Kutsungirira kusuruvara uye mamwe manzwiro asina kunaka kunogona kuva kwakaoma zvikuru. Manomano ari nyore asi anoshanda, anotsanangurwa nenyanzvi yezvekudya uye munyori wemabhuku nezve mararamiro ane hutano, Susan McKillan, anogona kukubatsira kupfuura panguva yakaoma.
Makore mashoma apfuura, nyanzvi yezvekudya Susan McKillan paakanetsana nemurume wake uye akanzwa kumutsamwira zvakanyanya, murapi akamudzidzisa nzira iri nyore: “Tarisa murume wako uye umufungidzire semukomana mudiki - angori mucheche. Kuona pamberi pako kwete munhu mukuru, asi mwana, unogona kumunzwira tsitsi uye kumuregerera.
McKillan anoti zvakamubatsira chaizvo: zvakava zvisingabviri kunzwa kutsamwa kukuru uye kushushikana kumwana sekunge murume mukuru. Iyi nzira inogona kushandiswa mune humwe hukama hwemunhu, Susan ane chokwadi, nekuti kazhinji inobatsira kuderedza chiyero chekushushikana.
"Ko kana tikakwanisa kuumba pfungwa manzwiro acho?" anoenderera mberi. Zvinoenderana neboka revasayendisiti kubva kuHong Kong Polytechnic, Texas uye Hong Kong Baptist Universities, izvi zvinogoneka uye zvinonyatsoshanda.
Dzidzira Kuona Kusuruvara
Vatsvakurudzi vakabvunza mapoka maviri ezvidzidzo kuti anyore nezvenguva apo vakanga vakasuruvara zvikuru. Vakabva vakumbira boka rekutanga kuti anthropomorphize manzwiro - kufungidzira kusuruvara semunhu uye kuita mufananidzo weshoko. Vatori vechikamu vaiwanzotsanangura kusuruvara semurume akwegura, ane vhudzi-vhudzi ane maziso akanyura, kana musikana anofamba zvishoma nezvishoma akatsikitsira musoro. Boka rechipiri rakakumbirwa kungonyora nezvekusuwa kwavo uye nemhedzisiro yaro pamanzwiro.
Vatsvakurudzi vakazoshandisa gwaro remibvunzo kuyera kusuruvara kwevatori vechikamu. Muboka rechipiri, apo zvidzidzo hazvina kufungidzira kunzwa, kusimba kwayo kwakaramba kuri pakakwirira. Asi mwero wekusuwa muboka rekutanga wakadzikira. Vatsvakurudzi vanoratidza kuti ne "kumutsidzira" manzwiro, vatori vechikamu vakakwanisa kuvaona sechimwe chinhu kana mumwe munhu akazviparadzanisa ivo pachavo. Izvi zvakavabatsira kuti vasazvifananidza nezvakaitika uye kubata nazvo zviri nyore.
Sarudzo yakangwara
Muchikamu chinotevera chekuedza, vatsvakurudzi vakawana kuti nderipi remapoka achaita zvisarudzo zvine hungwaru pamusoro pekutenga - zvakanyanya "kusuruvara" kana imwe iyo iyo yekusuwa yakaderera mushure me "humanization".
Vatori vechikamu mumapoka maviri vakakumbirwa kuti vatange vasarudza dessert: saladhi yemichero kana cheesecake. Ipapo vakakumbirwa kuti vasarudze pakati pemakomputa maviri: imwe ine kugadzirwa kwesoftware kana imwe ine akawanda evaraidzo maapplication. Vaya vatori vechikamu avo vakagadzirisa manzwiro avo vaive mukana wekusarudza saladhi uye komputa inogadzira pane avo vaingonyora nezve manzwiro avo.
Mushure mekushanda nekusuwa, vatsvakurudzi vakaita kuedza kwakafanana, kuedza migumisiro yeanthropomorphizing mufaro. Vakaona kuti manzwiro akanaka akadzikirawo mushure mekunge vatori vechikamu muzvidzidzo vavaita vanhu. Saka nekuda kwezvikonzero zviri pachena, nzira iyi inoshandiswa zvakanyanya kushanda nemanzwiro asina kunaka.
Mikana
Pakupera kwekudzidza, masayendisiti akati akafuridzirwa nekatuni yakakurumbira "Inside Out" yepurojekiti. Manzwiro emwana - zvose zvakanaka nezvakaipa - zvinouya muupenyu ipapo nenzira yevatambi.
Iyi haisiyo yega psychotherapy nzira inokubvumira kuti utarise zvakasiyana manzwiro ako. Nzira yekurondedzera uye art therapy inobatsira kuvakazve kubva pamanzwiro, kuzviparadzanisa kubva pachezvako. Chinangwa chavo chikuru ndechekutibatsira kuti tipfuure nenguva yakaoma uye kurarama nemanzwiro asina kunaka.
Nezve Nyanzvi: Susan McKillan inyanzvi yezvekudya uye munyori wemabhuku ezvekudya uye mararamiro ane hutano.