Ndezvipi shamwari dzinozivikanwa uye 4 dzimwe ngano pamusoro pehushamwari

Hukama uhwu hwakavakwa pakunzwirana tsitsi, pane zvinofarirwa uye zvaunofarira, patsika yagara iripo. Asi kwete pachibvumirano: isu hatimbo kurukura neshamwari kuti tiri ani kune mumwe nemumwe uye zvatinotarisira mukero yedu. Uye hazvigoneki kuti isu tinoronga ramangwana rakabatana kupfuura rwendo runotevera kuenda kuatheater.

Hatina bumbiro reushamwari kunze kwehuchenjeri hwevanhu, iyo yakabatanidza pfungwa dzinogamuchirwa dzinogamuchirwa pamusoro pemaitiro eshamwari, dzimwe nguva nenzira inoshamisa ( «ushamwari hushamwari, asi fodya yakaparadzana»), dzimwe nguva nenzira yerudo («havana zana rubles, asi vane zana shamwari.

Asi ungavimba naye sei? Gestalt murapi Andrey Yudin anotibatsira kuona chokwadi chengano shanu dzinonyanya kuzivikanwa. Kazhinji, anotenda kuti chero chirevo chechokwadi mumamiriro ezvinhu apo chakaonekwa, asi chinongokanganisa chokwadi kana mukurukuri akaparadzana nechirevo chepakutanga. Uye zvino zvakawanda…

Shamwari inoshaya ishamwari zvechokwadi

Chokwadi zvishoma

"Ehe, isu tinogona kubvumirana kuti kana tikapinda mumamiriro ezvinhu akaoma, anonetsa uye kunyange akanyanyisa pamwe chete neshamwari, isu, sekutonga, tinowana chimwe chinhu chitsva muvanhu chatingadai tisina kumboziva nezvavo muhupenyu hwezuva nezuva.

Asi dzimwe nguva “dambudziko” pacharo rine chekuita neshamwari dzakafanana kana kukanganisa zvavanofarira uye nokudaro rinovakwevera kuzviito zvisingafadzi kwatiri. Semuenzaniso, kubva pakuona kwechidhakwa, shamwari dzinoramba kumukweretesa mari panguva yekudhakwa dzinoita sevavengi vanomusiya panguva yakaoma, asi kuramba kwavo uye kunyange kukanganisa kwenguva pfupi kwekukurukurirana kunogona kuva chiito cherudo. uye kutarisira.

Uye mumwe muenzaniso kana chirevo ichi chisingaiti: dzimwe nguva, kupinda mumatambudziko akafanana, vanhu vanoita zvinhu zvoupenzi kana kunyange kutengesa, izvo vanozozvidemba nemwoyo wose. Nokudaro, kuwedzera kune chirevo ichi, zvakakosha kuyeuka imwe: "Munhu haana simba." Uye zvakasara kwatiri kuti tisarudze kana tokanganwira shamwari pakusava nesimba kwayo.

Shamwari yekare inopfuura mbiri itsva

Chokwadi zvishoma

“Kushandisa pfungwa kunotiudza kuti kana shamwari ikatsungirira kuvapo kwedu kwemakore akawanda uye ikasatisiya, ipapo ingangove inokosha zvikuru uye yakavimbika kupfuura mufambi biyake asina kurongeka ane mamirire ezvinhu etsika anowirirana needu. Nekudaro, mukuita, chokwadi ichi chinoshanda zvakakwana chete kune avo vakanyatsonamira mukukura kwavo.

Muchokwadi, kana isu takabatikana nekuzviziva pachedu, saka isu tinowanzo tongerwa zvachose kana kupotsa zvachose kuchinja denderedzwa redu reshamwari makore mashoma. Zvinova zvisingafadzi neshamwari dzekare, nokuti mushure mezera rakati vanhu vakawanda vanofunga kuti kunonoka kuti vadzidze chimwe chinhu chitsva, kuongorora nyika, vanotoziva zvose.

Muchiitiko ichi, kutaurirana navo zvishoma nezvishoma kunomira kutizadza mumweya uye nehungwaru uye inoshanduka kuita tsika - sekunzwira tsitsi sekufinha.

Ndiudze kuti shamwari yako ndiani ndikuudze kuti ndiwe ani

Wrong

“Ichi chirevo chagara chichiratidzika kwandiri sechipoposika chekunyomba uye kutenga vanhu.

Pandinozvinzwa, ndinoyeuka chinyorwa chemudetembi wekuCanada (Iyi Tsananguro yeMupemhi), uyo akarwara nechirwere chepfungwa, aigara mumugwagwa, nguva nenguva aipinda mumapurisa nepekugara uye akakonzera kutambura kukuru kumhuri yake - uye panguva imwecheteyo. nguva yaive shamwari yemuimbi akangwara uye mudetembi Leonard Cohen, aigara achimubatsira kubuda mumamiriro ezvinhu aya.

Ndedzipi mhedziso dzatingatore pamusoro paLeonard Cohen kubva muhushamwari uhu? Kunze kwekuti akanga ari munhu akadzikama, asingafungi nezvemufananidzo wake wenyeredzi. Isu tiri shamwari kwete chete nekuti takafanana. Dzimwe nguva hukama hwevanhu hunodarika miganhu yese yekuzivikanwa uye hunosimuka pamatanho asingakwanisi kudzorwa nepfungwa.

Shamwari dzeshamwari dzedu ishamwari dzedu

Wrong

“Tsumo iyi yakandibatsira kuyeuka mutemo wekuona chiratidzo chechigadzirwa chenhamba dzakanaka nedzisina mugiredhi rechitatu, asi pfungwa dzagara dzirimo dzinogumira pane izvi. Inobva pachishuvo chekusingaperi chekuparadzanisa nyika kuva chena uye dema, kuva vavengi neshamwari, uye maererano nemaitiro akareruka. Kutaura zvazviri, chido ichi hachizadziswi.

Hukama hwehushamwari hunokura kwete chete pahwaro hwekufanana kwevanhu, asiwo nemamiriro ezvinhu, nekuda kwechiitiko chehupenyu. Uye kana, semuenzaniso, pane vanhu vaviri muhupenyu hwangu, mumwe nemumwe wavo wandakadya pood yemunyu panguva dzakasiyana, izvi hazvireve kuti, kana vasangana mukambani imwe chete, havazosangana nekusemesa kwakanyanya kune mumwe nemumwe. zvimwe. Zvichida nekuda kwezvikonzero izvo ini pachangu ndingadai ndisina kumbofanofungidzira.

Hakuna hushamwari hwechikadzi

Wrong

"Muna 2020, zvinonyadzisa kutaura zvirevo zvezvepabonde zvemuenzaniso. Nekubudirira kwakafanana, munhu anogona kutaura kuti hakuna ushamwari hwechirume, pamwe chete nehukama pakati pevarume nevakadzi, tisingatauri nezvevakadzi vasiri mabhinari.

Chokwadi, iyi ingano. Ini ndinotenda kuti mumwe nemumwe wedu akakura zvisingaenzaniswi uye akaomarara kupfuura jenda redu. Naizvozvo, kudzikisa kuratidzwa kwemagariro kune mabasa echikadzi zvinoreva kusaona sango remiti. Ndakaona zviitiko zvakawanda zvehushamwari hwevakadzi kwenguva refu, kusanganisira kuzvipira, kuzvipira uye kubatana.

Zvinoita kwandiri kuti pfungwa iyi yakavakirwa pane imwe stereotype, kuti ushamwari hwevakadzi nguva dzose hwakatongerwa kuparadzana nemakwikwi, kunyanya, kune varume. Uye iyi ngano yakadzama, inoratidzika kwandiri, chiratidzo chenyika yakamanikana zvakanyanya uye kusakwanisa kuona mumukadzi munhu ane chirevo chekuvapo chakakura kupfuura chishuwo chekuda kutonhorera kupfuura shamwari dzake uye kurova mukomana wavo.

Uye, chokwadika, kudzika uye kugadzikana kwehushamwari hwevarume kunowanzova kwerudo. Kwave kune kunyengedzwa kwakawanda muupenyu hwangu neshamwari dzechirume kupfuura neshamwari dzechikadzi.”