Mukati
Hazvinei kuti tine makore mangani, kufa kwababa kana amai kunogarorwadza zvikuru. Dzimwe nguva kuchema kunoenderera mberi kwemwedzi nemakore, kuchichinja kuva chirwere chakakomba. Rehabilitation psychiatrist David Sack anotaura nezverubatsiro rwaunoda kuti udzokere kuhupenyu hunogutsa.
Ndakava nherera ndine makore 52. Pasinei nezera rangu uye ruzivo rwebasa, rufu rwababa vangu rwakachinja upenyu hwangu. Vanoti zvakafanana nekurasikirwa nechimwe chikamu chako. Asi ndakanzwa kuti simba rekuzvibata kwangu rakanga ragurwa.
Kukatyamadzwa, chiveve, kuramba, kutsamwa, kusuruvara, uye kuora mwoyo ndiwo mutsara wemanzwiro anoita vanhu pavanorasikirwa nemudiwa. Manzwiro aya haatisiyi kweimwe mwedzi yakawanda. Kune vakawanda, vanoonekwa vasina kutevedzana, vachirasikirwa nekupinza kwavo nekufamba kwenguva. Asi mhute yangu haina kupera kweinopfuura hafu yegore.
Nzira yekuchema inotora nguva, uye avo vakatipoteredza dzimwe nguva vanoratidza kusashivirira - vanoda kuti tive nani nokukurumidza sezvinobvira. Asi mumwe munhu anoramba achinyatsonzwa manzwiro aya kwemakore akawanda mushure mekurasikirwa. Kuchema kunoenderera mberi uku kunogona kuva nemafungiro, magariro, tsika, uye zvemweya.
Kushungurudzika, kupindwa muropa uye kuora mwoyo
Kutsvakurudza kunoratidza kuti kufirwa nemubereki kunogona kuwedzera njodzi yenguva refu yezvinetso zvepfungwa uye zvepfungwa zvakadai sokuora mwoyo, kufunganya, uye kupindwa muropa nezvinodhaka.
Izvi ndezvechokwadi kunyanya mumamiriro ezvinhu apo munhu anenge asingawani tsigiro yakazara munguva yokufirwa uye asingawani vabereki vokurera vakazara kana hama dzokunyama dzakakurumidza kufa. Kufa kwababa kana amai muhuduku kunowedzera zvakanyanya mikana yekukudziridza matambudziko ehutano hwepfungwa. Anenge mumwe muvana makumi maviri ari pasi pemakore gumi nemashanu anokanganiswa nekufirwa nemubereki mumwe kana vese.
Vanakomana vakafirwa navanababa vane nguva yakaoma zvikuru yokutarisana nokufirwa kupfuura vanasikana, uye vakadzi vane nguva yakaoma zvikuru yokutsungirira rufu rwaamai vavo.
Chimwe chinhu chinokosha pakuitika kwemigumisiro yakadaro chiyero chekuswedera pedyo kwemwana nemubereki akafa uye chiyero chekukanganisa kwechiitiko chinosuruvarisa pahupenyu hwake hwose hwemangwana. Uye izvi hazvireve zvachose kuti vanhu vari nyore kuona kurasikirwa nemumwe munhu wavakanga vasinganyanyi kushamwaridzana naye. Ndinogona kutaura nechivimbo kuti munyaya iyi, ruzivo rwekurasikirwa runogona kuva rwakadzika.
Migumisiro yenguva refu yokurasikirwa nomubereki yakaongororwa yaongororwazve. Zvakazoitika kuti izvi zvinokanganisa hutano hwepfungwa uye hwemuviri, uye iyo yekupedzisira inowanzo kuratidzwa muvarume. Mukuwedzera, vanakomana vakafirwa navanababa vanoomerwa zvikuru nokurasikirwa kupfuura vanasikana, uye vakadzi vane nguva yakaoma zvikuru yokuyananisa nerufu rwaamai vavo.
Yasvika nguva yekukumbira rubatsiro
Kutsvakurudza pamusoro pedzidziso yekurasikirwa kwakabatsira kunzwisisa nzira yekubatsira vanhu vakavhiringidzika nekufa kwevabereki vavo. Zvinokosha zvikuru kuisa pfungwa papfuma yomunhu pachake uye kukwanisa kwake kuzvirapa. Zvakakosha kuti hama dzinokosha uye nhengo dzemhuri vamupe rubatsiro rwakakwana. Kana munhu ari kusangana neshungu dzakaomarara dzinotora nguva refu mushure mekufa kwemudiwa, mamwe matanho uye kuongororwa kwehutano hwepfungwa kunogona kudikanwa.
Mumwe nemumwe wedu anorarama nekufirwa kwevadikani nenzira yedu uye nekumhanya kwedu pachedu, uye zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kuziva kuti ndepapi nhanho kusuruvara kunoshanduka kuita chirwere chisingaperi chakaoma. Chimiro chakadaro chakareba - chirwere chekushungurudzika - chinowanzoperekedzwa nezviitiko zvinorwadza zvenguva refu, uye zvinoratidzika kuti munhu haakwanisi kubvuma kurasikirwa uye kuenderera mberi kunyange mwedzi nemakore mushure mekufa kwemudiwa.
Nzira yekuvandudza
Matanho ekupora mushure mekufa kwemubereki anosanganisira danho rinokosha ratinozvibvumira kuona marwadzo ekurasikirwa. Izvi zvinotibatsira kuti zvishoma nezvishoma titange kuona zvakaitika tofambira mberi. Sezvatinopora, tinowanazve mano okunakidzwa noukama hwedu nevamwe. Asi kana tikaramba tichifunga uye tichinyanya kukoshesa zviyeuchidzo zvipi nezvipi zvekare, rubatsiro rwenyanzvi runodiwa.
Kukurukurirana nenyanzvi kunotsigira uye kunobatsira kutaura pachena pamusoro pekusuwa, kuvhiringidzika kana kutsamwa, dzidza kurarama nemanzwiro aya uye kungobvumira kuti varatidze. Kurairirwa kwemhuri kunogonawo kubatsira mumamiriro ezvinhu aya.
Zvinova nyore kwatiri kurarama uye kurega kusuruvara kana tikasavanza manzwiro, pfungwa uye ndangariro.
Rufu rwemubereki runogona kudzosa marwadzo ekare uye kugumbuka uye kuve nemhedzisiro yakakura pamaitiro emhuri. Murapi wemhuri anobatsira kuparadzanisa kusawirirana kwekare uye kutsva, anoratidza nzira dzinovaka dzekudzibvisa nekuvandudza hukama. Unogonawo kuwana boka retsigiro rakakodzera rinogona kukubatsira kuti usanzwe kurerukirwa kubva mukusuwa kwako.
Kushungurudzika kwenguva refu kazhinji kunotungamira kune "kuzvirapa" nerubatsiro rwedoro kana zvinodhaka. Muchiitiko ichi, matambudziko ese ari maviri anofanirwa kugadziriswa panguva imwe chete uye anoda kudzoreredzwa kaviri munzvimbo dzakanangana nemakiriniki.
Uye pakupedzisira, kuzvichengeta ndechimwe chikamu chakakosha chekupora. Zvinova nyore kwatiri kurarama uye kurega kusuruvara kana tikasavanza manzwiro, pfungwa uye ndangariro. Kudya kwakanaka, kurara kwakafanira, kurovedza muviri uye nguva yakakwana yekuchema nekuzorora ndizvo zvinodiwa nemunhu wese mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro. Tinofanira kudzidza kushivirira isu pachedu nevaya vakatipoteredza vari kuchema. Irwendo rwemunhu, asi haufanirwe kufamba narwo wega.
Munyori ndiDavid Sack, chiremba wepfungwa, chiremba mukuru wetiweki yenzvimbo dzekudzorera zvidhakwa uye vakapindwa muropa nezvinodhaka.