzwiro eracket. Zvechii? Ipapo kuwana mubairo kana mubairo.
Somuenzaniso, murume anoshivirira mudzimai wake ari kushingaira kutsvaka basa. Manzwiro ake echokwadi ekutya kusurukirwa, kusiiwa, kunotsiviwa nekugumbuka. Haaratidzi pachena manzwiro ake echokwadi. Haaudze mukadzi wake chokwadi:
"Mudiwa, ndinotya kurasikirwa newe. Iwe uri chiedza pahwindo kwandiri, zvinoreva hupenyu hwangu, mufaro uye runyararo. Zvinonyanya kuitika kuti mukadzi mushure memashoko akadaro haazorambi asina hanya uye achaita zvose kuti ave pedyo nemurume uyu. Zvisinei, kutaura zvazviri, murume anoratidza kusava nehanya uye anounganidza zviratidzo zvokuvenga kutsiva. Kana "mukombe wemoyo murefu" uchipfachukira, anoratidza zvese nezvezvichemo zvake. Mudzimai anoenda. Anoramba ari oga. Kubhadhara kwake ndiko kusurukirwa kwaaitya zvakanyanya.
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Nhanho inotevera yebasa rekurapa kudzidzisa mutengi kutaura manzwiro ake asingaaunganidze. Kuti tiite izvi, tinoshandisa maitiro ekuita psychotherapy yakavakirwa pakuvandudza nekubatanidzwa kwehunyanzvi hwekuzvibata. Panguva ino, isu tinoshingaira kupa mutengi basa rechikoro. Iri basa nderekugadzirisa chiitiko chitsva chemutengi mune yake micro- uye macro-society. Anodzidza kuvaka hukama hutsva uye panguva imwechete kuongorora manzwiro ake, zviito uye pfungwa dzinomuka mune izvi. Anovaka hurongwa hwekutsinhanisa sitiroko uye anozvipa mubayiro wekubudirira. Ona →
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