Kunzwiwa kunoreva kugamuchira kucherechedzwa kwokusiyana kwomunhu, simbiso yokuvapo kwomunhu. Ichi chingangove chishuwo chakajairika mazuva ano - asi panguva imwechete ine njodzi. Nzira yekuita sei chokwadi chekuti tinogona kunzwika muruzha rwakapoteredza? Nzira yekutaura sei "zvechokwadi"?
Hatina kumbobvira tataurirana, kutaura, kunyora zvakanyanya. Pamwe chete, kupokana kana kupa zano, kushora kana kubatanidza, uye mumwe nemumwe kuratidza hunhu hwavo, zvido uye zvishuwo. Asi pane kunzwa kwokuti tiri kunzwiwa chaizvoizvo here? Kwete nguva dzose.
Pane musiyano pakati pezvatinofunga kuti tiri kutaura nezvatinotaura chaizvo; pakati pezvinonzwa mumwe nezvatinofunga kuti anonzwa. Mukuwedzera, mutsika yemazuva ano, apo kuzviratidza kune rimwe remabasa anokosha zvikuru, uye kukurumidza inzira itsva yehukama, kutaura hakusi nguva dzose kunoitirwa kuvaka mabhiriji pakati pevanhu.
Nhasi tinokoshesa munhu mumwe nomumwe uye tinowedzera kufarira isu pachedu, tinotarisa zvakanyanya mukati medu. “Mumwe wemiuyo yengwariro yakadaro ndeyokuti rutivi runokosha rwenzanga runoisa pakutanga kudikanwa kwokuzviratidza kuchikuvadza mano okunzwisisa,” anodaro murapi weGestalt Mikhail Kryakhtunov.
Tinogona kunzi nzanga yevatauri pasina anoteerera.
Mameseji kwaasina
Tekinoroji nyowani dzinounza yedu "Ini" pamberi. Ma social network anoudza munhu wese mararamiro atinoita, zvatinofunga nezvazvo, kwatiri uye zvatinodya. “Asi aya mashoko ari muchimiro chemonologue, kutaura kusingataurirwi chero munhu upi zvake,” anodaro Inna Khamitova, chiremba wepfungwa dzemhuri. "Zvichida iyi inzira yekubuda kune vanhu vanonyara vanotya zvakanyanya mhinduro dzisina kunaka munyika chaiyo."
Ivo vanowana mukana wekutaura maonero avo uye nekuzvisimbisa, asi panguva imwe chete ivo vanoisa panjodzi yekuchengetedza kutya kwavo uye kunamira munzvimbo chaiyo.
Mumamyuziyamu uye nekumashure kwezvinoonekwa, munhu wese anotora selfies - zvinoita sekunge hapana ari kutarisana, kana kune iwo mabasa ehunyanzvi avanga vari munzvimbo ino. Huwandu hwemeseji-mifananidzo yakawanda kakawanda kupfuura nhamba yeavo vanogona kuiona.
"Munzvimbo yehukama, kune kuwanda kwezvakaiswa mari, kusiyana nezvinotorwa," anosimbisa Mikhail Kryakhtunov. "Mumwe nomumwe wedu anoedza kutaura zvaanoda, asi pakupedzisira zvinotungamirira kusurukirwa."
Vatinosangana navo vari kuramba vachikurumidza uye, nekuda kweizvi chete, kushoma kudzika.
Kutepfenyura chimwe chinhu pamusoro pedu, hatizivi kana kune mumwe munhu kune rumwe rutivi rwewaya. Isu hatisangane nemhinduro uye tove tisingaoneki pamberi pemunhu wese. Asi zvingava zvisina kururama kupomera nzira yekurukurirano nokuda kwechinhu chiri chose. “Kudai tisina kudzida, dzingadai dzisina kuonekwa,” anodaro Mikhail Kryakhtunov. Tinotenda kwavari, tinogona kuchinjana mameseji chero nguva. Asi maitirwo edu ari kuwedzera uye nekukurumidza uye, nekuda kweizvi chete, kushoma kudzika. Uye izvi zvinoshanda kwete chete kunhaurirano dzebhizinesi, uko kurongeka kunouya pakutanga, kwete hukama hwepfungwa.
Isu tinodzvanya bhatani re "wave" tisingatombonzwisisi kuti tiri kuninira kuna ani uye ndiani ari kufuratira. Emoji maraibhurari anopa mifananidzo yenguva dzese. Smiley - inonakidza, imwe kunyemwerera - kusuwa, kupeta maoko: "Ndinokunamatira." Kune zvakare mitsara yakagadzirira-yakagadzirwa yemhinduro dzakajairwa. "Kunyora kuti "Ndinokuda", unongoda kudzvanya bhatani kamwe chete, haufanirwe kana kutaipa tsamba netsamba, anoenderera mberi murapi weGestalt. "Asi mazwi asingade kufunga kana kushanda nesimba kuderera, anorasikirwa nezvaanoreva." Handizvo here kuti tinoedza kuvasimbisa, tichiwedzera kwavari «zvakanyanya», «chaizvo», «kutendeseka vakatendeseka» uye zvakafanana? Vanotsikirira chishuwo chedu chekutaura mifungo yedu nemanzwiro kune vamwe - asiwo kusava nechokwadi kuti izvi zvichabudirira.
nzvimbo yakaderedzwa
Zvinyorwa, maemail, mameseji, matweets anotichengeta kure nemumwe munhu uye nemuviri wavo, manzwiro avo uye manzwiro edu.
“Nemhaka yokuti kurukurirano inoitika kupfurikidza nemichina inoita basa romurevereri pakati pedu nomumwe, muviri wedu hauchabatanidzwa mairi,” anodaro Inna Khamitova, “asi kuva pamwe chete kunoreva kuteerera inzwi romumwe, kunhuwa. iye, achiona manzwiro asingatauri uye ave mumamiriro ezvinhu akafanana.
Isu hatiwanzofunga nezve chokwadi chekuti kana isu tiri munzvimbo yakafanana, tinoona uye kuona mamiriro akafanana, izvi zvinotibatsira kunzwisisa zviri nani.
Kana tikataurirana zvisina kunanga, saka "nzvimbo yedu yakajairika yakaderedzwa," anoenderera mberi Mikhail Kryakhtunov, "ini handisi kuona anopindirana kana, kana iri Skype, semuenzaniso, ndinoona chete chiso nechikamu chekamuri, asi ini handioni. ziva zviri kuseri kwegonhi, kuti zvinokanganisa sei mumwe, mamiriro akaita sei, anofanira kuenderera mberi nehurukuro kana kudzima nekukurumidza.
Ini ndinotora pachangu izvo zvisina chekuita neni. Asi haanzwi saizvozvo neni.
Chiitiko chedu chakajairwa panguva ino idiki - isu hatina kuonana zvishoma, nzvimbo yekusangana kwepfungwa idiki. Kana tikatora hurukuro yakajairika se100%, saka patinotaura tichishandisa zvishandiso, 70-80% inonyangarika. " Ikoku kwaisazova chinetso kana kurukurirano yakadaro ikasachinja kuva muitiro wakashata, watinopfuuridzira mukurukurirano yenguva dzose yezuva nezuva.
Zviri kuramba zvichitiomera kuti tirambe tichionana.
Huvepo hwakazara hweimwe iri pedyo haitsivike nenzira dzehunyanzvi
Zvechokwadi, vazhinji vakaona mufananidzo uyu pane imwe nzvimbo mu cafe: vanhu vaviri vakagara patafura imwe chete, mumwe nomumwe akatarisa mudziyo wavo, kana kuti ivo pachavo vanga vari mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro. "Uyu ndiwo musimboti we entropy: masisitimu akaomarara anoputsika kuita akareruka, zviri nyore kudzikisira pane kugadzira," murapi weGestalt anoratidza. - Kuti unzwe imwe, iwe unofanirwa kurega kubva kwauri, uye izvi zvinoda kushanda nesimba, uye ini ndinongotumira kunyemwerera. Asi iyo emoticon haigadzirise nyaya yekutora chikamu, iyo addressee ine manzwiro anoshamisa: zvinoita sekunge vakaita kwairi, asi haina kuzadzwa nechero chinhu. Kuvapo kwakazara kwerimwe divi nedivi hakutsivike nenzira dzehunyanzvi.
Tiri kurasikirwa nehunyanzvi hwekutaurirana kwakadzama, uye hunofanira kudzoreredzwa. Unogona kutanga nekuwanazve kugona kunzwa, kunyangwe izvi zvisiri nyore.
Isu tinogara pamharadzano yezvakawanda zvinofurira uye zvikumbiro: gadzira peji rako, isa like, saina chikumbiro, tora chikamu, enda ... Uye zvishoma nezvishoma tinokudziridza kusanzwa uye kusadzivirirwa mukati medu - iyi ingori nzira yekudzivirira inodiwa.
Kutsvaga kuenzanisa
“Takadzidza kuvhara nzvimbo yedu yemukati, asi zvingabatsira kuti tikwanise kuivhurawo,” anodaro Inna Khamitova. “Zvikasadaro, hatizowana mhinduro. Uye isu, somuenzaniso, tinopfuurira kutaura, kwete kuverenga zviratidzo izvo mumwe asina kugadzirira kutinzwa iye zvino. Uye isu pachedu tinotambura nekushaya hanya. ”
Mugadziri wedzidziso yenhaurirano, Martin Buber, akatenda kuti chinhu chikuru munhaurirano kugona kunzwa, kwete kutaura. "Tinofanira kupa mumwe nzvimbo munzvimbo yekukurukurirana," anotsanangura kudaro Mikhail Kryakhtunov. Kuti anzwiwe, munhu anofanira kutanga ava iye anonzwa. Kunyangwe mukurapa kwepfungwa, kunouya nguva apo mutengi, ataura, anoda kuziva zviri kuitika nemurapi: "Uri kuitei?" Kudyidzana: ndikasakuteerera haundinzwe. Uye zvakasiyana".
Hazvisi zvekutaura tichichinjana, asi kufunga nezvemamiriro ezvinhu uye kuenzana kwezvido. "Hazvina musoro kuita zvinoenderana netemplate: Ndakasangana, ndinoda kugovera chimwe chinhu," murapi weGestalt anotsanangura. "Asi iwe unogona kuona izvo musangano wedu uri pamusoro, kuti kutaurirana kuri kukura sei. Uye ita zvinoenderana kwete nezvido zvako chete, asiwo nemamiriro ezvinhu uye maitiro. "
Zviri muropa kuda kunzwa uine hutano, hune zvahunoreva, kukoshesa, uye kunzwa wakabatana nenyika.
Kubatana pakati pangu nemumwe kunobva pakuti ndinomupa nzvimbo ipi, anoshandura sei manzwiro angu uye maonero angu. Asi panguva imwe cheteyo, hatimbozivi kuti mumwe munhu angafungidzira sei achishandisa mashoko edu sehwaro hwebasa rekufungidzira kwake. “Kuti tichanzwisiswa kusvika papi kunobva pazvinhu zvakawanda: pakukwanisa kwedu kurongedzera shoko nenzira yakarurama, pangwariro yomumwe, uye pakududzira kwatinoita zviratidzo zvinobva kwaari,” Inna Khamitova anoonesa.
Kune mumwe, kuti azive kuti ari kuteererwa, zvakakosha kuti aone kutarisisa kwaakaita. Kunyatsotarisa kunonyadzisa mumwe - asi zvinobatsira pavanogutsurira musoro kana kubvunza mibvunzo inojekesa. "Iwe unogona kutotanga kutaura pfungwa isina kunyatso kuumbwa," Mikhail Kryakhtunov anogutsikana, "uye kana mutauriri wacho achifarira matiri, achabatsira kuigadzira uye kuigadzira."
Asi zvakadini kana chishuvo chokunzwiwa chichingova narcissism? “Ngatisiyanisei pakati penarcissism nekuzvida,” anodaro Mikhail Kryakhtunov. “Ndokwomuzvarirwo kuda kunzwa une utano hwakanaka, une zvazvinoreva, uchikosheswa, uye kunzwa wakabatana nenyika.” Kuti kuzvida, izvo zviri mu narcissism, kuzviratidza uye kubereka, kunofanira kusimbiswa kubva kunze nevamwe: kuitira kuti isu tifadze kwaari. Uye iyewo, aizotifadza. Hazviitike nguva dzose uye hazviitiki kumunhu wose. Asi kana pane masangana akadaro pakati pedu, kunzwa kwepedyo kunomuka kubva mairi: tinogona kuzvisundira pachedu, tichibvumira mumwe kutaura. Kana kumubvunza kuti: unogona kuteerera here?