PSYchology

Hukama hwakanaka hunobva pakuvimbana. Asi bvuma, dzimwe nguva uchiri kunyengedza mumwe wako kana kusataura chokwadi chose. Kureva nhema kunokuvadza ukama here?

Pane dzimwe nguva pazvinoita sezvisingabviri kutaura chokwadi pasina kurwa, kuzvikuvadza, kana kuzvipinza mukona. Vadyidzani dzimwe nguva vanonyengedzana: vanorerutsa kana kuwedzeredza chimwe chinhu, vanobata kumeso uye vakanyarara. Asi nhema dzinogara dzichikuvadza here?

Nhema muzita retsika dzakanaka

Dzimwe nguva, kuitira kuti uenderane nemitemo yekukurukurirana, unofanirwa kutaura hafu-chokwadi. Kana mumwe wako akabvunza kuti, "Ranga riri sei zuva rako?", Zvingangodaro kuti haana kunyatsogadzirira kuteerera zvichemo pamusoro pevamwe vashandi uye mukuru. Mubvunzo wake kuratidzwa kweruremekedzo, kune avo vaviri vanobatana vakajaira. Kana iwe uchiti, "Hazvina mhosva," inhema dzisingakuvadzi. Iwewo, tevera mitemo isina kunyorwa yekukurukurirana.

Zvingava zvakanyanya kuipa kugara tichiudzana zvese zvinouya mupfungwa. Murume angarondedzera kumudzimai wake kuti munyori wechiduku akanaka sei, asi kuchenjera kuti uchengete kufunga kwakadaro kwauri umene. Mimwe mifungo yedu ingave isina kufanira, isingakoshi, kana kuti isingafadzi. Dzimwe nguva unoda kutaura chokwadi, asi isu tinoyera zvakanakira nezvayakaipira tisati tazviita.

Kutendeseka kana kuti mutsa?

Kazhinji tinoita zvinoenderana nemamiriro ezvinhu uye tinotaura zvinoratidzika zvakakodzera pane imwe nguva. Iwe unogona, semuenzaniso, kukwevera kutarisisa kweanopfuura kana waunoshanda naye: "Bhatani rako raitwa" - kana iwe unogona kuramba wakanyarara.

Asi usakanda zvirevo zvisina kujeka sekuti "Handigone kumira nemufananidzo wevabereki vako wawakagadzira uye wakandipa pazuva rangu rekuzvarwa."

Pane mamiriro ezvinhu apo zvisingakwanisi kutaura chokwadi, asi zvakakosha, uye iwe unofanirwa kusarudza mazwi, mazwi uye nguva. Mubvunzo mumwe chete unogona kupindurwa zvakaenzana nekutendeseka, asi nenzira dzakasiyana.

Mubvunzo: "Sei muchipokana nemisangano yangu neshamwari?"

Mhinduro isiriyo: "Nekuti vese idiots, uye haugone kuzvitonga, unogona kunwa nekuita chimwe chinhu."

Mhinduro yakakodzera: “Ndiri kutyira kuti unganwa here. Kune varume vakawanda vasina varume vakakupoteredza, uye unoyevedza.

Mubvunzo: "Uchandiroora here?"

Mhinduro isiriyo: "Muchato hausi wangu."

Mhinduro yakakodzera: "Ndinoda kuti hukama hwedu huri kukura sei, asi ini handisati ndagadzirira basa rakadaro."

Mubvunzo: "Ini ndinotaridzika ndakafuta mune aya akajeka mapfupi jersey?"

Mhinduro isiriyo: "Iwe unongotarisa mafuta nekuda kwemafuta ako, kwete nekuda kwehembe dzako."

Mhinduro yakakodzera: "Ndinofunga kuti jeans inokodzera iwe zviri nani."

Seri kwemashoko ndiko kune vavariro

Pane nzira dzakawanda dzokuva akatendeseka uye ane mutsa panguva imwe chete. Paunenge usingazivi zvokutaura kana kutya kutaura chokwadi, zvakanaka kukumbira nguva yokufunga nezvazvo.

Semuenzaniso, wakatorwa nekushamisika nemubvunzo "Unondida here?". Usanyengedze munhu kana kuedza kuendesa hurukuro kune imwe nyaya. Kana zvasvika kune chimwe chinhu chakakosha, zviri nani kutaura pachena.

Kuvimbika muhukama kunodiwa, asi hazvidiwe, sekuudza mumwe wako kuti anonhuwa zvisingaite kana wadanana.

Kune rumwe rutivi, funga nezvazvo - chii chinoitika kana iwe ukaedza nemaune kuvanza chimwe chinhu? Unotya kuti kana ukataura chokwadi, chimwe chinhu chakaipa chichaitika? Unoda kuranga munhu here? Haukwanise kuva wakapfava? Uri kuedza kuzvidzivirira iwe kana mumwe wako here?

Kana iwe ukaziva zvikonzero zvekusavimbika kwako, hukama hwako huchabatsirika.


Nezve munyori: Jason Whiting murapi wemhuri uye purofesa wepfungwa.

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