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Kunowanzoratidzika kwatiri kuti avo, nokuda kwechikonzero chimwe kana chimwe, vasina mhuri vanotambura nokusurukirwa. Asi kugara wega hakuna kufanana nekusurukirwa. Zvakapesana: munguva yedu, vanhu ava ndivo vanonyanya kutaurirana neshamwari nehama.
Muzana ramakore rechiXNUMX, vanhu vanonzwa vari voga zvakanyanya kupfuura nakare kose. Iyi ndiyo mhedziso yakasvikwa nevanyori veongororo ichangobva kuitwa yakaitwa muUnited States. Uyezve: nhasi kusurukirwa kwazova denda.
Zvinowanzogamuchirwa kuti avo vanogara vari voga havana munhu wokutendeukira kwaari munguva dzakaoma. Muchidzidzo ichi, vanyori vaisanganisira vose vanogara vari voga uye avo vanonzwa vakasurukirwa sevatori vechikamu. Zvakazoitika kuti unogona kunzwa kusurukirwa kunyange muwanano.
Basa rekushamwaridzana ndiro "bhiza" revakasurukirwa
Asi handizvo zvoga: zvinozoitika kuti vanhu vasina kuroora, kunyanya avo vanga vasina kuroora kwenguva yakareba, vanogarisana zvakanaka uye vanoshanda zvakanyanya.
Imwe ongororo inosanganisira 300 zvidzidzo kubva kunyika 000 yakaratidza kuti varume nevakadzi vakafirwa, vakarambana uye vasina kumboroora, vanosangana neshamwari 31% kakawanda kupfuura vanhu vakaroorana. Chokwadi ndechokuti kazhinji vanhu vakasarudza kuroorana vanopedzisira vazviparadzanisa nemhuri dzavo, vanoparadza ukama neshamwari uye vobva vasurukirwa.
Kuva wega uye kunzwa uri wega hazvisi chinhu chimwe chete. Asi zvose zviri zviviri zviratidzo zvenguva yedu.
Kusurukirwa idambudziko rakasiyana risingafanirwe kuvhiringika nesarudzo yechinzvimbo: kuroora / kuroora kana kugara wega. Uyezve, dzimwe nguva inogona kuva mhinduro yakanaka.
John Cascioppo, munyori webhuku rinonzi Loneliness, anoti: “Kuva woga uye kunzwa uri woga hazvisi chinhu chimwe chete. Asi zvose zviri zviviri zviratidzo zvenguva yedu. Avo vanosarudza kuva voga vachiri kutsvaga hukama: vanotungamirirwa nemhosva. Zvisinei, vanotowedzera kunzwa vaine mhosva pavanozoroorana. Kuva nemufaro uri wega zvakangofanana nekutsvaka mufaro kune vakaroorana.
Kuva woga ndicho chisarudzo chakanaka here?
Kuenzanisa kwemaitiro evakaroorana muna 1980 na2000 kwakaratidza kuti vakaroorana mumuenzaniso we2000, kusiyana nevakaroorana muna 1980, vanotaurirana zvishoma neshamwari uye havanyanyi kushamwaridzana. Asi vanhu vasina kuroora vemazuva ano vari nani kugarisana nevamwe. Vanonyanya kusurukirwa munguva yedu vanhu vakaroorana, uye kwete vasina kuroorwa vanoramba vachikurukura neshamwari.
Izvi zvinoreva kuti kuwedzera kwenhamba yevanhu vanosarudza kusapinda muukama kune tariro, kwete kutyisa, nokuti zviri nyore kwavari kuchengetedza hukama hwevanhu.
Kare, mhuri ndiyo yaiva nheyo yegadziriro yekutsigira, asi nekufamba kwenguva kwave kune kuchinja kune kuumbwa kwe "chirairo chevakasurukirwa". Ushamwari hunosimbisa vanhu vakadaro, uye tsigiro yaimbogamuchirwa mumhuri zvino inobva kune vamwe vanhu vanokwanisa kukurukurirana navo. “Ndine shamwari dzakawanda dzandinokurukura nadzo anenge mazuva ose,” anodaro Alexander ane makore 47 okukura.
Uhu rudzi rwehukama hunosarudzwawo nevaya vanoda kuva voga pakupera kwezuva. Vanhu vakadaro vanodzokera kumba mushure memutambo neshamwari, uye chavanoda chete rugare nerunyararo kuti vadzoke zvakare.
MuEurope neAmerica, vechidiki vanopfuura makumi mashanu kubva muzana vanoti havaronge kuroora kana kuroorwa
“Ndakapedza makore 17 ndiri ndoga zvachose. Asi ndakanga ndisiri ndoga,” anoyeuka kudaro Maria ane makore 44 okukura. - Pandaida, ndaitaura neshamwari, asi izvi hazvina kuitika mazuva ese. Ndainakidzwa nokuva ndoga.”
Dambudziko, zvisinei, nderekuti vazhinji vachiri kutenda kuti vanhu vakadaro vanoshamwaridzana. Izvi, semuenzaniso, zvinoratidzwa nemhedzisiro yeongororo umo vadzidzi ve1000 vakatora chikamu. Hazvishamisi kuti ivo pachavo vanotenda stereotypes pamusoro pavo.
Chero zvazvingava, vakasurukirwa havazvibate nenzira yavanokarirwa. Mune kumwe kuongorora, vanhu vane makore 50 zvichikwira vakakumbirwa kuti vataure nezveukama hwavo nemhuri uye neshamwari. Vanhu vanopfuura 2000 vakapinda muchidzidzo ichi, uye zvakatora makore anoda kusvika matanhatu. Zvidzidzo izvi zvakakamurwa kuita mapoka matatu: avo vanogara vega, vane makore asingasviki matatu vari murudo, uye vaya vave vachidanana nomumwe munhu kwemakore anopfuura mana. Zvakazoitika kuti vakasurukirwa vanopedza nguva yakawanda neshamwari, mhuri, shamwari nevavakidzani.
MuEurope neAmerica, vanopfuura 50% vevechiduku vanoti havarongi kuroora kana kuroorwa, uye nokuda kwechikonzero chakanaka. Uye zvinonyanya kukosha, izvi hazvityisi: pane zvinopesana, kana kune mamwe ma singles munyika, tinogona kuva netariro yezvakanakisa. Zvichida tichatanga kubatsira vamwe zvakanyanya, kutaurirana neshamwari uye kubatanidzwa zvakanyanya muhupenyu hwekushamwaridzana.
Nezve Munyori: Eliakim Kislev iPhD muSociology uye munyori we Happy Solitude: Pakukura Kugamuchirwa uye Kugamuchirwa kuSolo Hupenyu.