Mukati
Jessica: Ane pamuviri, amai vaJules, 11, Elsa, 9, uye Roman, 3 nehafu.
"Ndinomutsanangurira kuti hatigoni kuroorana."
“Mwanakomana wangu anogara zvachose muOedipus complex! Roman ane makore matatu nehafu. Zuva nezuva, anonditarisa akazadzwa nerudo, otora chiso changu mumaoko ake uye anotaura mashoko anotyisa kwandiri. Ini ndiri mudiwa wehupenyu hwake! Anoronga Machiavellian kuti ndimuroore. Somuenzaniso, vhiki rakapera ndakanga ndiri kuresitorendi naye nomunun’una wake. Akatarisa waitress (akanaka kwazvo) kwechinguva ndokuti: " O tarisa, akanaka. Baba vaigona kumuroora. Muchava neshungu. Asi saizvozvi, tinogona kuroorana tose! "Kana, akati kwandiri zvakanyanya:" Ndakataura nababa, vanobvuma kuti ticharoorana, iwe neni. Manheru, murume wangu paanouya kumba, Roman anopopota: Sei ari kuuya kumba? “. Kunyange zvazvo ari muchokwadi, anoda baba vake, anomuda zvikuru! Asi ichokwadi kuti neni, zvakakosha.
Vakuru vangu vaviri vakanga vakasiyana
Handina kusangana nechinhu chimwe chete nevana vangu vakuru vaviri, musikana nemukomana. Vaive nezvikamu zvaive "zvakanamira" kwandiri, zvakanyanya mwanasikana wangu kupfuura mwanakomana wangu mukuru, asi kwete kupfuura izvozvo. Ini pachangu, handiyeuki “ndakaita Oedipus” ndichiri muduku, nababa vangu. Kana naamai vangu! Ndinorangarira kuti ndakanga ndapererwa nezano rose kuti tichaparadzana. Ndakamukumbira kuti andiroore kuti tigare tese. Mwana wangu paanondiudza kuti anoda kuti ndive mudzimai wake, uye achida kutsvoda pamuromo, ndinofunga kuti yakanaka. Dzimwe nguva, ndinopindura kutsvoda kwake nokurova zvishoma, ndichimutsanangurira kuti hatichakwanisa kuroorana. Ndinomuudza kuti ndatova mukadzi wadaddy vake. Kana kuti vanaamai havakwanise kuroora vana vavo, sezviri murwiyo rwePeau d'âne. Asi ndiri kuona kuti ndiri kumuodza mwoyo nokumuudza izvozvo. Zvakaoma !
Roman achiri mwana mudiki!
Kana tiri tese semhuri uye Roman anondipa mashoko erudo kana kuti ndikamutsvoda, murume wangu anobva apinda. Zvinomusvota zvakadaro, anozviudza kuti zvakakosha kuramba. Asi mukatikati, isu tese tinoziva kuti haisi kuzogara. Ini, zvakadaro, handina basa nazvo. Ndiri kutarisira mwana wangu wechina. Ndiri mumwedzi yekupedzisira yenhumbu yangu. Hatisati taziva kuti achange ari mukomana here kana kuti musikana. Ndinoziva kuti izvi zvinokonzera kunetseka kwakanyanya muvana. Chandinogona kuona ndechekuti mwanakomana wangu ari kukura zvakanaka: anoenda kuchikoro, ane shamwari dzakawanda. It's a phase, havasi vana vese vanopinda mazviri, asi kwandiri, ichiri mwana mudiki! ” l
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Marina: Amai vaJuliana, 14, Tina, 10, Ethan, 8, uye Léane, 1.
" NaEthan, takabva tabatana."
“Tichiri pakati peOedipus, apo mwanakomana wangu ane makore 8 okukura! Ikoko, akangodzoka kubva kubindu neruva ndokundipa, achiti “Ungandiroora here ?“Ikozvino ndinopindura ndichiseka uye anonzwisisa kuti hazviite. Asi izvi hazvina kugara zvakadaro! Iyo Oedipus complex yakatanga makore maviri nehafu uye yakanga yakasimba chaizvo. Paakangogona kutaura zvishoma, Ethan, mwana wangu wechitatu (nemukomana wokutanga) akandizivisa rudo. Ndaiva nekodzero yokuti “Amai, ndinokudai”, ipapo nokukurumidza zvikuru “Amai, muri mudzimai wangu”. Akandipa mhete dzaaizotsvaga muzvishongo zvangu kuratidza rudo rwake kwandiri. Aikweva mwoyo nezvese: mash, jamu… akasvika pakucheka makeke muchimiro chemoyo chaakandipa. Ndakaiona ichiyevedza achiri mudiki. Ichokwadi kuti rudo rukuru rwandaimuitira rwaiva rwese, saka handina kuona chakaipa. Ndakamuudza kuti neniwo ndaimuda asi ndakatoroora daddy vake. Akapindura achiti “Hazvinetse mhamha, I can share”.
Anoudza baba vake kuti ndiri mukadzi wake
Ethan aigara achiudza hanzvadzi dzake nababa vake kuti ndaiva mukadzi wake. Zvakafadza murume wangu uyo akati: “Ichokwadi, ndakatokuudza amai kubva pawakaberekwa, saka toenderera mberi!”Uye ichokwadi, kubva pakuzvarwa kwayo, tiri pedyo zvikuru. Imhaka yekuti ndakafirwa nemwana mukomana ndine nhumbu ine mwedzi mitanhatu here? Pandakaziva kuti ndaitarisira mukomana mushure mevanasikana vangu vaviri, ndakagadzira Ultrasound. Ndaive ndamuisa padivi pemubhedha wangu ndichitaura naye mazuva ese. Paakazvarwa, takabva tabatana. Ndakamuyamwisa kwemakore matatu nehafu uye taka "codotated" kusvika ava nemwedzi gumi nemisere. Akanga asingarare pamatiresi asi pandiri. Ndaive metiresi yake! Ethan akabata dumbu rangu, mazamu angu, aitoda kubatwa muviri kuti azvisimbise. Murume wangu akazviona zvakanaka, anonzwisisa zvakanyanya. Aifarira kurara pasofa rekutandarira kana Ethan ari pamubhedha wedu. Sezvineiwo, Ethan akarara ega, ndaigona kujoina murume wangu kuti tiite husiku pakati pevanodanana.
Gore rakapera ndaiva nemwanasikana, phew!
Ethan aitove nefit kana akatadza kuenda neni pandaibuda. Vandaifambidzana navo vakaona kuti akanga akanyanya kuoma, kuti zvakanga zvisina kunaka pakukura kwake. Ndaisaziva hangu. Ndakakurira mumhuri yevatanhatu nevanin'ina vaviri avo, kunyange nhasi, vakanamatira amai vangu: mumwe anogara navo, mumwe anowanzodya ikoko, kunyange zvazvo vane mhuri! Ndinoziva kuti rudo rwakabatanidzwa urwu harwuvabatsiri nguva dzose. Ndakabva ndatsanangurira Ethan kuti kubva zvino aizorara zvake pamubhedha. Ndakamuudzawo kuti kwana daddy kwaiva kumubhedha kwavo, namhamha. Akanzwisisa pakarepo uye akararama zvakanaka. Achipinda muchikoro, akamboita kakurara achitsvaga ndiripo husiku. Saka ndaimuperekedza kudzokera kumubhedha wake iye odzokera kunorara. Gore rakapera ndakaita mwana musikana. Ndakanzwa kurerukirwa ndisina mukomana. Zvakasimba nemwanakomana wangu! Ethan anotanga kufunga kuva nemusikana rimwe zuva. Asi anotsanangurawo kuti achagara pedyo nesu, kuti ndichengete vana vake (ini ndiri mubatsiri wevana) uye kuti ndinovabikira! Kufanana nei, haina kupera zvachose! ” l
Angélique: Amai vaBrayan, 5, uye Keyssie, 3.
"Patinombundirana, vana vedu vanotiparadzanisa."
“Ndine vana vaviri, musikana nemukomana. Uye mumwe nomumwe anoita Edipipo yake nababa neni. Mwanasikana wangu ane makore matatu mwanasikana wababa vake. Anongogara pedyo naye patafura. Anomudyisa, zvikasadaro hapana chaachamedza, semwana mudiki! Anoti baba vake mudiwa wake. Sezvo dzimwe nguva achirwara nemigraines, anomugadzirira zvinwiwa zvidiki nekudya kwake, achiedza kumurapa, kana kuisa maoko ake madiki pahuma yake… Zvakanyanya kunaka!
Hazvinetse ini, kunyangwe ndichiziva kuti hazvifanirwe kugara!
Mwana wangu anoita zvimwe chete neni. Anoshandisa nguva yake achinditevera: mukicheni, anondigadzirira kofi, anosuka ndiro kana kuti anondibatsira kugadzira zvokudya. Maminitsi ose e5, anondiudza kuti anondida uye ndinofanira kupindura "iniwo", kana zvisina kudaro anotsamwa! Rimwe zuva akandiudza zvakajeka kuti: “Hausi mudzimai wababa, uri mudzimai wangu!” Tose tiri vaviri tiri pedyo zvikuru. Pandakanga ndiri muward maternity kuti ndisununguke kahanzvadzi kake, ndakarwadziwa zvikuru kuti ndive kure naye. Aka ndekekutanga kuti takaparadzana kwenguva yakareba kudaro: mazuva mashanu! Ndakarwadziwa nazvo! Kuona vana vedu vakaperera patiri uye nerudo, zvinotifadza nemumwe wangu. Isu tinozvitora sejee uye tinofamba munzira yevana. Hazvinetse ini, kunyangwe ndichiziva kuti hazvifanire kugara. Pakupedzisira, zvimwe handina basa nazvo nokuti zvakanga zvakafanana nababa vangu ndichiri muduku. Ndaiva mwana wababa vake. Baba vangu vakaenda kugungwa kwemavhiki maviri paEnglish Channel. Panguva iyi ndakarara namai vangu. Paakadzoka amai vakabva vabuda pamubhedha nekuti ndaida kurara navo! Vakazorambana baba vachibva vanditora. Ndakatowedzera kusvotwa naye. Ndisati ndaonana nababa vevana vangu, ndaibuda neChishanu nababa vangu. Taiva nerestaurant kana cinema. Dzimwe nguva vanhu vaititora semurume nemukadzi. Zvakatiseka.
Takazoisa mari pamubhedha wemamita maviri
Usiku, kwenguva refu, mwanakomana wedu akarara nesu. Sezvo taiva nekamubhedha kadiki, kuti tivate zviri nani, mumwe wangu akaenda pasofa. Takabva tapedza kuisa mari mumubhedha wemamita maviri. Kazhinji mwanasikana wangu anorara nesu. Anombundira baba vake. Masikati, patinombundirana nababa vavo, vana vedu vanopindira kuti vatiparadzanise! Mwanasikana wangu anotora mumwe wangu uye mwanakomana wangu anonditorazve. Havagoni kumira! Kunyange zvakadaro, vose vane vadikani vaduku kuchikoro, asi amai nababa chimwe chinhu. Zvakafanana neni nababa vangu! Chinhu chakakosha! Dzimwe nguva, ndinoda kuti kubatana kwakasimba uku kuderera, kungofema zvishoma uye kukwanisa kuita zvinhu nemumwe wangu, kuwana hupenyu hwedu semurume nemukadzi. ” l
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