Ko mwanasikana akarangwa nababa vake achaita sei?

Kanopfuura kamwe chete ndaifanira kushanda - muboka uye mumwe nomumwe - nevakadzi vakarangwa namadzibaba avo muhuduku: kurohwa, kuiswa mukona, kutukwa. Inosiya mucherechedzo usingadzimiki pa psyche. Zvinotora nguva yakawanda nesimba kugadzirisa migumisiro yehasha dzababa.

Baba kumwana chimiro chesimba, simba. Uye kumusikana, baba vake ndivowo murume wokutanga muupenyu hwake, chinhu chinonamatwa. Ndiye uyo kubva kwaari zvakakosha kuti anzwe kuti ndiye "muchinda".

Chii chinoitika kana baba vakamanikidza mwanasikana wavo mumuviri kana kuti mupfungwa? Kufanana nechisikwa chipi nechipi chipenyu, paanorwiswa, musikana wacho haana chimwe chaanogona kuita kunze kwokuedza kuzvidzivirira. Mhuka dzinoedza kutiza, uye kana zvikasashanda, dzinoruma, kukwenya, kurwa.

Musikana angatizira kupi "mudzidzisi" wake - baba vake, vanobata bhandi rake? Kutanga kuna amai. Asi achazviita sei? Achadzivirira kana kufuratira, otora mwana obuda mumba kana kutuka mwanasikana, kuchema uye kudana moyo murefu ...

Hunhu hwakanaka hwaamai kuudza murume wavo kuti, “Bvisa bhandi! Usade kurova mwana!" kana ari munhu kwaye. Kana kubata vana wobuda mumba kana murume akadhakwa uye ane hasha. Hazvina kunaka kana baba vachirova mai vavo vana vachiona.

Asi izvi kana paine kumwe kwekuenda. Dzimwe nguva izvi zvinotora nguva uye zviwanikwa. Kana ivo vasipo, ipapo amai vanoramba vachinzwira tsitsi mwana uye kukumbira ruregerero rwekuti iye, saamai, haagoni kumupa kuchengeteka.

«Dzidzo» ine bhanhire kushungurudzwa kwepanyama, kunokanganisa kutendeseka kwemuviri weganda remwana uye zvinyoro zvinyoro. Uye kunyange kuratidzwa kwebhanhire ndeyechisimba: mwana ari mumusoro wake achazadzisa mufananidzo wekutyisa paanowana bhanhire iri pamuviri.

Kutya kuchashandura baba vave chikara, nomwanasikana muuranda. "Kuteerera" kuchave chaiko nekuda kwekutya, uye kwete kunze kwekunzwisisa mamiriro. Iyi haisi dzidzo, asi kudzidziswa!

Kumusikana muduku, baba vake ndimwari. Yakasimba, zvese zvinosarudza uye zvinokwanisa. Baba ndivo "rutsigiro rwakavimbika" iyo vakadzi vanobva varota, vachiitsvaga mune vamwe varume.

Musikana ane 15 kilograms, baba vane 80. Enzanisa ukuru hwemaoko, fungidzira maoko ababa pane iyo mwana anozorora. Maoko ake anovhara anenge musana wake wese! Nerutsigiro rwakadaro, hapana chinhu munyika chinotyisa.

Kunze kwechinhu chimwe chete: kana maoko aya akatora bhanhire, kana akarova. Vazhinji vevatengi vangu vanoti kunyange kuchema kwababa vavo kwakanga kwakavakwanira: muviri wose wakanga wakaoma mitezo, zvaityisa “kusvika pakubatwa nehope.” Nei zvakadaro? Asi nokuti panguva iyoyo nyika yose ichasarudzirwa musikana, nyika inomutengesa. Nyika inzvimbo inotyisa, uye hapana dziviriro kune akatsamwa «mwari».

Ukama hwerudzii hwaangave nahwo mune ramangwana?

Saka akakura, akava jaya. Murume akasimba anomutsimbirira kumadziro erifiti, anomusundira mumotokari. Chii chaakasangana nacho pauduku hwake? Zvingangodaro: "kukanda mapfumo pasi, zvikasadaro zvichatonyanya kuipa."

Asi kumwe kuita kungashanda. Musikana haana kuputsa: akaunganidza simba rake rose, marwadzo, chido muchibhakera uye akazvivimbisa kuti haazomboregi, kutsungirira zvinhu zvose. Ipapo musikana "anopomba" basa remurwi, Amazon. Vakadzi vachirwira kururamisira, kodzero dzevakatadzirwa. Anodzivirira vamwe vakadzi uye iye pachake.

Izvi zvinonzi Artemis archetype. Maererano nengano, mwarikadzi Artemis anokwikwidza nemukoma wake Apollo mukupfura zvakarurama. Mukupindura dambudziko rake rekupfura nondo, inopfura nekuuraya ... asi kwete nondo, asi mudiwa wake.

Ndeupi hukama hunogona kukura mune ramangwana kana musikana akasarudza kugara ari murwi uye asingabvumiri varume mune chero chinhu? Acharamba achirwa nomurume wake nokuda kwesimba, nokuda kweruramisiro. Zvichamuomera kuti agamuchire mumwe, kuwana zvavanobvumirana naye.

Kana rudo ruchirwadza muhuduku, munhu achasangana ne "rudo runorwadza" mukukura. Pamwe nekuti haazive neimwe nzira, kana "kudzokorora" mamiriro acho uye kuwana rumwe rudo. Nzira yechitatu ndeyekudzivisa ukama hwerudo zvachose.

Chii chichava mukwanyina womukadzi uyo, somwana, baba vake “vakarera nebhandi”?

Kune maviri akajairwa mamiriro ezvinhu: angave achitaridzika sababa, anotonga uye ane hasha, kana "kwete hove kana nyama", kuitira kuti asabate chigunwe. Asi chechipiri sarudzo, tichitonga neruzivo rwevatengi vangu, inorasisa zvakanyanya. Nekunze asina hasha, mudiwa akadaro anogona kuratidza kungoita hutsinye: kusanyatsoita mari, kugara pamba, hapana kwaunoenda, kunwa, kunyomba, kudzikisira. Munhu akadarowo "anomuranga", kwete zvakananga.

Asi nyaya yacho haisi chete uye haina kunyanya mubhanhire. Apo baba vanopedza maawa akawanda vachidzidzisa, vachituka, vachitsiura, “kumhanya” — iyi haisi chisimba chakanyanya kudarika kurohwa. Musikana anoshanduka kuita nhapwa, uye baba vacho kuita gandanga. Haana kwekuenda, uye anotsungirira. Vazhinji vevatengi vangu vakati: "Zvingava nani kurova!" Uku kutukwa, kunowanzovanzarika se "kuchengeta mwana."

Mukadzi anobudirira mune ramangwana achada kunzwa kutukwa, kutsungirira kumanikidzwa nevarume here? Achakwanisa here kutaurirana kana kuti achabva arovera gonhi kuti zvakaitika muhuduku nababa zvirege kuitika zvakare? Kazhinji, anorwara nepfungwa chaiyo yekuratidzira. Asi apo kusawirirana kunowedzera uye kukasapedzwa, mhuri inokombamira kuparara.

kubatana pakati pemhirizhonga uye zvepabonde

Nyaya yakaoma, yakaoma kushanda kuburikidza nemusoro ihochekoche pakati pemhirizhonga yepanyama nekusangana pabonde. Bhandi rinowanzorova kuzasi kumashure. Somugumisiro, zvepabonde zvemusikana, "rudo" rwevana kune baba uye kurwadziwa kwemuviri zvakabatanidzwa.

Kunyara kwekushama - uye panguva imwechete kufara. Izvi zvingakanganisa sei zvaanoda pabonde gare gare? Zvakadini nevanonzwa? "Rudo ndipo parunorwadza!"

Uye kana baba vakasangana nerudo rwepabonde panguva ino? Anogona kutya uye anozvivhara kubva kumusikana nokusingaperi, kana chimwe chinhu chisingaiti. Paiva nemadzibaba akawanda, asi akangoerekana "anyangarika". Musikana "akarasika" baba vake nokusingaperi uye haazivi chikonzero nei. Mune ramangwana, anotarisira kutengeswa kwakafanana kubva kune varume - uye, zvichida, ivo vachatengesa. Mushure mezvose, achatsvaga vanhu vakadaro - vakafanana nababa.

Uye yekupedzisira. Kuzvitemba. "Ndakashata!" "Handina kukwana baba ..." Mukadzi akadaro angakwanisa kuwana mudiwa akakodzera here? Anogona kuva nechivimbo here? Ane kodzero here yokukanganisa kana baba vasingafariri chikanganiso chiri chose zvokuti vanobata bhandi ravo?

Zvaachazosangana nazvo ndezvokuti: “Ndinogona kuda uye kudiwa. Zvese zvakanaka neni. Ndakwana. Ndiri mukadzi uye ndinofanirwa kuremekedzwa. Ndinofanirwa kuverengerwa here?" Chii chaachaita kuti awanezve simba rake rechikadzi? ..