Tinoziva kuti kubata kune simba rekuporesa. Vanamai vanorova vana - uye vanoseka nekufamba. Vanodanana vanonyara vachibata maoko emumwe nemumwe, uye panguva iyoyo zviuru zvemashavishavi zvinorova mapapiro azvo mukati mavo. Tinombundira shamwari iri kutarisana nenguva dzakaoma, uye tinoziva kuti pfudzi redu richava tsigiro yake.
Ehe, kubata kwevatinoshanda navo ndiko kwakakosha. Kana paine ukama hwakatendeseka, hunodziya uye hune utano pakati pedu nemudiwa wedu, kazhinji kubata kwake kuchatipa mufaro unoshamisa. Asi zvakakodzera here kubata mumwe wako kana iye zvino ari kutaura nezvechimwe chinhu chinomuita kuti atye?
Kune rumwe rutivi, zvinoratidzika kuti nemaoko edu tinogona kuderedza kushushikana kwemudiwa uye kuratidza kutsigira kwaari. Ukuwo, kazhinji hatitomboedzi kumbundira mumwe munhu ari kunetseka iye zvino, nokuti tinofunga kuti: “Chokwadi anofanira kunge ari oga iye zvino.” Ko kana tikangoita kuti zvinhu zvinyanye kuipa?
Sei uchindibata?
Sei tichitoda kubata mumwe nemumwe? Mashoko haana kukwana here? Kune rimwe divi, kubata kunoreva kuti tiri muukama hwepedyo newatinobata. Aya ndiwo maratidziro atinoita kuti tichapa tsigiro kana zvichidikanwa. Izvi zvinotsigirwa nemhedzisiro yeongororo yakabudiswa mupepanhau reSocial and Personal Relations.
Nyanzvi dzepfungwa kubva kumayunivhesiti eSyracuse neCarnegie Mellon (USA) vakadzidza kuti kubata kwevadyidzani kunotikanganisa sei dzimwe nguva patinenge tichitya kana kuoma. Chidzidzo chavo chaisanganisira 210 vakaroorana. Vazvipiri vakatanga kupindura mibvunzo pamusoro pekugutsikana kwavaiita nehukama hwavo. Mushure mekuita kwekutaurirana pakati pevadyidzani, vakairekodha pavhidhiyo kuti vaongorore divi risiri rekutaura renyaya.
Vatsvakurudzi vakakumbira mumwe wevabatsiri kuti audze mumwe pamusoro pezvinomuita kuti atye. Chinhu chinokonzera kushungurudzika chinogona kuva chero chinhu - kubva kumatambudziko kubasa kusvika kuzvirwere uye kukakavara nevadikani. Chinhu chimwe chete, nyaya yekusagadzikana haifaniri kunge yakabata hukama hwepedyo pakati pevatori vechikamu. Vaviri ava vakapiwa maminitsi masere ekuti vataure nezvenyaya imwe chete, vachibva vanzi vachinjane mabasa.
Kubata kunobatsira kugadzira nzvimbo yakachengeteka inodzivirira kutambura zvisina kufanira.
Migumisiro yechidzidzo ichi yakasimbisa kuti kubata kwevadikani kunokosha zvikuru. Vaya vatori vechikamu vakarohwa uye vakanyaradzwa nemaoko mukuita hurukuro kupfuura vamwe vakashuma kuti kuzviremekedza kwavo kwakawedzera, nepo kushushikana, pane kudaro, kwakaderera. Ivowo vangangotaura kuti vaigona kugonana nezvinetso zvavo.
Zvinokosha kuti vose “vanobata” vatori vechikamu vakateerera uye avo vakagovera zvinetso zvavo vakanzwisisa mumwe wavo zvakanaka zvikuru kupfuura avo vakabata vadiwa vavo kazhinji kazhinji uye vakanga vasinganyanyi kugamuchira “pats” kubva kuvadiwa.
Mukufamba kumwe
Zvinoitika kuti kubata mumwe kunobatsira chero zvakadaro. Kubata kunobatsira kugadzira nzvimbo yakachengeteka inodzivirira kutambura zvisina kufanira, masayendisiti anoti. Saka nguva inotevera mudiwa wako paanotanga kunyunyuta pamusoro pemukuru webasa asingatsungiririki, kana kuti mudiwa wako paanotaura nezve kumwe kukakavara pamusoro penzvimbo yekupaka, ingomubhabhadzira paruoko. Kunyangwe zvikasaita kuti vaunoshanda navo vavandudze dzidziso dzavo kana kufunga kutenga nzvimbo yegaraji, zvinozoita kuti zvinhu zvivaitire nyore. Sainzi inosimbisa izvi.